Quote from: lisagurl on May 15, 2008, 11:50:00 AM
Quote from: Nichole on May 14, 2008, 08:53:26 PM
Of course in 'keeping it real' does anyone find that easier to do with other people than to be able to 'keep it real' with one's self?
The Curious Feminist Goddess of Spring,
Nichole
It is actually easier to keep it real within one's self. There are no excuses everything is our doing. To make other's understand is a lot more difficult to do, you have to speak their language.
I think, as you can see from subsequent comments, Lisa, that not everyone has the same optimism you do in regard to 'being honest with one's self.'
I think we often 'fool' ourselves about where and why and how we do things, say things and how we view the world.
Normally, in my experience, people see others better than they see themselves. It's a sfaety thing, one learns to read others because one see's them outside herself and they may be able to do her harm in some fashion. Or, my investment in what X is doing, how she looks, etc, may not be quite as much as it is for myself.
I think most of us have difficulty accepting that we sometimes behave badly, think irrationally and lack good emotional connection with others. To "[build] up the gossamer layers of artifice" around one's sense of self until there is a nice, thick cocoon doesn't seem like an unusual action to me.
I think we all do it to lesser or greater extents. I've never seen anyone who isn't subject to that, myself included. Although I meet a lot of people who deny they do so.
Nichole
