gender traits whats male/female/androgyne about you?

[Seshatneferw]

Let's see.

My soul is mostly female, I think.
My body isn't all that miserable, even though it is way too male.
My intelligence is mostly of the ivory tower variety, with a smattering of common sense and fix-kids'-bikes kind of technical aptitude thrown in.
My emotions have just started to show again, having been repressed way too long.
My sexual preference is for any combination where there's a woman involved.
My clothing passes as male.
My romantic preference is female.

Now, what's here that makes me androgyne? Being able to live with the first two points, perhaps.

  Nfr

[PolarBear]

My soul is neither male nor female
my body is female
my intelligence is both male and female
my emotions are mostly female
my emotional response is male (try to hide it)
My sexual preference for women
My clothing is male
my romantic preference is to be treated as a male, mostly.

As for masculine and/or feminine traits, I don't really believe in that. I respect anyone with the strength to stand their ground, male or female. I get irritated by arrogance, whether it comes for a man or a woman (or an androgyne).


Cheers,
PolarBear

[RebeccaFog]

my emotions are mostly female
my emotional response is male (try to hide it)


Cheers,
PolarBear

Interesting distinction between emotions and emotional response.

[Simone Louise]

I feel really stupid trying to fill out Rebis' list; I can't write out a simple list. The very first term, soul, I have great difficulty defining, so please bear with me.

Soul (using the definition--"a person's moral or emotional nature or sense of identity"): my moral soul embodies justice tempered with large doses of compassion and a strong desire that those I come in contact with be well-fed and allowed to work out their own destiny. Emotions are covered under another head. My identity hasn't changed since I was twelve. I am unsophisticated (and uncomfortable in the presence of sophistication).

Body: My body is that of an adult male. It continually surprises me. I get bruises because I think it is smaller than it is. I am amazed and delighted to be able to do my job at UPS (kinda like the hero of Big). I have learned to let my body function sexually and to enjoy the result.

Intelligence: For me, intelligence is another name for intuition. I know an answer is right; then, I have to struggle to figure out why it is right. Often, I come up with answers without taking into account societally accepted answers. For instance, when I got my first wrist watch, I tried it out on both wrists, and decided wearing it on the right wrist made more sense--never noticing that the rest of the world wore them on the left.

Emotions: Whether through nature or conscious aim, my emotions are muted. Good news excites me slightly; bad news upsets me slightly. I cry over chick flicks, but not in real life. Some people say I smile a lot; from time to time, my wife is sure that I am depressed or, perhaps, demented, or hard of hearing.

Sexual preference: I prefer strong, intelligent women who neither wear makeup nor pierce their body. I prefer to be with a friend who is a girl.

Romantic preference: I am a romantic, in the sense: "idealist, sentimentalist, romanticist; dreamer, visionary, Utopian, Don Quixote, fantasist, fantasizer". I am uncomfortable with such things as a romantic candlelit dinner, lingerie, or jewelry.

I leave the decision as to which traits are identified with which gender, if any, to the reader.

S

[Pica Pica]

My sexual preference is for women, who would treat my male figure as their woman

Good luck with that.  Best be saving up for a *meow* then. Just keeping it real, ginger.

No, best just find the right woman


And Simone, you sound lovelier each time you type.

[Nero]

like i said, good luck with that. you want a woman who wants a woman. newsflash - lesbians like pussy.
and any straight girl is going to want you to be a man.

[Pica Pica]

i'm looking for a woman who wants to play the masculine role, not quite the same thing

[Nero]

no straight woman is going to want a 'woman' in the bedroom. and you sure as hell ain't gonna get no dyke.

[Pica Pica]

so its all a bit knotted and confused, many things are

[Nero]

i'm just keeping it real with you. time for you to live in the real world, not your little androgyne utopia.

[Pica Pica]

why? doesn't seem to cause anything but pain to anyone else. I'm quite happy in my bubble and while I've been their I always have been.

[Nero]

sure just don't expect others to share it.

[Shana A]

OK, I'll try.

I don't believe that souls have genders, so my soul is non gendered. That said, I feel more female or androgynous than male.

my body is male I'd prefer having female secondary characteristics but am dealing the best I can with what I got.

my intelligence is a bit geeky/brainy. I like to read, have a deep understanding of music theory. I can be somewhat analytical at times. I'm also very intuitive, and when improvising music, am more in tune with that side than the analytical. I have a witty sense of humor, and pun often.

I believe that to experience great joy, one needs to be able to also experience sadness and pain. I've often been better at feeling sadness and depression in certain periods of my life. My emotions aren't gendered, they're simply a wide range of emotions that all humans feel.

my sexual preference is for my partner I have had both wonderful relationships and crappy ones with people of any gender. With few exceptions, I am friends with most of my ex lovers.

My clothing is a mixture of male and female... sometimes more male because of work, would much prefer the other way around.

