I spoke with our HR manager today after not getting to see her for a few weeks. Corporate actually had gotten back to her very quickly, only she was keeping that from my manager for confidentiality purposes. Apparently, the plans in place are basically for the employee to tell management what they plan to do and work from there.
"So I pretty much have to make the whole thing up myself"
"Yes. The only thing though, is when you eventually start to wear womens' clothing and dress like a woman and look like a woman, which you don't, you're very clearly male right now, you will have to use the ladies' room. Obviously right now you would upset people by being there."
Yeah... about that.
If my coworkers tell customers I'm a he, they usually ignore it
I've had several people ask me what my real name is
Or tell me I don't look like a boyname
They've asked me if I'm my manager, who is a woman
Every time I use the mens' room I either confuse coworkers, get comments from them, or freak customers out and have to have the awkward "You're in the right one, sir" conversation.
I heard a customer saying "Sir, sir" to another coworker and instinctively answered. He stared at me confused.
Nearly every manager in my area has dealt with a customer who referred to me as female
One of the most common things I hear from couples is "She knows so much more than that first guy did."
I get sirred on the phone once every couple of months - upon meeting me in person, the most recent guy who did that told his wife that the nice lady had already set everything up for him.
I've been crossdressing at work for over two years already, I wear 3/4th sleeve flared waist blouses every goddamn day.
Back in the spring before I was on HRT, a coworker passed around a pair of polaroids contrasting my backside to that of a female coworker's and polling people if they thought it was the same person.
And several people told me they kept mistaking her for me.
I don't wear makeup. I don't wear jewelry. I wear a straight back pony tail with my imperfect hairline. I wear slacks and button down blouses. I've only been on E for 2.5 months, and until the last half month, was nowhere near the right level. I live in goddamn Texas. I wear a boy's name plastered on my torso. I work a man's job with no female coworkers. I wear an A cup bra and I don't even wear a bra at work, with a tight undershirt under my shirt.
I don't pass every single time but holy crap I'm stacking the deck against myself in every way except voice and body language alone and spend 30, 60+ minutes consulting people and couples and get she and her the whole time 5 days a week. One thing that I've learned is that some people do not speak with pronouns so it can take them 40+ minutes of conversation before they use them. Not every person who doesn't give you a ma'am or a sir is confused about your gender.
HR and most of my coworkers apparently, see none of any of that.
This should probably be in PMS.
