I went so far as to email my folks who live a couple thou miles away, asking to talk to them both this weekend. I was planning on coming out.
The problem is, I just heard a recording of my voice. I sound like a girl.
In order to avoid sounding like a joke from Black Adder, I'm gonna wait awhile. Their boundaries aren't great, and they seem to think they still have the right and responsibility to weigh in on things like my religion or whether I'm married to Tetanus (i am but not legally). And when I say weigh in on, I mean bludgeon me with their opinions, welcome or otherwise. They're also judgemental, classist neoconservatives, so i don't expect this to go well in the first place. If i do it now they will guilt my process (fraught enough) and think they can talk me out of it.
So I sent an email saying, "Cancel that." I'm not coming out to them until I have seen a counselor and doctor... I am hoping to take T after all (again, the voice thing alone? Holy crap!) and I want some time for things to feel more solid between Tetanus and myself, as well (including counseling if necessary). Until then, I'm just going to have to deal with having a secret.
any other things people suggest checking off before coming out to them?
