Do you keep it real on here? Or do you tell peeps what they want to hear?

[Shana A]

I always tell the truth, I have no reason to lie about my life. Both here and in person.

Z

[Eva Marie]

I always tell the truth, I have no reason to lie about my life. Both here and in person.

Z

same here, although I don't mind being challenged by someone on something i've posted. makes me have to stop and think, and I usually learn something in the process.

The threat of the same makes me stop and think thru what i'm about to post. Hopefully i've kept my level of crap posts here to a minimum 

As a newb here on the board I don't yet think i'm in a position to go around burning down people's straw men, and being new to GID i'm not even for sure i'd recognize a lot of them in the first place 

[Ell]

Do you keep it real on here? Or do you let peeps go on in blissful ignorance of reality?

i don't know about the expression, 'keepin' it real'
it's so 1999...
oh yeah, and i always have to do my pimp walk when i'm sayin' it.
ya know what i'm sayin'? yo

i think a lot of street slang is quite far from reality, and irritating to the ears and sensibilities.

I just love it when you pimp-walk out from under your rock and spout a gem, ellie!!

Thank you sweetie!

[cindybc]

It's ok Elli hon, when the storm hits, you are welcome to hide under my rock with my critters and I. I got big critters and little ones and their all furry and lay on their backs and mewl and grin at you like a cheshire cat when you pet them. "hee, hee, hee."

Well at least there is a sample of some stuff I write. 

Cindy

[NicholeW.]

Do you keep it real on here? Or do you let peeps go on in blissful ignorance of reality?

i don't know about the expression, 'keepin' it real'
it's so 1999...
oh yeah, and i always have to do my pimp walk when i'm sayin' it.
ya know what i'm sayin'? yo

i think a lot of street slang is quite far from reality, and irritating to the ears and sensibilities.

I just love it when you pimp-walk out from under your rock and spout a gem, ellie!!

Thank you sweetie!

I have this wonderful mental image of you struttin down the sidewalk scaring small animals and children and leaving the guys trembling in your shadow!!

I thought you were more ummm, under, so to speak than that. O my!! Mistress Ellie emerges!!!

Hugs,

Nichole

[Nero]

Oh yes, THE MISTRESS has indeed emerged!

[Laura Eva B]

I'm always 100% honest be it with my "carers / medics" or the forums I subscribe to ....

Know so many who go "through the process" who lie through their back teeth ....  ....

WTF .... if I were lying it would invalidate the whole point of my being here ....

After all the reason I remain on forums is to seek resolution of certain internal conflicts and maybe help others along the route ?

Laura x

[NicholeW.]

Of course in 'keeping it real' does anyone find that easier to do with other people than to be able to 'keep it real' with one's self?

The Curious Feminist Goddess of Spring,

Nichole 

[Nero]

Of course in 'keeping it real' does anyone find that easier to do with other people than to be able to 'keep it real' with one's self?

The Curious Feminist Goddess of Spring,

Nichole 

About the same difficulty, actually. Probably my biggest fault is that I can never hide the truth about myself from anybody including me.

[Suzy]

What does it mean to keep it real?  I don't tell people what they want to hear.  But I do exercise a lot of self control, and refrain from commenting on a number of things.

Kristi

[findingreason]

As real as I can (since I don't what's real or not at the moment), saying the things on my mind, since I am trying to still figure myself out.

[Ell]

I have this wonderful mental image of you struttin down the sidewalk scaring small animals and children and leaving the guys trembling in your shadow!!

I thought you were more ummm, under, so to speak than that. O my!! Mistress Ellie emerges!!!

Hugs,

Nichole

*smiles shyly*


Posted on: May 15, 2008, 11:03:58 AM

Oh yes, THE MISTRESS has indeed emerged!

Watch it, you.

[lisagurl]

Of course in 'keeping it real' does anyone find that easier to do with other people than to be able to 'keep it real' with one's self?

The Curious Feminist Goddess of Spring,

Nichole 

It is actually easier to keep it real within one's self. There are no excuses everything is our doing. To make other's understand is a lot more difficult to do, you have to speak their language.

