Thank you, MyKa, for bringing up an important issue - who to tell, and how, when you are still unclear yourself. I think Lilacwoman had good questions too, although she could have been more empathic. I am sure your situation is different from mine in many ways, but I share confusion and anxiety with you.
I am still confused about where and how far I am going from overt genetic male to androgynous gender-queer or to overt female. I am experimenting. I sometimes wear women's pants and tops with my hair down. At the LA Gay and Lesbian Center while going to the trans support group, I ran into a lesbian couple I know from my professional life. I chose to go up to them, but beyond "hi" I did not know what to say. So I said nothing but "thanks" when they said I looked nice. I want to date men also but as what I am not sure. Transwoman-very-pre-everything or feminine man? Makes it hard to date - this not being sure who I am. It was simpler to stay in my male personna box. Depressing, and simple. So no dates yet. Lots of shopping.
