Bully

[Anisha]

I am almost finished with my high school and will start college in June...I was thinking as a boy in college since i am very weak and dont have any muscle.What if someone will bully me?I cant even do self defence?I want to be more strong but dont want to have manly muscle or go to gym...My body is pretty like a girl and is very weak...Its like if a girl fights with me then it will be an equal fight...I just wanted to be strong without getting masculine body...Any suggestions??

[je]

.I was thinking as a boy in college since i am very weak and dont have any muscle.What if someone will bully me?

They bully people in college? I know I sure as hell got a TON of that in middle school but not college.

I just wanted to be strong without getting masculine body...Any suggestions??

You got to pump some iron if you want to get the chiseled and ripped body.

[deviousxen]

I am almost finished with my high school and will start college in June...I was thinking as a boy in college since i am very weak and dont have any muscle.What if someone will bully me?I cant even do self defence?I want to be more strong but dont want to have manly muscle or go to gym...My body is pretty like a girl and is very weak...Its like if a girl fights with me then it will be an equal fight...I just wanted to be strong without getting masculine body...Any suggestions??

Protip: Don't go to a bigoted college setting.

[Janet_Girl]

Mace.  And if it isn't available in your country.  A squirt gun with rubbing alcohol and indelible ink.  Aim for the eyes.  Hurts like hell and leaves a mark that is more or less permanent.

Janet

[burgandy]

Where're you planning on going to school?  Are you going to live in the dorms?  In my limited experience, college campuses tend to be rather tolerant places, at least during daylight hours.  Dorms can be a little bit scarier -- crazy drunk people and all -- but when I lived in the dorms, the only person I saw have any trouble was the Creepy Promiscuious Bi Guy, and the worst he got was some ->-bleeped-<- talked behind his back.

If you're really worried, you should consider investing in a good pair of steel-toed boots or shoes.  Make sure they're comfortable, or you'll never be wearing them when you need them.  If you're assaulted, let your assailant get close to you, then aim for the shin with everything you've got.  Just don't use them unless it's *absolutely* necessary; the last person I kicked (middle school) was black and blue for more than a month.  (He'd grabbed my butt.)

Enjoy college -- is there a GBLT group on campus?

   - Burgundy

[V M]

I am almost finished with my high school and will start college in June...I was thinking as a boy in college since i am very weak and dont have any muscle.What if someone will bully me?I cant even do self defence?My body is pretty like a girl and is very weak..

College is usually were people out grow the bullying thing. As far as self defense, Tai Chi is a very graceful form that doesn't require being particularly strong. Of the martial arts that I have studied it seems to be the most graceful. You can defend yourself with out putting on a tough guy routine.

[Kallisty]

I am almost finished with my high school and will start college in June...I was thinking as a boy in college since i am very weak and dont have any muscle.What if someone will bully me?I cant even do self defence?My body is pretty like a girl and is very weak..

College is usually were people out grow the bullying thing. As far as self defense, Tia Chi is a very graceful form that doesn't require being particularly strong. Of the martial arts that I have studied it seems to be the most graceful. You can defend yourself with out putting on a tough guy routine.

Me, I'm more partial to Aikido.  But seriously, the college part should be something that you should look forward to My advice?  Just go in, enjoy it, find new friends (easily enough done), and just avoid the bigger jerks - it's not terribly hard, trust me.

But I would suggest either Tai Chi or Aikido, especially if the school's "physical fitness" complex actually has classes for it.  The subsidized cost is great and you get to make a whole bunch of friends in the class.  When you are doing the same katas over and over again, you just can't particularly hate your dance partners

Laura

[V M]

I would suggest either Tai Chi or Aikido,

Laura

Or try both out and see what you like best. I ended up combining parts of a few dif. forms and developed my own

[barbie]

Around the world, bullying in most cases could not be seriously punished in elementary or high schools, but college is different. College students are adults, not minors any more, and fully responsible legally for what they do.

I also had same experience since my childhood. That kind of bullying rarely happened to me after I entered college. Muscle power is not so much usefeul in modern societies. Probably this may explain increasing trend of M2F ->-bleeped-<-? I am not quite sure.

Barbie~~

[tekla]

I spend a fair degree of my life on college campuses and I never saw the kind of bullying that you are talking about.  Intellectual bullying, that I saw every day, but the physical stuff, never.  Turns out that while you are in college the real bullies are pumping gas, asking people if they want fries with that or drifting and drinking their live away.

And Its like if a girl fights with me then it will be an equal fight you are going to find that's not always true either.  I know some pretty tough mamas.

[Mr. Fox]

Turns out that while you are in college the real bullies are pumping gas, asking people if they want fries with that or drifting and drinking their live away.

Or, at least where I live, going to OSU (Woo!  Party college!)  But you probably don't want to go to college in "The Boring State" anyway.

[Bethany W]

I think itd be kinda kinky to get bullied by a female. I used to get bullied by girls when I was little. One in particular was really bad.

[V M]

Uh oh, get out the whips and leather. Call me madam!!! Now!!! Kersnap!!! 

[Maebh]

Aikido was developped as a mean of self-defence by pacifists Buddhist monks. It doesn't involve any srength or violence from your part. It is the art or dodging, and redirecting the violence of your agressor against him or her.
Wit is also a great way of shutting up bullies and expose their deepest fears. Virginia Marie's suggestion of the leather clad mistress routine would be a good exemple of it.

HLLL&R
Maebh