Getting a feminine haircut as a guy

[findingreason]

Hi everyone,

I was just thinking, my hair needs trimming soon (it's been over 3 months ), and I don't want to do anymore guy style cuts. I need to experiment at this time, and I was wondering, if it would be safe to go to the barber shop, and ask for a feminine hair cut? Would society look at me really funny, or something? Or, do you think androgynous style would be better?

[daisybelle]

Take a picture of something you would like if possible now, or at least where you could be soon.  I would go to a salon, preferably get a nice woman, and tell her what you want.   I have something of a BOB cut that is just below the ears -- I love it--- but needs just a little more length.   I want to be able to tuck the forward hair behind the ears...

Pretty cool -- let me know how it goes.

Daisy

[sarahb]

That's exactly what I did before going full-time. I first called to make an appointment and told them that I was looking to get a feminine haircut. "No problem," was her reply. When I went in I told the stylist that I wanted a feminine haircut, and I even went so far as to tell her why, and she became even more bubbly and went to town. She proceeded to give me a big hug before I left.

I say go for it. Screw what society thinks. It's just hair, right?

[Robin_p]

After the first week having it. You get over what other's thinks!

I have had my hair done up since march of this year.

I cheated a bit last year by wearing a scarf.  When march came peope would say i didnt know you had your hair like that. .

[Laura91]

I had my hair cut recently and I didn't even get to open my mouth before I was asked "what kind of cut do you want ma'am?". I just told what I wanted and that was it.

[cindybc]

Well before I came out I always trimmed my own hair myself. My hair was half way down my back which is now down to lower back. I have always went to hair stylist to get my hair styled. Many men prefer to go to hair stylists then a barber shop. The nail place I go to now with Wingwalker style our hair and they also do men's hair. Hair stylists do men's and women' hair both in most places if not all.

Cindy

[findingreason]

Maybe I can do it this weekend  .

Only worry, very few of my SO know my secret, so they'd probably be wondering why I have a girly haircut, so I wonder what to do there... Maybe, using something to slick my hair back will hide it  .

By the way, to see a stylist, how much money should I prepare to shell out on average?

[Elwood]

You'll want to go to a salon or something. Barbers do men's cuts.

[cindybc]

Hi, Findingreason,

Wing Walker tells me that a new styling can cost around $25.

Trimming the ends and bangs with a shampoo and blow dry is about $15.

She also told me that you shouldn't worry about having see that you are changing to a femme hairstyle as it will take months for it to grow enough for anyone to question it.

Tips:  If there is a woman who does your shampoo and another who cuts your hair, WW usually tips the shampoo girl $2 as a courtesy (she isn't overpaid) and the stylist $5 or more, depending upon the magic she works.

I didn't know the prices personally, I just go get it done then admire it in the mirror afterwards and WW pays the bill. 

Cindy

[FallenLeaves]

I have kind of thought about this as well. Right now I am pretty happy with my hair though (see avatar). It can certainly be done up in a very girl way but I believe it is still probably a guy's cut. I told my last stylist what I wanted and there was no real questions about it. I just went with Regis in the mall, 22 dollars I believe.

[findingreason]

Thank you cindybc and FallenLeaves for the info there on prices. Now I have an idea of what to expect.

I'm just wondering though, my hair is running down my neck, and in my eyes easily if I let it, but it isn't long on the sides where my ears are (it covers my ears though), so I wonder if it is long enough yet to do anything, or if I should wait a while longer for more hair growth.

[Annwyn]

I live in the deep south and I can, with a straight face, just tell the barber to give me a chick's haircut.  I don't see any problems w/ it.

[FallenLeaves]

Thank you cindybc and FallenLeaves for the info there on prices. Now I have an idea of what to expect.

I'm just wondering though, my hair is running down my neck, and in my eyes easily if I let it, but it isn't long on the sides where my ears are (it covers my ears though), so I wonder if it is long enough yet to do anything, or if I should wait a while longer for more hair growth.

Sounds just about the same length as mine. I went in and basically just asked for a trim and that's what I would recommend for you. Getting it blended and the dead ends trimmed etc. is usually a good idea. I probably got less than 1/2 an inch off. The avatar is my guy style and you can go one thread down to see how it worked out for me in a more girlish style. Not the best probably, I just let my GF try a few things and that is the one we thought looked best. If I had shoulder+ length hair I have no doubt I would pass much better as female, but as a guy there are a lot less options to look decent. In high school I had hair past my shoulders and on more than one occasion I was referred to as she or in cases of people that knew I was male sometimes asked if I were gay.

[findingreason]

Yeah, I was thinking just a trimming, to clean it up too (a lot of split ends), and something better looking too it. Gosh, hair takes too long to grow .

[Kaitlyn]

Tell me about it.  I've been growing mine for six months, and the back is just reaching the shoulders.  I think the sides stopped growing completely.  I don't know much about long hair, or how biogirls take care of theirs, so I don't know what I should do with it.  I'd love to get a really feminine cut, but I don't know if I've got enough hair in the right places.

[findingreason]

I've been letting mine grow since my final buzz cut last winter. Occasionally it got trimmed, so I think that's why it isn't very long yet. I swear though, you cut 1/2 inch off, and it starts growing like a weed!

[Kaitlyn]

Really?  I've heard that before, that having it trimmed makes it grow faster, but I always thought that was a myth.

Anyway, how does that work?  I just go to a stylist and say, "trim it"?  I mean, up 'till March, I'd gotten the same haircut every since I was little.  I don't know how girls (or anyone) go about these things...

[findingreason]

Yeah, I've been told it's a myth too, but I swear, my stops growing almost sometimes, I get it cut, and boom!

I don't know either, when I had it trimmed, it was still guy's cuts, but now this would be my first time going beyond that, so I'm new to it too.

[Inamorata]

Getting a feminine haircut as a guy:
I always did that from about the age of 12 onwards and I always had my hair quite long all the way through 

[jixe]

I cut mine most of the time, for the past 4 years now, its usually, full fringe with a medium or shorter bob-esque cut, looks very girly, moreso depending on how or in which direction the hair is styled.