Men's Room? No Biggie.

[Joseph]

What? Trans guys who don't want to look like guys? Now I'm TOTALLY lost.

Joe, cut your hair, man. Do it for you. Besides, if you wear eyeliner, you'll pass as a girl when you need to. For serious.  I know a gay guy who totally looks like a dude when he ain't got make up on.

Haha... see the post I just put in the "Doctors" thread for explanation.  (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,39428.msg257251.html#msg257251)

Besides, I can't stand makeup.  Actually I've never worn makeup...I can't even stand the thought of putting on lipstick, much less things like eyeliner.  Yeah I've contemplated getting my hair cut short in a way that could still be interpreted as female when necessary... but, I guess I'm afraid of proving that I have gender issues to people who already suspect it.

Joseph

[Lachlann]

I don't know, man... you shouldn't worry so much about what others are going to think. No matter what you do, they're going to think what they want to think. I know its hard to not worry about it, but I don't think its worth it. Its your life, not theirs and if they can't accept that then why should you have to please them?

In high school my hair was short, in a boy's cut. No one questioned me. My last year of high school there was a rumour I was a lesbian and it had nothing to do with my appearance, but because I had never had a boyfriend.

Whatever, it was a stupid reason to think someone is a lesbian. I couldn't control what they thought and it just wasn't worth my time... I figured that I should only care about the people close to me when it comes to what they think... and if they're truly thinking for whats best for me.

[Elwood]

What? Trans guys who don't want to look like guys? Now I'm TOTALLY lost.

Joe, cut your hair, man. Do it for you. Besides, if you wear eyeliner, you'll pass as a girl when you need to. For serious.  I know a gay guy who totally looks like a dude when he ain't got make up on.

Haha... see the post I just put in the "Doctors" thread for explanation.  (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,39428.msg257251.html#msg257251)

Besides, I can't stand makeup.  Actually I've never worn makeup...I can't even stand the thought of putting on lipstick, much less things like eyeliner.  Yeah I've contemplated getting my hair cut short in a way that could still be interpreted as female when necessary... but, I guess I'm afraid of proving that I have gender issues to people who already suspect it.

Joseph

Transition should be about you, not what other people think.

I have to wear make up. I'm an actor. Every manly man you see on the big screen is wearing some sort of foundation.

Posted on: July 20, 2008, 10:20:42 AM

I don't know, man... you shouldn't worry so much about what others are going to think. No matter what you do, they're going to think what they want to think. I know its hard to not worry about it, but I don't think its worth it. Its your life, not theirs and if they can't accept that then why should you have to please them?

Seriously. And besides, I'd rather be a ->-bleeped-<- than have people assume I'm a butch dyke.

[trapthavok]

In high school my hair was short, in a boy's cut. No one questioned me. My last year of high school there was a rumour I was a lesbian and it had nothing to do with my appearance, but because I had never had a boyfriend.

Same thing happened to me, cept I had long hair (which I always kept in a ragged ponytail). I got called a lesbian because I never really talked to people, dressed in baggy clothes, and never had a boyfriend Happens to the best of us

I'm sure the smell isn't that bad. I mean, I've seen the women's bathroom in horrible condition in most places I go. So it was most likely just because of the little boys causing a mess in the bathroom I had to clean up. And you're right, its only for a couple of minutes anyway.

Sometimes I feel like I could argue some women's restrooms smell worse XD Two words: Menstruation Cycle 

[Elwood]

Yeah. I've never been in a men's room that smelled like hot blood.

[Suzy]

Well, FWIW, I've had a lot of those jobs in my younger days when I had to clean both rest rooms.  Overall, the women's was cleaner than the men's.  But, when a women's room gets bad, it can be the worst thing of all.  When spoiled girls decide to trash one, look out!

Kristi

[NicholeW.]

I was helping out at my church, cleaning the bathrooms... walked into the men's room and it smelt so bad I have to pull my shirt up to my nose. But its the bathroom that the little kids use the most, that might be why.

