Well, as a cd, I feel like a girl...and I don't care what anyone thinks about it.
Carli came here and said she would like to spend the weekend as a girl and now we have jumped to how lesbians don't accept us? LOL oh my. Wanting to step out of the closet and go out more really has nothing to do with "Self Identification and community identification." my my.....
Back to the subject Carli...For some reason to go out in public dressed enfemm is a big part of being a cd. It is where the saying "All dressed up with no where to go" came from. Going out and spending more time enfemme is a step a cd has to go through to be happy and find self-acceptance.
I remmember being deep in the closet and wishing I had someone to help me dress better so I could dress and look better to maybe go out too Carli.
One of 1st weekends I spent enfemm took a lot of preperation for me. I was so deep in the closet no one knew but me. I went to the biggest city near me (Kansas City) and got a hotel room. I then dressed enfemme and went out to the gay & lebian bars. The outfits I had, I had bought over time, at thrift stores and yard sales. A big hurtle for me was buying a wig. So that weekend the 1st thing I did was buy me a nice wig...then I was ready!
I found excellent acceptance at the gay and lesbian bars. Gay dudes are very cool about it and I never met one who would not take no for an answer. Lesbians where accepting although could not understand it at all.
I had a great time and on Sun evening I did not want to stop. It was a bummer going back to my man life....but I did it.
Carli, just go slow and start planning on your weekend. It would be a good idea to tell someone who could help you. I mean "help" by telling you how you look in your outfites....to help you pick what looks best on you, as we cannot always tell just looking in a mirror. Also to 'help' you by going with you...so you are not alone.
I told a few good straight men friends...and asked them to go with me..to be my 'bodyguard" LOL funny how fast they where willing to go to a lesbian bar with me! LOL They also would tell me "You look alot better in the brown outfit than you do in that pink one!"
Maybe you could find a woman friend to help you....sadly the only way to find a cool one is by telling some women that you are cd. I know how hard that can be.
Well good luck to you and please feel free to ask more about it and let us know how you are doing with you "weekend plan"
Love
DebTV