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How do I even start to tell my family? Advice needed

Started by Jeatyn, November 27, 2008, 09:19:20 AM

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justme

im glad to hear the 1st one went well. good luck telling the rest.
i know i when my spouse(husband) told me the he is mtf i was suprised but she told me both ways in letter and in person because when she 1st told me was in person and i didnt want to talk about because i thought it was a joke until i read the letter.
good luck
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Jeatyn

So I just told my brother

he's totally cool, he was like

"ok...sweet bro" and gave me a fist bump  :P

2 down, 2 to go (in this house)

The scary one is my sister
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iFindMeHere

Quote from: Dawni on December 01, 2008, 12:56:54 PM
So I just told my brother

he's totally cool, he was like

"ok...sweet bro" and gave me a fist bump  :P

2 down, 2 to go (in this house)

The scary one is my sister

sweeet! may you be pleasantly surprised by the 3rd!
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Alyx.

Quote from: Dawni on November 28, 2008, 02:00:12 PM
I wrote a letter, dumped it on her bed, she wrote one back and handed it to me just now

"im happy for you, you know what you want and need, im here to help, won't tell no one promise xxx"

Success!  ;D

I feel so much better already
Wow...

That's soooo much better then my parents...
If you do not agree to my demands... TOO LATE
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Jeatyn

I'm so happy ^_^

I prepared for the worst, and it couldn't have gone better so far!

Like I say though, my two sisters are the scary ones.

Nina I think will accept it....just maybe not quite understand it

Lindsey is disapproving of every minuscule thing I do, so I'm not looking forward to telling her at all. But I don't care so much....as I live a good 2 and a half hour drive away from her
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Alyx.

Quote from: Dawni on December 01, 2008, 01:11:13 PM
I'm so happy ^_^

I prepared for the worst, and it couldn't have gone better so far!

Like I say though, my two sisters are the scary ones.

Nina I think will accept it....just maybe not quite understand it

Lindsey is disapproving of every minuscule thing I do, so I'm not looking forward to telling her at all. But I don't care so much....as I live a good 2 and a half hour drive away from her
Yeah, my sister's like that too...

I'm considering not telling her at all, it's so bad...
If you do not agree to my demands... TOO LATE
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iFindMeHere

Quote from: Dawni on December 01, 2008, 01:11:13 PM
Lindsey is disapproving of every minuscule thing I do, so I'm not looking forward to telling her at all. But I don't care so much....as I live a good 2 and a half hour drive away from her

You know, that's how my mom is. I took some advice from a more experienced guy in my local community and pretty much laid things out as "the way it is gonna be" and it went better than it might have. Of course I also waited till I didn't really care what she thought of it anymore.... I just needed to get it off my chest.

One thing I've heard some guys say to their families is "this is part of who i am. if you want me in your life you're goinng to have to accept this." or along those lines.
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Jeatyn

Quote from: Heartwood on December 01, 2008, 01:16:05 PM
Quote from: Dawni on December 01, 2008, 01:11:13 PM
I'm so happy ^_^

I prepared for the worst, and it couldn't have gone better so far!

Like I say though, my two sisters are the scary ones.

Nina I think will accept it....just maybe not quite understand it

Lindsey is disapproving of every minuscule thing I do, so I'm not looking forward to telling her at all. But I don't care so much....as I live a good 2 and a half hour drive away from her
Yeah, my sister's like that too...

I'm considering not telling her at all, it's so bad...

I might do the same, but once I start HRT, if I ever visit she'll wonder what's going on. It'll be way more awkward like that XD
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Alyx.

Quote from: Dawni on December 01, 2008, 01:18:22 PM
Quote from: Heartwood on December 01, 2008, 01:16:05 PM
Quote from: Dawni on December 01, 2008, 01:11:13 PM
I'm so happy ^_^

I prepared for the worst, and it couldn't have gone better so far!

Like I say though, my two sisters are the scary ones.

Nina I think will accept it....just maybe not quite understand it

Lindsey is disapproving of every minuscule thing I do, so I'm not looking forward to telling her at all. But I don't care so much....as I live a good 2 and a half hour drive away from her
Yeah, my sister's like that too...

I'm considering not telling her at all, it's so bad...

I might do the same, but once I start HRT, if I ever visit she'll wonder what's going on. It'll be way more awkward like that XD
Yeah. XD

Me: Erm, hi Caitlin! What? Why am I talking like this, and why do I have boobs? Ummm... It's a secret! :eusa_shifty:
If you do not agree to my demands... TOO LATE
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Jeatyn

It's not so bad for ftm's

So you cut your hair, oh ok

That's pretty much it XD
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Alyx.

Quote from: Dawni on December 01, 2008, 01:28:01 PM
It's not so bad for ftm's

So you cut your hair, oh ok

That's pretty much it XD
Yeah...

You look totally like a boy in your avitar... I can't see a girl AT ALL.

