Has anyone ever had suspicions about you before you transitioned?

[Sara91]

I can't say I've had any real ones, though I had a scare once when I really didn't know what I wanted for my Birthday, and my Mum was like 'Sex change?'. Now, this was at a point in my life where I was going through a pretty rough time, as a young adult, and I was sure she'd found out and was testing the waters. To this day I'm pretty certain it was coincidence but it wasn't a fun moment.

The only other thing is a few of my female friends have said I should CD for Halloween a few times because I look 'right' for that sort of thing. Naturally I totally wimped out.

Anyone had any situations like this, or ones of more serious natures?

[K8]

When I came out to my family and childhood friends, I was greatly disappointed at least one of them didn't say: We always knew there was something odd about you.  Of course they knew there was something odd about me, they just didn't think it was because I'm TS.

When we are trying to hide something - anything - we often see hints that people have found out where in fact they didn't.

- Kate

[Hannah]

I tried to cut my privates off when I was 6, and for some reason that didn't raise any alarms.

Nobody has really been suspicious per se, but nobody has been surprised either. My ex boyfriend always suspected, because I didn't fit into the gay community very well at all and apparently I didn't interact with him the same way his past significant others had. He wasn't the least bit shocked and seemed amused with me (for a while anyway). One person said "well that explains a lot" and another said "I knew it". Well gee, why didn't anybody tell me.

[K8]

One person said "well that explains a lot" and another said "I knew it". Well gee, why didn't anybody tell me.

When I came out to one of my friends, I went through this routine of leading up to the big announcement and finally said: I'm transgendered.  She immediately shot back: I know.  It threw me off my rhythm, and I too wondered why she hadn't told me.

- Kate

[Janet_Girl]

When I was about 20 or so I made dinner for my forks and my uncle.  I really liked to cook when I have a dencent kitchen to work in.  I had made a mock apple pie for dessert.  After dinner, during coffee and pie, my uncle made the remark "Someday you will make someone a wonderful wife".     You have to understand that I wasn't having a bad bout with GID at the time.

We laughed it off.  But that night I dreamed that I was exactly that.  A wonderful wife to a great husband and I had children.  Needless to say I woke more confused than ever.



Janet

[V M]

People have told me I was a girl since childhood.....Often using less then polite terms and suggestions 

[gothique11]

Yeah, a lot of people did -- family of course 'cause I've been saying it since I was young and I tried to cut my privates off, too. Friends, weren't surprised at all.

[michael 19 jones]

well... my family new since I was very little. Something going on about me stealing my older sister's clothes  . Mostly her tops and skirts but chosen to ignore it.

My closest friends were just waiting for me to come out to them. Actually, one of them beat me to the punch and finished my sentence for me, sense I was driving and needed to focus on driving. that was a funny day in its self.

[Hannah]

I tried to cut my privates off, too

Woot, let's make a club!

[FairyGirl]

most of my friends were not surprised, and more than one told me they were wondering when I would figure it out lol

[Bellaon7]

There was this Mexican guy at work that looked me straight in face & started laughing, dead serious. There could be no other reason than 3yrs of hrt. I wasn't out to any at that point. I get him, sometimes you gotta laugh at the absurd. No offense to Mexican men, I've dated one. 

[Just Kate]

I was called "gay" by many people growing up.  Even when I tried to put up my masculine facade, those who knew me before told me that they could see right through it.

When I finally came out, my friends' parents unanimously "knew" I'd come out sometime, as either gay or transsexual - they had suspected it ever since they knew me.

I think the most affirming moment was when I came out to my mom.  I was so frightened what she would think as she had caught me dressing as a young child and often corrected my gender-inappropriate (overtly feminine) behavior.  When I came out to her, she hugged me and told me, "I always knew... I always knew.  I will miss my son, but I always knew I had a daughter."  I wish she were still alive; I miss her even more now.

[LordKAT]

Does it count that most people thought I was a guy unless family or school told them otherwise?

[Cindy]

When I came out to the rest of the family at a dinner party my wife and I held. My sister in law just said, I've known that for years. Brother in law, we've known what? I was of course fully dressed to introduce them all to Cindy.


Cindy

[jesse]

my daughter has busted me with clear nail polish and once asked do i have a gay father lol my middle daughter is lesbian and wants to mary a girl shes been with since high school runs in the family here lol
jessica
Post Merge: November 19, 2009, 03:46:29 AM
wife however is religous zealot who will probably kill us all in the end...win some lose some
jessica

[Northern Jane]

Pretty much everybody where I grew up knew I was "different" but back then, the 1950's, nobody knew what it was - not boy, not gay, but not "normal female" either. I doubt anybody was surprised when I disappeared in 1974 for SRS. A lot of people probably thought, "So THAT'S what it was!"

[Naturally Blonde]

Yes of course! When people knew I was transitioning no one was surprised.

[Autumn]

Heh, I played a lot of WoW back during the worst times of my GID. A new guy who joined our guild asked a friend of mine "Is <autumn's male character> a girl?" She answered "Ask her yourself." And for my birthday she sent me a horrible book about a school for cross dressing. When I came out to her she had a mixture of heavy laughter and huge apologies. It was funny.

Before I really started transitioning I met a girl in our social group and ended up spending the night snuggling up with her. She was saying there's something about me and after a while I told her the truth. And she laughed and went "I KNEW IT! My brain was telling me to treat you like a girl and it was driving me crazy. I KNEW I WAS RIGHT!" And then we went to breakfast and got "ladies" the whole time. It was nice.

Random friend of a friend who I ended up spending all night having a ridiculously down to earth conversation about life with told me he'd guessed I was trans because of my voice.

I had one doctor think I was FTM when she first saw me. And I saw my mother's physician assistant a few months ago - she walked in and said "You're not Malename. (Yes I am) OH! Oh good, I thought I'd gone into the wrong room again" [then I came out to her because I needed blood work] "Oh THANK YOU for telling me, I was so confused. I actually thought you were when I met you last year but I didn't want to say anything in front of your mother."

Of course.... the christian girl I fell hard for didn't work out well. Her family labeled me as gay or trans and banned me from her life.

[Hannah]

Oh good, I thought I'd gone into the wrong room again

lol...again?

Thanks for the Wow reference, it brought back a fond Anarchy memory 

[Autumn]

lol...again?

Thanks for the Wow reference, it brought back a fond Anarchy memory 

Oh in that case she had gone into the wrong patient rooms a few times that week, really busy with swine flu outbreak (their clinic is in a poor, mostly illegal immigrant town.)

Bathrooms are a WHOLE nother matter...