Hows things, everyone. I've just come across this forum after typing "how to explain genderqueer" into google and I'm pretty much hoping it's going to turn into somewhere where I can actually express myself without small minded people trying to tell me what I am and what I am not.
I've been becoming increasingly frustrated with the fact that even the people I care most about and even the people I know who should be intelligent enough to understand what I'm saying to them, can't understand what I mean when I say that I don't want to identify as either male or female. In the past year, I've heard, "But you're a girl!" from my friends too many times to count. It doesn't matter to them that strangers come up to me in the street and ask whether I am male or female, or that I use boys toilets without a glance, but get yelled out of girls toilets, or that I get called "son" "sir" and "mate" wherever I go, or that there have been people I've seen regularly who didn't realise I was biologically female until months after I met them. And it seems to matter to them least of all that I actually LIKE that, and that I DON'T WANT to identify as female. It's very very frustrating and recently it's started upsetting me as well, particularly because the person I care about the most has asked me to dress more feminine and has told me that if I ever decided to identify entirely as male, they wouldn't be attracted to me anymore. The second part isn't much of a problem, because I don't think I'll ever progress from genderqueer to FTM, it's just the fact that someone so intelligent could be so narrow minded, and that her attraction to me, at the end of the day, really IS based on gender.
I'm pretty much at a loss at the moment. I'll try to explain myself, but people will always have more questions and roll their eyes at my replies.