And I tried my best... XD
If you do not agree to my demands... TOO LATE
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iFindMeHere

Quote from: Heartwood on December 01, 2008, 01:22:26 PM
Quote from: Dawni on December 01, 2008, 01:18:22 PM
Quote from: Heartwood on December 01, 2008, 01:16:05 PM
Quote from: Dawni on December 01, 2008, 01:11:13 PM
I'm so happy ^_^

I prepared for the worst, and it couldn't have gone better so far!

Like I say though, my two sisters are the scary ones.

Nina I think will accept it....just maybe not quite understand it

Lindsey is disapproving of every minuscule thing I do, so I'm not looking forward to telling her at all. But I don't care so much....as I live a good 2 and a half hour drive away from her
Yeah, my sister's like that too...

I'm considering not telling her at all, it's so bad...

I might do the same, but once I start HRT, if I ever visit she'll wonder what's going on. It'll be way more awkward like that XD
Yeah. XD

Me: Erm, hi Caitlin! What? Why am I talking like this, and why do I have boobs? Ummm... It's a secret! :eusa_shifty:

ROFLCOPTER
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Jeatyn

Quote from: Heartwood on December 01, 2008, 01:32:30 PM
Quote from: Dawni on December 01, 2008, 01:28:01 PM
It's not so bad for ftm's

So you cut your hair, oh ok

That's pretty much it XD
Yeah...

You look totally like a boy in your avitar... I can't see a girl AT ALL.

And I tried my best... XD

I assumed you were a bio-girl when I first saw your avatar, before I saw your thread with the photos in.

Just imagine us after HRT  ;D
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Alyx.

Quote from: Dawni on December 01, 2008, 01:45:35 PM
Quote from: Heartwood on December 01, 2008, 01:32:30 PM
Quote from: Dawni on December 01, 2008, 01:28:01 PM
It's not so bad for ftm's

So you cut your hair, oh ok

That's pretty much it XD
Yeah...

You look totally like a boy in your avitar... I can't see a girl AT ALL.

And I tried my best... XD

I assumed you were a bio-girl when I first saw your avatar, before I saw your thread with the photos in.

Just imagine us after HRT  ;D
Yeah, I can't wait! :D
If you do not agree to my demands... TOO LATE
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Jeatyn

I text my sister while she was out today, just got a reply

I sent this:

"im taking this opportunity to text you this while you're out because i suck face to face. just gonna be blunt! you may not be entirely surprised since the haircut. I'm trasgendered. I've sort of always known deep down. The reason I asked for a doctors apointment is so i can go i for gender therapy and hormone treatment. Clare and Carlos already know. Yes...im totally serious =P"

the reply:

"you idiot. im your sister and i love you. what ever makes you happy my little sis. thats all i want is for you to be happy. and hoover up...lol. it don't change anything xxx"



Excellant result  ;D the only thing that could have made it better is if she called me "little bro"  :P

and also not reminding me about my chores, but oh well  ;D

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iFindMeHere

Quote from: Dawni on December 02, 2008, 04:11:11 PM
I text my sister while she was out today, just got a reply

I sent this:

"im taking this opportunity to text you this while you're out because i suck face to face. just gonna be blunt! you may not be entirely surprised since the haircut. I'm trasgendered. I've sort of always known deep down. The reason I asked for a doctors apointment is so i can go i for gender therapy and hormone treatment. Clare and Carlos already know. Yes...im totally serious =P"

the reply:

"you idiot. im your sister and i love you. what ever makes you happy my little sis. thats all i want is for you to be happy. and hoover up...lol. it don't change anything xxx"



Excellant result  ;D the only thing that could have made it better is if she called me "little bro"  :P

and also not reminding me about my chores, but oh well  ;D

*BROHUGS* AW MAN THAT IS AWESOME. 4 for 4 right?
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Jeatyn

Quote from: iFindMeHere on December 02, 2008, 04:36:03 PM
Quote from: Dawni on December 02, 2008, 04:11:11 PM
I text my sister while she was out today, just got a reply

I sent this:

"im taking this opportunity to text you this while you're out because i suck face to face. just gonna be blunt! you may not be entirely surprised since the haircut. I'm trasgendered. I've sort of always known deep down. The reason I asked for a doctors apointment is so i can go i for gender therapy and hormone treatment. Clare and Carlos already know. Yes...im totally serious =P"

the reply:

"you idiot. im your sister and i love you. what ever makes you happy my little sis. thats all i want is for you to be happy. and hoover up...lol. it don't change anything xxx"



Excellant result  ;D the only thing that could have made it better is if she called me "little bro"  :P

and also not reminding me about my chores, but oh well  ;D

*BROHUGS* AW MAN THAT IS AWESOME. 4 for 4 right?

my nephew doesn't know yet, but I know he'll be fine with whatever I do.

Now it's just outside the house I need to tell

my oldest sister is the scary one XD
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Janet_Girl

Well at least the household is on board.  That must be a relief.  As for the big bad scary sister,  What could she do?

You will be fine, Dawni.   Big Hug for the Big Guy.

Janet

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