My romantic preference tends toward other androgynous people, there's just something beautiful about people who express the full gender spectrum. So I get along particularly well with masculine females or feminine males.

Zythyra

[Simone Louise]

My sexual preference is for women, who would treat my male figure as their woman

Good luck with that.  Best be saving up for a *meow* then. Just keeping it real, ginger.

No, best just find the right woman


And Simone, you sound lovelier each time you type.

Ah yes, the lovely and talented Simone, blushing demurely, thanks you for noticing.

I believe you stand a good chance of finding the right woman. Let's see, if you were looking for that one-in-a-million woman, in a population of one billion you'd find a thousand of them. You're just looking for an androgynous woman (whether or not she self-identifies as such). Or rather, you just want to be open and available to be found and courted by one of those thousand women. We've talked about an androgynous dating service, but you don't need one. You just need to believe in your dreams and live your life that way. That's not pollyanna-ish. You will fail, and the world will beat you up--happens to most everyone. Still, as those loyal to the Red Sox Nation say, Believe!

S

[Nero]

My sexual preference is for women, who would treat my male figure as their woman

Good luck with that.  Best be saving up for a *meow* then. Just keeping it real, ginger.

No, best just find the right woman


And Simone, you sound lovelier each time you type.

Ah yes, the lovely and talented Simone, blushing demurely, thanks you for noticing.

I believe you stand a good chance of finding the right woman. Let's see, if you were looking for that one-in-a-million woman, in a population of one billion you'd find a thousand of them. You're just looking for an androgynous woman (whether or not she self-identifies as such). Or rather, you just want to be open and available to be found and courted by one of those thousand women. We've talked about an androgynous dating service, but you don't need one. You just need to believe in your dreams and live your life that way. That's not pollyanna-ish. You will fail, and the world will beat you up--happens to most everyone. Still, as those loyal to the Red Sox Nation say, Believe!

S

And I want to rule the world, doesn't mean it's going to happen. And I want to win the lottery, so I'll waste my time dreaming it's going to happen when I have a one in a billion chance.

I learned a long time ago that we do a grave disservice when we don't keep it real with our friends. Sometimes all the citizens of Bubble World need is a little pinprick.

[Shana A]

i'm looking for a woman who wants to play the masculine role, not quite the same thing

I've always been attracted to strong independent women, even from long before I was aware of my androgyne nature. And these women always seemed to appreciate my non-male attributes. I believe there's the right someone out there for everyone.

You'll find hir Pica!

Z

[sd]

no straight woman is going to want a 'woman' in the bedroom. and you sure as hell ain't gonna get no dyke.

Straight is a relative term, especially in this case. He is still male bodied, therefore it would be considered a straight relationship. More than that, there are so many fetishes in the world, I don't think you can honestly say that. Would it be a strange relationship, maybe, but for some it may be their dream (a bi woman's dream? best of both?)

There is someone out there into anything you can think of. Will Pica find that person, who knows. Maybe that person does not even know that is what they want, or maybe they will find they like it.

If there is one thing I have learned on the internet, when it comes to sex, ANYTHING goes.
I don't think what Pica is after is impossible to find.

I am with Z, some women like those traits.




Actually Nero, I'm surprised/disapointed at your response to this. Non-op and post-op TS seem to find people of straight and gay persuasions, I don't see how this would be any different really. Peoples sexuality is not all black and white.

[Lokaeign]

I'm a female-bodied person who's played girly dress-up games and games where a male-bodied and generally male-identified person is in a female role.  It's admittedly not a particular fetish of mine, but I've had some fun times that way...

[buttercup]

The traits I look for in a male, very masculine looking, tall and totally secure within himself.
Now on the other hand, I like very feminine looking women, but with masculine type of personalities too. 
Basically I like strong people I suppose, secure, know what they want types who don't play mind games. 
I'd say I'm attracted to these types because I am basically insecure and don't know what I want, lol.
I'm trying to fill a void.  Its so hard to really click though with someone, and at the same time. 
As insecure as I am, I still don't like being put in a cage, I've been there too many times before and its not worth it, so I'll just have to sit it out and wait for the 'right' one to come along....if ever.     


To answer the question, 'gender traits whats male/female/androgyne about you?'

I am still very androgynous looking, but more tipped to female, so I'm safe *phew*, I have many female characteristics as I've been told and observed in myself, but there are still some male tendencies that I have not discarded.  I like to choose my partners and not be chosen, I'm not clingy and can be quite cut and dry within relationships.  I'm probably a better friend than lover. I'm the best damn girlfriend anyone could ask for, lol. 

[PolarBear]

my emotions are mostly female
my emotional response is male (try to hide it)


Cheers,
PolarBear

Interesting distinction between emotions and emotional response.

Well, I got the "emotional response" idea from Kikly. Which I found a very good idea, since emotions are really not the same as how you deal with them.
Yeah, I can get very emotional over the smallest things, but can only express those emotions when I am alone or with a select few people.