Quote from: Maggie Kay on October 07, 2009, 06:07:01 PM
I found the test results to indicate that on the tests, I scored very female but on teh overall I scored male.
Same here, but I'm thinking my nearly complete (and somewhat surprising) failure on the eyes misjudged me. (Well, nearly acing the spatial stuff probably had something to do with that, too, but a life of video games is bound to have that effect on a person.)
I can't track a trend leading to this or a single event that triggered this, but up until sometime around high school, I had no issues with maintaining eye contact with people as I spoke or listened. I greatly preferred to do so, actually. But after that point, it's been very difficult. For whatever reason, I started feeling very vulnerable when I'd make eye contact, like I'm experiencing some super-awareness that everything that goes in my head when I'm looking at someone is indeed going on in theirs, and then I panic and avert my eyes.
So, for nearly half my life, I've regularly conversed looking away or past the other party. Despite this, I still get accurate reads on the emotions of others by relying on tone, expression, stance, the oh-so-important "vibe," etc.
Over the last few months, as I've started reconnecting with myself, I've made some progress on this, and it makes me glad. I WANT to look people in the eye, without fear, anxiety, or apprehension, like I did when I was younger. But for now apparently, I'm very rusty at reading eyes alone.
