How do you deal when the dysphoria's really bad?

[jmaxley]

So I had to get an ultrasound today and saw proof right on the screen that I really do have, you know, ovaries.  As if the moobs weren't testament to that fact (but a guy can hope).  So I'm feeling a bit bummed.  I think once I get home I'm going to zone out playing video games.  That's my favorite way to deal.  I dealt with it for awhile by going to the gym, which I know is healthier, and even though my membership's expired, I could still get out and walk, but it doesn't really make me feel better.  If I had some extra cash, I'd go buy a new item of clothing that's really masculine.

So I was wondering how you all deal with it when it's really bad.

[LordKAT]

bottle of Southern Comfort just for the comfort part. Sometimes I call my sister lately. Then curl up in a ball and steep in my misery. Life usually looks better when I get sober again. Doesn't mean its the best or even a good way to do it.

[TheOtherSide]

bottle of Southern Comfort just for the comfort part. Sometimes I call my sister lately. Then curl up in a ball and steep in my misery. Life usually looks better when I get sober again. Doesn't mean its the best or even a good way to do it.

hahahaha I'm sorry but I had to laugh at that one. : )

[zombiesarepeaceful]

I pet my facial hair....strange...but makes me feel better sometimes. When it doesn't I can talk to my girlfriend.

[cynthialee]

[I know I am in the wrong area but the question just got my attention]

If it gets really bad I start a tear fest that lasts for a few hours to a few days. In the worst case scenario curl up in a ball and just sob until my body is wracked with pain and grief. (thankfully since I started HRT this has only happened once)

Then I come on line to the trans suport sites I frequent and share.

That is if I was able to avoid ussing Lordkats methood but I prefer harder drugs.

[Al James]

punch a wall, look at my razor blades, open a bottle of jack daniels, scream and shout at everyone who cares about me, go to the gym and lately, dig the garden

[Lex]

Thank God my dysphoria hasn't seen a need to act up lately.. let's hope it stays that way!

When it has been bad though, I'd hit stuff.. constantly (I'd reccomend getting a punching bag if you're into using this method), let my hateful sarcasm off it's leash, or alot of times would just stop talking completely, curl into a ball, stare off into space, and wait 'til it went away..

[Nemo]

It's true what they say, you know; after the high comes the low. I had a great weekend, got to show off my hairy legs in shorts on Saturday, went buying proper interview clothes today, including a nice tie and shirt... and on trying on my trousers, my hips seem wider than ever That and an impending psych. appointment isn't helping matters, despite my best efforts.

My personal release has got to be the video games. They stopped me from addressing this issue in the first place, but now I know what's going on and the way to fix it, playing a male version of my self-sim is a good outlet. At least until I quit being so lazy and go get some decent food back in stock, so I have good fuel for weight-training. Might even help trim my hips a little - which would help the dysphoria too.

[Ryan]

I smoke weed. A whole lot of weed.
I used to self harm, but I don't feel the need to anymore. But now weed has come along and taken its place.

Our coping methods are quite awful. Someone needs to up with something constructive.

[Al James]

I have something constructive. Its going to the doctor, saying i want my body changing to match my mind,  can i have surgery tomorrow and them saying YES, of course, Alex. Unfortunately i know that ain't ever gonna happen so i'll stick with punching the wall

[jmaxley]

I smoke weed. A whole lot of weed.
I used to self harm, but I don't feel the need to anymore. But now weed has come along and taken its place.

I self-injure occasionally, but only when I'm feeling suicidal (which thankfully has been less frequently lately).  It's the only thing at times like that that takes the edge off.

Our coping methods are quite awful. Someone needs to up with something constructive.

lol, too right.

Everyone says exercise is supposed to help with depression, and it does, but it's not immediate enough (although when I had my gym membership, working the weight machines was always a picker-upper).  Sleeping helps sometimes.  Talking to a therapist would help, if I had a competent therapist. :/  Online comics.  Umm...*strains brain*  Talking to a friend.  Except none of my RL friends would understand about my trans issues.  Shopping, when I have the money.  Video games definitely rank #1 for me.
Post Merge: April 26, 2010, 04:19:17 PM

That and an impending psych. appointment isn't helping matters, despite my best efforts.

Good luck with the psych appointment.

[Alessandro]

Long distance running, working out, costuming, watching DVDs, fanfiction, gaming...but at the moment the best cure is my wonderful partner who has never, ever seen me as anything but who I am. 

Unfortunately for me alcohol does just make it all worse and I wouldn't go near drugs!  So I really do have to make the best of it...or just use my overactive imagination!

[Nemo]

Good luck with the psych appointment.

Thanks Yeah, sleep helps, except when it's easily disrupted. Nightwish also helps, though

[cynthialee]

I smoke weed. A whole lot of weed.
I used to self harm, but I don't feel the need to anymore. But now weed has come along and taken its place.

Our coping methods are quite awful. Someone needs to up with something constructive.

If you live in a medical marijuana region please get a card. Do not allow your need for a legitamate medication to send you to prison. Personaly I have a card and I have found weedcanabis to be a very good choice to relieve anxiety and disasociate from dysphoria. But to risk incarceration so young and as trans is not a good idea.

[Ryan]

Nah, I'm in the UK. I wouldn't see it as a legitimate medication though.
It's illegal here, but for personal use the laws are quite relaxed.

[Nygeel]

I take a nap usually...depends on what sort of feeling I have. Usually it's frustration or sadness so I just cry and take a nap. When I wake up I feel better. If I'm pissed off I'll walk my dog or lift weights.

Playing Robot Unicorn Attacks helps at times, other times it's counter productive. Stupid unicorn.

[wams]

Yeah. I just turn on some Justin Bieber. His lyrical genius always soothes me into a state of pure happiness.


Not really.

I usually just feel sorry for myself, then realize that doesn't make anything better so I focus on the good things going on It's hard sometimes, but feeling like crap is such a waste of time. It's easier said than done to forget about it and all, but slug through it. You have the man-power.

[LordKAT]

I have found that if I allow myself some time to stew in it a while, it passes faster than if I just tried to work past it.  Have any of you found the same to work?

[Silver]

I have found that if I allow myself some time to stew in it a while, it passes faster than if I just tried to work past it.  Have any of you found the same to work?

Nope, because it doesn't pass. That's probably because I'm pre-all though.

[LordKAT]

Pre everything is when I did that to get through. I don't need that measure anymore.