[findingreason]

Of course in 'keeping it real' does anyone find that easier to do with other people than to be able to 'keep it real' with one's self?

The Curious Feminist Goddess of Spring,

Nichole 

It is actually easier to keep it real within one's self. There are no excuses everything is our doing. To make other's understand is a lot more difficult to do, you have to speak their language.

I grew up on the belief of "Pleasing others", I worried I was never good enough for the rest of the world. When I realized it was what I want and believe that is important to me, and that everything in my life was created by me (Law of Attraction), it made things a little easier. Though, I still struggle.

[Alyssa M.]

Of course in 'keeping it real' does anyone find that easier to do with other people than to be able to 'keep it real' with one's self?

The Curious Feminist Goddess of Spring,

Nichole 

I've spent my life building up the gossamer layers of artifice that constitute my identity; I'm not even really sure at this point what "keepin' it real" with myself would mean. I'm working on that. Since I'm hardly capable of making reliable judgements about myself, I try to avoid judging others at all.

[NicholeW.]

Of course in 'keeping it real' does anyone find that easier to do with other people than to be able to 'keep it real' with one's self?

The Curious Feminist Goddess of Spring,

Nichole 

It is actually easier to keep it real within one's self. There are no excuses everything is our doing. To make other's understand is a lot more difficult to do, you have to speak their language.

I think, as you can see from subsequent comments, Lisa, that not everyone has the same optimism you do in regard to 'being honest with one's self.'

I think we often 'fool' ourselves about where and why and how we do things, say things and how we view the world.

Normally, in my experience, people see others better than they see themselves. It's a sfaety thing, one learns to read others because one see's them outside herself and they may be able to do her harm in some fashion. Or, my investment in what X is doing, how she looks, etc, may not be quite as much as it is for myself.

I think most of us have difficulty accepting that we sometimes behave badly, think irrationally and lack good emotional connection with others. To "[build] up the gossamer layers of artifice" around one's sense of self until there is a nice, thick cocoon doesn't seem like an unusual action to me.

I think we all do it to lesser or greater extents. I've never seen anyone who isn't subject to that, myself included. Although I meet a lot of people who deny they do so.

Nichole

[cindianna_jones]

One of my dear friends assessed my book in these terms:

"I can see how you saw things the way you did."

She was with me during some of those darkest times in my life. Obviously she disagreed some with my perspective. But we are all different aren't we?

We all experience many negative and positive things in our lives.  I try to deal with the negatives and propound the positives.  So yes, you will get more Captain Crunch from me versus liver and onions.  I don't mean to sugar coat.  But I will put a more positive spin on things.  Sometimes that positive spin actually helps me deal with the negatives.

Cindi

[cindybc]

As an empath it is easy to feel another's feelings and thus the old saying is, "try walking a mile in their shoes" before you make a judgment of them. It works quite well.

Cindi, hon, working with other folks was how I found who truly resided within me.
It is the human nature factor for all of us to interpret and come to an understanding of a certain concept, then to come out with a different conclusion, who's right and who's wrong?

Cindy

[Alyssa M.]

I can do empathy. Judgement is still a problem. I don't trust my own decisions in life most of the time, so how can I judge other people's decisions, even knowing pretty well what they are going through?

[Steph]

Keep it real.....?

I only express my own reality after all it's the only reality I know and that I could consider myself to an expert on.  I'm open to a fault, much to the chagrin of my family at times, but then I have nothing to prove either.  I am who I am and that's the way I tell it and it's up to the reader to take what they need and discard the rest as "So much rhetoric."  I also think that we all have been guilty of trying to push or "Strongly express" opinion at times but if we can't believe in what we believe, then who else will believe us.

As with any forum we will always inject a little bit of our own personality into our views, it's only natural, and I know that regular members soon catch on to others members way of thinking and their beliefs and the way they express themselves.

That being said, I would encourage all new members to read everything they can that is presented here by forum members as what is good for the goose is not always good for the gander.

Steph