Props to you, Emme. Harsh, maybe so, but sometimes lots we need to hear also seems very harsh when we hear it. It's just the way of things.
It hadn't occurred to me that the originator was a CD. Perhaps that man, or many men, obviously not all as one sees and reads the love and care of tekla and others for their children, making the thread may have taken a bit more lightly things that ... well ... just don't seem all that light to women. I hope, now that I realize that ... ... I hope that the originator meant well, meant some harmless smirk. But just the thought ... the possibility ... always there that my babies are gone ... forever ... while I sit in ashes pleading to join them ... it's not good thoughts ... not something I can make a joke about ... and not having carried them, at least one ... also not a joke.
We often fail to connect with one another: one's humor is another's horror ... so, it would be nice to think that the effort was merely the best one could do and nothing more than lack of realization, experience and a misunderstanding of implication was the vortex of the questions.
I feel understanding today. *sigh* and now a bit ... contemplative.

Nichole