I am never shocked anymore that people belive the outlandish or the 'tongue-in-cheek.' I am astounded that people accept whatever they read on a BB though.
If in doubt, check it out.
Jennifer, I know women with trans-histories do sometimes feel that the 'b,' 'c,' and 'w' words are sort of esteem-raising. It's one of my most pet peeves with the 'community.' I'm sorry if you even felt it was meant as a slap. Just a reminder, I hope.
I don't find insulting and demeaning terms to be validating to any degree at all. But, I also didn't mean to disparage you or anyone else in the process. I find all of those terms disgusting and don't use them.
Nor do I find them any more redeemable than 'Nazi' or that other 'n' word once and currently used about African-Americans. I find some words just too fraught with historic nastiness that they don't salvage.
Nichole
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