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Sexual Orientation of FtM's

Started by jade, December 28, 2010, 12:05:43 AM

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brutallegacy

Similar to what almost everyone has said, sexual orientation depends on the individual.
Personally, I consider myself attracted to femininity; gender is unimportant to me.  I'm currently in a relationship with a trans girl.
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Rileyyy

i don't like putting a label on my sexuality, but i am mostly sexually attracted to men. however, i'm romantically attracted to women haha
hipster boys really do it for me <:
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Bahzi

I'm bisexual, although I typically find women more physically/sexually attractive.  I seem to have more romantic interest in men, which I mostly attribute to a strange sort of narcissism; I tend to fall for people who remind me of myself and with whom I have a lot in common.
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Zrfm

I'm attracted to people, not their gender :)
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Arch

Gay, but I have to be honest: I am uncomfortable with non-cis lower anatomy--maybe that wouldn't happen if the guy were post-op. I'm not sure. At this point in my life, I would never seek out another FTM. Don't know what I'd do if I fell for one. I hope I would be able to work it out.
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Nikolai_S

Quote from: trnsboi on December 28, 2010, 06:04:25 PM
Hmm... I don't really agree with this. Why is being attracted to FTMs more of a fetish than an orientation? We tend to think that "orientation" refers to whether one is attracted to men or women, but that is a super transphobic and binary way of thinking of sexuality. Orientation can encompass many things. Some people are attracted to brunettes but not blondes, some people are attracted to short people and some to tall people, some people are attracted to people of certain ethnicities. Even though we may not think of these as orientations, they are.

I suppose that is a binary way of thinking of sexuality. But I would also consider someone who would only date a blonde as a fetishist, same with short/tall, same with someone who would, for example, only date Asian people. Yes, people have types, and I think it would even be reasonable for someone to prefer dating FTMs. But not saying "I only like FTMs, not men or women." Since FTMs are men, just a certain kind of men.
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trnsboi

Quote from: Nikolai_S on December 28, 2010, 08:18:58 PM
I suppose that is a binary way of thinking of sexuality. But I would also consider someone who would only date a blonde as a fetishist, same with short/tall, same with someone who would, for example, only date Asian people. Yes, people have types, and I think it would even be reasonable for someone to prefer dating FTMs. But not saying "I only like FTMs, not men or women." Since FTMs are men, just a certain kind of men.

It all depends upon your definition of "men." I don't think someone who only dates Asian people or only dates blondes is any more of a fetishist than someone who only dates men or only dates women. Why is attraction to blondes a "type" whereas attraction to men is not a "type"?


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some ftm guy

trans people are just like any other people as in we come in all shapes, sizes, colors, personalities and orientations ;D

I specifically, I'm straight with for some reason a slight curiosity about men, mostly other ftm's of about the same size and no, i don't think of that as a fetish, i just know it'd be way easier to be with someone who's also trans who gets it. won't ever have to explain about what's down there or my chest or what being transgendered is that i would with someone cisgendered. but it's only been a few guys who made me think "hhmmm, mmmaaaaaybe?" lol so far and that's pre T.
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Dominick_81

I'm straight, I only like women and I only want to date straight women. But I know being trans it's gunna be hard to find a straight women to date. But hopefully I'll find a straight woman I like that will date me.
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Yakshini

Eh. I try not to think too much about my sexuality because I just confuse myself. I kinda consider myself pansexual, but my sexuality just seems more fluid than that. Sometimes I am completely uninterested in romantic or sexual relationships. Sometimes I am strictly attracted to men, sometimes I become obsessed with the idea of finding a cute pre-op transgirl. It's constantly changing.
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GQjoey

Have identified as "straight" since I was a youngster. I've never been sexually attracted to bio males. Envied plenty. 3+ years on T and in my late 20's, I still identify as straight, and date hetro bio females, with the occasional 'bi' chick, whatever that means lol. Although since starting T 3 years ago, I've gotten a weird fetish if you may, for gay porn. Gay men in the real world, and men in general, do absolutely nothing for me sexually, but for some mysterious reason, I dabble in gay porn from time to time. I think its more of the dominance factor honestly.
My brothers gf confessed to me she also enjoys watching it, so I guess I'm not a complete weirdo. To each their own!
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kyril

I'm gay. I've only ever slept with cis men, except for a brief period where I tried claiming to be bi and experimented with some girls, but I was totally sexually nonfunctional with them.

