Post for 2GregoriTrue

[MarcosGirl]

Inga,
      I would have posted back to you in my original thread, but I was afraid it would get lost in the shuffle.  I read Gregori's introduction and I really feel for you guys.  I didn't read his other posts, so I'm not totally sure why the chance for hormones, surgery or therapy is not possible.  The advice that I can give to you is just keep letting him know you love him and are there for him no matter what.  From my experience with Marco (my FtM S.O.), before he was considering sex reassignment surgery, he didn't really like hearing that I love him just the way he was.  He couldn't understand that, because he couldn't stand the way he was, and being the way he was, was like we were in a same sex relationship and that really bothered him.  Let him know that you see him for the man that he is on the inside.  Ask him to share with you the image he has of himself (if he hasn't already), and just keep assuring him that you see him that way too.
      Thank you so much for your offer to "listen" when I feel destructive.  The same goes for you.  I am on this forum everyday, you can even send me a personal message, and I will respond within a day.  I think you will find a lot of great support and love here.  I know Marco and I have.  Welcome to Susan's!!

Take care,
Pam

[Dennis]

What I really love about you SO's who stick with your partner is that you seem to love the person they are. When my partner dumped me (15 minutes after I told her), all I could think was wow, it obviously wasn't me you loved. Ever. Made the whole relationship feel like a fraud.

Dennis

[2GregoriTrue]

Pam, I apologize to you for highjacking your post.  I am generally more polite than that but I admit my mind is not where it used to be.

Thank you Pam, Kelly and Dennis for your replies to me.  Your kindness is overwhelming and I wish so much I could stay but for reasons I cannot say, I cannot. 

I truly have no problem with Gregori's gender issues and my biggest problem is that he's not happy.  He's losing himself, and because of that I'm losing him too. 

Kelly, I tell him all the time I love him.  So much so that I think sometimes I say it so much it doesn't mean anything to him anymore.  He says it does.  I have the number of a councellor to call.  I promised to do it today but forgot I had several appts and wasn't home most of the day.  Will make it a priority to call tomorrow.

Dennis, I do love Gregori.  Would love him if he was a 10 ft tall chartruse gorilla.  Doesn't matter.  I love him for who he is.  I dont look like I want to look either.  Heck, sometimes I dont act like I want to act.  Gregori is Gregori to me, and I hope you find, or have found someone to love you like that.  I bet you're a really special guy.

Tearfully turns and smiles...
Thank you and take care,
Inga

[angelsgirl]

If you're still able to read this, Inga, please take good care of yourself.  I will keep you and Gregori in my thoughts and prayers.


Posted at: July 03, 2006, 07:12:59 PMDennis- Sorry to hear about that. If you really think about it, she did you favor.  You could've been stuck in that "fraud" a lot longer, but now you're free to find someone that really does love you for you.

If it makes you feel any better, I already knew about Jocelyn before I asked her out, so maybe that'll happen for you as well.  It seems like it made everything a lot easier knowing ahead of time what we both could be in for, you know?