Thanks again everyone for the replies and insights. You're all being so good to me
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We talked over dinner tonight. It appears we still had some communication issues that caused some tangled and hurt feelings.
Dani felt that I meant that she needed to basically be ready for full time before starting hormones and I can see how she interpreted what I said that way. That's not what I meant and I had more success explaining that I just wanted her to have some experience so that not everything was "new" when she walked out the door as female. Once Dani realized what I meant, she was in agreement on this. *Whew!*
She also admitted that she hasn't done much future planning because she thought that I wasn't ready to talk about it yet. I thought she understood I was ready for the next steps. Once we ironed out that yes, I am ready to talk about future stuff and what comes next, talking got a lot easier.
So we're still ironing out communication issues, it seems.
I did have to directly ask her about when her therapist appointment was though. I'd have thought she'd be caroling from the hills about it
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Ah, well. She did say she felt out of sorts with me after talking last night, so I suppose I can forgive her. It's mid-September.
So I feel less like a Mean Mom now and more of a partner again. Yay! (I don't wanna be a mom!)
The big obstacle now is the fact that I don't have a job. Without a job it hampers us moving to our own place, which hampers Dani really doing anything. *sigh* I hate feeling like I'm holding her back, even though I'm not doing it on purpose and she isn't blaming me.
Things are looking up
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