Quote from: Chrissty on July 06, 2008, 03:14:59 PM
I've decided to risk some negative reputation here !
A decidedly poor way to begin a post.
Is it a dare? A wish? A ploy to attempt to get someone to give negative rep so you can say "I knew it?"
Beginning by asking for a negative result is to tempt it. English Writing 101: "don't ask people to tear you apart." Never a good idea for anyone.
In fact, akin, imo, to walking into a pub and calling out for a fight to any bloke there who's willing. Something that, in light of the next sentence, is terribly ironic.
Quote..I must be missing something, but I'm just finding all this female activist talk very Macho.
I take it you don't take to "female activists?"
Any particular reasons why? To have "female activist talk" for me is to have human talk. A talk that from the perspective of "intersectionality" or the way I found my therapy-work,
relational-cultural theory: an understanding that many people play both dominant and subordinate roles in many aspects of their lives, embarces all human beings, not simply women. The black man, the white woman, the transsexual of either sex or any ethnic group are all intersected by different forms of conditioning.
To focus on only on the aspect of my life that is/was transsexual is to ignore a vast array of areas that also affect my life: woman, mother, partner-lover, student, worker, thinker, speaker, friend, father, aquaintance, moderator, sister, ex, stranger, caucasian American, southern American, ex-military, ex-chef, ex-fundamentalist Christian, pagan, Mother's daughter, former male-gendered, etc. To hold myself out as only transsexual, as you may see, severely limits the range of my own being. It denies parts of me that I would lose to my own crippling if I were to ignore or deny them, see any as less than any other.
QuoteI realise things must different in the USA from a law and culture point of view, but in in the UK I am having difficulty in
seeing anything I want to fight to change. OK, there are still some significant disparities but we've already had a female
Prime Minister, and many of our laws are now set up to protect the female in society, employment, and health.
Perhaps, but it seems to me that Brits are composites of many different individual aspects as well.
QuoteI want to transition to adopt my inner gender, to fit into a role I feel is my nature, and not to set about changing it get parity
with my birth sex.
I have a family, and I would give my life for my childern and their future hapiness. My female soul will contine to watch me rip myself apart
until it feels there is a chance of acceptance in transition. The day is nearing, as my children are growing older and we are beginning to
discuss love and gender issues together.
It the last 20 years I have grown to realise that it's the same female side preventing me transitioning, that is generating the basic need.
This is simply because I care so much for those around at such a deeply emotional level, I will always put their needs above my own until
such a time as I feel I can limit the damage I will cause.
I came to this site because so much of what you all discuss is to further the cause of the transgendered, which to me is a much more
beautiful and noble cause than feminism.
I have already made it to the front pages of the nationals before on a different subject, and have paid the price.
My basic plan is therefore one of stealth with what is left of my life.
Chrissty
And is there any of that life, those decisions, that you feel less about or would change?
Perhaps that's why you barged into a discussion and felt you could toss a couple of things out that very much could be read as insulting and could very well have caused a brouhaha: because you knew that sisters wouldn't bash another sister regardless of what she said about us? Because, finally, I think women, androgynes, and men, do get your frustration, do get that you find the things we have been talking about here not important to you. And for those very good reasons, I just don't think you are likely to see a smite, Chrissty. Your opinion is yours. I honor that and the path that led you to that opinion.
Why would any of us bash a sister when she spoke her own mind, from her own perspective, even if the "Macho" barb she tried to cast was possibly meant to hurt and possibly to try to "guilt" someone into stopping their conversation?
How does any of us lower the rep of someone who has struggled and only wants to rest, to be herself? I think you will find that every woman, man and androgyne who has posted on this thread only wants that: the opportunity to be themselves. That is the goal of feminism: not a false and enforced equality, but a clear and honoring understanding of and respect for difference in groups, individuals, the entire universe. One is not better than another, but neither is one the same as any other.
The goal, my dear, is the liberation of us all, and the ability for us each to see that to honor the other's journey is to honor my own journey.
It's not about %of MPs or % of legislators, % of w, x, y & z in a work-force, or at the club. It's about recognizing our common humanity and understanding that what moves one isn't better than what moves another in most cases, it's simply different in some cases. We can all live healthily and peacefully with that.
Mother's Peace go with you, luv,
Nichole
