Quote from: Amy T. on March 30, 2008, 12:58:01 AM
Let me be perfectly clear, in my mind you without a doubt need some type of FFS in order not to be read. Makeup is not going to fix the problems that are there. Trans boards at times can be way to nice. I say, it is better to be honest then nice, especially on a board section about FFS and the issues of being read. If being read is an issue to you and your goal is assimilation, seek out a good surgeon. I will leave it at that, because as it stands, you are not in my mind passable.
Its a personal choice, but it is a choice, do you want to be seen as trans or female, because as it stands you will have occasions where you will be read, and I can tell that just from your pictures. You without question fall into the category of necessity for assimilation. Makeup is not going to change your nose or your bone structure, only surgery will. And in your case, both could use some work.
I think in the case of trans boards people are way to nice and often lack honesty, when the case is this can be damaging with regards to everything from employment to social assimilation. I rather have honesty, and in your case if assimilation is your goal seek out FFS, because otherwise somebody will always read you, no matter how much makeup or how long you are on hormones.
Hi Amy, I really do appreciate your honesty. I KNOW I need nose work. I've always hated it. And cost wise the nose is not a
great dea of money. But what else do you see? Would cheek implants help. I think my eyes and forehead are fine. Maybe make
my chin less square? I know everyone is being nice when they tell me I look great for two months HRT (and don't get me wrong...
I treasure those comments) but I really want to get rid of all the male markers. So any advise anyone has is welcome and
not going to hurt my feelings or even make me sad, I know I'm a work in progress.
Does anyone think that HRT will really change that much more? Will it mostly be in the cheek area and fuller face overall?
I've been able to set aside some money for this next year and my plans are the nose and laser for my facial hair. I hate to
do the nose without doing something to the cheeks becuase I've been told it would be a perfect time to do it. And I really
don't want to wait a year to see what HRT does before I have the nose fixed because I know it's not going to do squat for
my nose. I've also been told that chin work could be done at the same time.
I hate to appear so shallow everyone, but passing is a very important thing for me. Being more attractive would be nice but
I'd settle for passing. And apparently I'm not there yet.
Amanda
Posted on: March 30, 2008, 03:21:10 PM
Quote from: Lori on March 30, 2008, 09:43:25 AM
Quote from: Kate on March 20, 2008, 10:54:26 PM
The general rule is to give HRT at LEAST a year... though two is more fair. If you're still being sirred every day, then OK... maybe FFS would make life easier. But two months into HRT is NOTHING. You have a TON of changes coming your way. Contingency plans certainly helped me deal too, but really... consider giving HRT a chance to work it's magic.
Ditto. If you look this good after two months..you have no worries.
I don't know of any women that wouldn't want to change 1 thing...and who knows...maybe you will still want it. You won't really know until enough time has passed with HRT.
Thank you so much Lori!
I know what you are saying about waiting but there are some things that just are not going to change and
I wish I had the will power to wait
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but I can't live 12 more months with my nose
Posted on: March 30, 2008, 03:24:35 PM
Quote from: cindybc on March 30, 2008, 01:48:34 AM
QuoteI'm so excited to think that HRT will just help me get better and better. My thoughts
after reading this are that it scares me that I may not have my hair removal done and be even more feminine looking to the point of
not being able to pull off boy mode.
I love this paragraph.
Hi Amanda hon, give HRT a few more months to do it's work and I will tell ya, if we were both decided to do some sky diving and jumped out of a plane as girls, would we not still be girls when we landed. No there is no going back, and I guarantee you, you will not have any desire to. You may get some results in as early as three more months where you will feel and see a softening of your facial skin.
Cindy
Thanks Cindy, it seems like time is standing still these days. I guess everyone goes through this, looking for changes, not seeing
and and wanting to take steps to "fix things".