Extremely new FtM, hoping to make some awesome friends here

[CodyJess]

I know, hey? Like, why didn't (the proverbial) "they" tell me it was so much better without fat-sacks in the way?!? And speaking of "why didn't 'they' tell me..." how about boxer briefs? Could they *be* any more comfy? I sure don't think so...

Oh man, seriously. Now if only they had 'XS' in the men's section, I wouldn't have cashiers thinking I have a son at home! 

So, I came out to my mom last night...

You're lucky, it's wonderful that she was so understanding and sensical about it. I'm still terrified of going to my mother; she took it hard enough when I introduced her to my girlfriend. She spent years and years of my life trying to 'teach' and 'train' me how to act 'appropriately'... Ah he he... *hides*

[GamerJames]

Your mother sounds like a wonderfully insightful person. Either that, or you're just very obvious...

I'm glad she's being supportive. If I came out to my mother, she would probably cut me off for life--if I hadn't cut her off first, that is. (At least my brother is being pretty cool about it. It must be kind of weird to have a long-lost "sister" suddenly pop up after twenty years and come out as a gay transman.)

By the way, you could use either James or Braedon as a middle name. Or even a last name.

She is a lot more insightful nowadays. My family has been through a lot over the past few decades and only these past few years have we all started being able to live life and be happy. I think that is why my family is very "whatever makes you happy" because we've all lived through much worse than the little things that a lot of people get bent out of shape over.

I wish everyone could have a mom like mine, and I'm really sorry that so many of you have come up against such conflict in trying to come out to your family. It's really hard, because I want to just enjoy my good fortune and the positive upswing my life has been taking these past few years, but I care about you guys and I feel badly for what many of you have had to go through.

I hope that sharing my successes doesn't bother you guys. Let me know if you want me to just shut up.

Oh man, seriously. Now if only they had 'XS' in the men's section, I wouldn't have cashiers thinking I have a son at home! 

See, the awesome thing for me is that I'm average size for a guy, so for once I'm buying mediums in everything instead of always feeling like a fat cow because of trying to fit into what's average for girls (which makes me an XL in most brands, especially since I hate clingy stuff... ugh). I'm not fat, perse. I'm just "thickset". I have a little flab here and there, but overall I'm just "stocky", so it's been really rough on the ol' self esteem being told that I'm "plus-sized" for so many years. It's nice now to see myself as a medium, which feels much more appropriate for my body type.

[Arch]

I'm really sorry that so many of you have come up against such conflict in trying to come out to your family.

Fortunately, I will never have to worry about this unless my mother dies before my father. Which ain't too likely to happen. But other trans people...some parents never do seem to accept them.

And, BtW, I always like to see people's positive experiences posted here. Enthuse away!

[CodyJess]

See, the awesome thing for me is that I'm average size for a guy, so for once I'm buying mediums in everything instead of always feeling like a fat cow because of trying to fit into what's average for girls ...
... It's nice now to see myself as a medium, which feels much more appropriate for my body type.

We're different sizes, yes; but I had exactly the same feeling when I went in to buy shirts the other day. I was able to pull down what looked like it should fit well on my body, and lo and behold: it fit. Now if everything else'd just fit so well as the shirts...   

I hope that sharing my successes doesn't bother you guys. Let me know if you want me to just shut up.

Nono! Please, keep sharing them. It's wonderful to know someone has found so much joy and relief in something. I for one look forward to coming here for just that reason; to see where others are succeeding and finding happiness. (cheesy, yeah, but whatever )