OK, guys, I'm gonna apologize for this beforehand and then say it. I'm sorry,but I always thought that the men's room was the one the "little kids" always use! >

Nichole

[sneakersjay]

I guess I'm afraid of proving that I have gender issues to people who already suspect it.

Joseph

I hear ya.  I'm the most private person there is.  And transitioning means having to expose my most private self publicly just in order for me to be ME.  But it's something I have to do as I transition because there will come a time in the near future where I will legally change my name and gender markers and my employer will have to know.  I can't put off transitioning until I'm ready to quit there (2-3 more years) as I need the money and health insurance.

Jay

[Lipstick Lez Liz]

My partner ( a butch woman) uses her "pea-shooter" in the men's room all the time. No biggie but we do live in the Bay Area where attitiudes are more liberal than most anywhere.

[Elwood]

I was thinking of getting a plain caphiter (not the ones that look like dicks) to use, because it would be faster/easier than always putting my butt on the seat. But I just don't know where I'd put it. I need one that's rubber and can be stuffed into a pocket or something.

[Dizzy]

It smells like piss and there's urinals on the wall. Oh, and there aren't little garbage cans in the stalls for pads and girly stuff.

Glorious, glorious piss! All this worrying, this whining, this anticipation for a pissy floor and a trough to pee in.

Hahaha... you are so right! I hold my breath everytime I go into the one at work cause it smells bad and its a corporate office! Remember to keep your laces tied near the unrinals don't want em touching the floor.....  Congratulations!!

[JonasCarminis]

I was thinking of getting a plain caphiter (not the ones that look like dicks) to use, because it would be faster/easier than always putting my butt on the seat. But I just don't know where I'd put it. I need one that's rubber and can be stuffed into a pocket or something.

this what youre looking for?  http://www.thetransitionalmale.com/ftmutube.html

[Kat89]

What? Trans guys who don't want to look like guys? Now I'm TOTALLY lost.

Joe, cut your hair, man. Do it for you. Besides, if you wear eyeliner, you'll pass as a girl when you need to. For serious.  I know a gay guy who totally looks like a dude when he ain't got make up on.

I always had this question and i never found out why are the men's room always the same in a way?

Modified: I wanted to relate to the topic since it went a little off =D

[Chrissty]

Sorry, guys...but I though I 'd better just issue a warning about two locations not to visit..

1) Building sites ~ The net result of lots of beans and eggs ~ Highly combustible!...

2) Porta-loos ~ What do guys do when there's no loo paper or hand towels ~ Don't even think about it!...

...of course not that I'd know anything about.....

Chrissty

[hizmom]

i have to say i really appreciate
the pointers as we have no IRL
resources to help us get things right!!

so i guess the counsel i next give my son
when public washrooms are to be utilized....
act like you belong there to do your business
and then move along ...
AFTER you wash your hands, laddie!

[Elwood]

I was thinking of getting a plain caphiter (not the ones that look like dicks) to use, because it would be faster/easier than always putting my butt on the seat. But I just don't know where I'd put it. I need one that's rubber and can be stuffed into a pocket or something.

this what youre looking for?  http://www.thetransitionalmale.com/ftmutube.html

Ah, that seems ideal.

[trannyboy]

I think the word you are looking for is catheter but do you really want to stick something in your urethra each time? Or do you mean what Elwood posted?

->-bleeped-<-boy

[Elwood]

Thank you for the spelling correction.

No, no. I mean an external catheter. But I don't want it to look like a dick, really. Just because that takes up too much space. I want something small and portable that doesn't sit in my pants all day. I'd feel the need to wash it after using it and I think washing a dick in the sink would be a little weird.

[trapthavok]

Yeah but it might be weird to wash a tube in the sink after you use the bathroom too. 

Just sayin'

[noxdraconis]

I use the stalls and just wipe my stp down with a bit of toilet paper, just to keep it dry.