Overacting?

[Jamie-o]

At the risk of getting a punch in the teeth, I've noticed far more variation from FtM's - sometimes things are said that somehow stand out as "odd" or in some way incongruous against my own cis-conditioned and parochial view of what a male attitude is...often when I observe a debate on a thread

I'm curious to know what some of these things are.  That's not a challenge, mind you.  I'm genuinely curious about what may be slipping out that most of us are probably completely unaware of, that may sound strange to other guys.

[Ryuu]

'True transsexuals always say hon at the end of any statement, hon.'

Does that apply to us as well, hon?

[rejennyrated]

Does that apply to us as well, hon?

no mate!

erm... I mean dude

that's... pretty darned aweome though.

[Ryuu]

that's... pretty darned aweome though.

I know I am, love. I know I am. 

[wannalivethetruth]

.....What is A STEREOTYPE btw?

do you even belong to this forum? Just saying 

There is no female and male typing. DOh

[Vancha]

If other guys think what I say is odd, they can so eloquently shove it. 

[Astral]

I noticed the same thing. I think "hon","sweetie" and all of that are outdated. I rarely hear them said by girls.. I don't know if I ever personally heard anyone say them.

"Bro","Dude" are still in a bit depending on the guy. It's not so unnatural saying them.

I notice a lot of transgender people go crazy with their freedom to act feminine/masculine. It's like "FINALLY!!! I don't have to be afraid saying these words" etc and I understand that. But, if you act SO feminine, it's no longer feminine, it becomes something else.

All that aside, feel free to say whatever you want. I'm just trying to help out.

[The None Blonde]

Does that apply to us as well, hon?

Oh deffinately, hon. But for you silly little boys you must say 'dude' or 'man' or 'belch' at the end of sentances.... god i cant keep it up... erm, I hope by your reply you saw i was taking the mickey. I think theres a severe case of ->-bleeped-<-r than thou in this and nearly any topic, where one half go overboard being x, and to prove how 'real' they are, the other half go as far from x as possible to show how 'normal' and 'real female' they are as they dont care.... heh, I say just relax, and do what you feel, and roll with it. Eventually time in generaly society will temper your language or behavior to that of those around you in a case of whats normal for guys and girls. If anything, thats something to aim for.
Though if someone comes in now and tells me how evil and wrong it is to 'conform' to society im going to scream...

[Natasha]

I've noticed with a lot of people on this forum that they talk funny, depending on thier gender idenity.

The females on this site seem to act like a stereotypical woman, with all the "Hun"s and all the "Girl" and putting people of the other gender down.

The males seems to do the opposite, acting also stereotypical, saying things like "Dude" and other male slang.

They both seem to fling this around more then the average male or female on the internet, so much so that it seems like acting. I wonder why that is? I find this fustrating.

Why do you guys do this? As I said, this isn't typical behavior, and I assume some thought is going into it, conscious or not.

Well, what do you guys think?

(Disclaimer: I am not attacking your gender idenity)

ya i've noticed that too.  ridiculous!  if you think that women say "hun", "sis" and "girl" at the end of every sentence, you need to get out more.

[The None Blonde]

Only times i hear sis... is between sisters. Blood sisters. Honey.... is more common, girl... this isnt 90210

[Elijah3291]

I always call the guys here, dude, man, etc.. and the girls here.. hun, ladies, etc

I think I do this because I know that a lot of us dont get called those things as often as we like. So I play it up, its a confidence booster for people.

[LordKAT]

I find that service people, female especially, use those words. The lady at the gass station, the checkout girl at walmart, waiters/waitresses, etc. I find it annoying when it is used on me. I use dude rarely and man a little more often, I don't think I do it to extremes tho. I will, on these forums , try to validate others identities through a little over use but not a lot as I think that comes off as fake.

Oh well that's me.

[The None Blonde]

Honest question here Lordkat, but why do you feel thier identities need validating? I'm just a little curious as to the motivation really, I'd have thought that here of all places, Identities were accepted fully as it is.

[LordKAT]

Honest question here Lordkat, but why do you feel thier identities need validating? I'm just a little curious as to the motivation really, I'd have thought that here of all places, Identities were accepted fully as it is.

I know that all people have doubts at one time or another but most people never have their identities questioned by anyone. The people on this site do and letting them know that I view them as they view themselves is, I believe, welcomed by them. Outside of this site there are many who will see you as you present to them, you may blend in perfectly, but if the other person "knows" of your past, they sometimes still see you as a person you are not and let you know it. I think if feels good when you hear someone reassure you that you are OK.

How many times have I read of people, especially in early transition, who feel warm fuzzies when called by the correct gender in the world? If you hear nothing, sometimes you think about ti and wonder if you are seen as yourself or something else. Is it not comforting to hear that from others on this site as well?

[K8]

I agree, LordKAT.  Last week I was talking to a nurse who knows of my past.  She ended the conversation with: "Thank you, dear."  It made me feel wonderful.

But then, I'm easy.

- Kate

[The None Blonde]

Yeah, that sounds nice Lordkat I just wasnt sure what you meant Its deffiantely nice of you

[Natasha]

i so like this.  i so hate that.  i totally like this.  i totally hate that. 

these phrases sound ok if you're someone considerably young, but if you're a 50-year old woman, they sound well stupid.

[kyril]

Well, I look 14, so I might as well act the part.

(Kidding..mostly.)

[The None Blonde]

Do you know what I find irking as well?  The "OMG" or "Oh my God" after every word nonsense! 

Not as amusing as the 'oh my goddess' or 'my goddess' or other such feminisations to apear more girly...


NEVER heard a natal female say 'oh my goddess' pretty much all say 'oh my god' EVEN the valley girl pink idol... and you all know that type, like, oh my god..... if you don't you're like totally living in a cave!

[Janet_Girl]

Excuse Me!  Very much a slam against Pagan individuals.