I'd be open to trying with a trans guy if we were attracted to each other, but it's never come up and I don't have any particularly strong desire for it to. (Actually, I'm sort of afraid I might not be able to deal with it.)

I don't think "most" trans men are attracted specifically to other trans men. I think there is a reasonably large and visible contingent in the trans male community of guys (many of whom formerly identified as lesbians) who largely date amongst each other because of the feeling of community/having something in common, and because guys coming out of the lesbian community often have trouble with the idea of partnering with a cis man even after they come to the conclusion that they're gay. But straight trans guys still date women, bi trans guys date everybody, and the minority of gay trans guys to which I belong (the group with 'straight female' pasts) as well as a few formerly-lesbian-identified gay trans guys date cis men. And each other, sometimes, but not preferentially.


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Donnie B.

I honestly don't know who I am attracted too, so I kind of prefer not to think about it. I really like women, but what's below the belt really doesn't keep me from dating anyone (sometimes I don't even want to be with anyone), so I guess that make me pansexual.
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LaPapito

I am a straight trans who dates Ladies only...and ahm loving it....!!! I personally don't like to be entered through my birth "sex-organ" I like to do tha' entering [para me], it defeats tha' purpose of what and who I am...or have become! which broken done means...I didn't become me...so that I can be afraid to be me...  ;D
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Brent123

I'm more attracted to women. I couldn't really see myself dating a guy.
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rexgsd

Well i'm gay. I'm not attracted to females physically or in any other way really.

and im going to try and say this in the least-offensive way, but not only am i not attracted to the female 'body parts'/privates, i am really turned off by them and they are just completely revolting to me (sorry ladies =( )  but thats a big part of what contributes to the huge amount of dysphoria i have all the time, because i have these body parts i cant even bear to think about, on my body and have to deal with them everyday. in this way, sometimes i think it'd be easier if i was straight, cause at least i'd like those parts (though not on me =p ), haha, but i'd never wish to be straight anyways, that makes no sense since i like liking guys lol okay now im confusing myself
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Bagheera

Pansexual makes the cut for me, really... Although in a binary sense, I'm sexually attracted to males, physically to females. Don't know how comfortable I'd feel dealing with lady parts. :/ They don't attract me, either. This mindset might change when I'm further along transition, though.
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Squirrel698

@rexgsd - In a certain way I can really relate to what you are saying.  For me I've long been interested in females.  In their minds and in the way they acted.  I would have intense romantic emotional relationships with girls but never really went beyond that.  Well except for one time.  I was also bothered by breasts and female downstairs because I hated my own parts so much.  However now that I've begun changing into a more male body I'm suddenly much more interested in the female one.  I'm all about breasts suddenly.  I want to touch and squeeze and taste but it's hard to find a girl that would let me do that.  Oh well, maybe someday.

I really like guys too and guys are sluts so it's much easier for me to get them.  If I had the opportunity to date and fool around with an FTM I was attracted I would be over the moon.  I fantasize about it all of the time to be honest.  I would have fun with an MTF as well I know.  Really it depends on the person.   
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Wolf Man

I don't think I could like men or trans men if I tried. I like women and only women. If I'm attracted to a trans woman, then I am. Honestly they're just another woman to me.
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emil

Quote from: rexgsd on January 03, 2011, 06:49:23 PM

and im going to try and say this in the least-offensive way, but not only am i not attracted to the female 'body parts'/privates, i am really turned off by them and they are just completely revolting to me (sorry ladies =( )
same goes for me (the only topless girl i ever found attractive was a model in a photograph that seemed to not have any breasts really....she was so flat+ androgynous i first mistook her for a boy). still i do have a girlfriend and for some reason it does sort of work....i like her as a person and i keep telling myself her parts are beautiful because they are hers :D
prior to that i only dated guys and considered myself strictly "straight" (had learned to see myself as a girl of sorts)....now i feel attracted to slightly feminine guys and sometimes super-androgynous girls.
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