Quote from: Vexing on January 21, 2011, 03:08:24 AM
Actually, I find it onerous and unrewarding.
Which begs the question why bother then? particularly with some of the old-lags in this place whom you must know by now are simply never going to agree, even if just simply on principle. Isn't it easier to simply state your point clearly and then if they want to disagree simply walk away and agree to differ.
After all this isn't a battle or a debate. You don't have to actually win or concede a point for your view to be noted and understood. Once you have stated your view we all accept and understand that it is your validly held view even if some people choose to hold differing ones.
I suppose my point, and indeed Cindy's point is that this forum serves a huge diverse population. Some of us enjoy reading and participating in a robust debate others can find it unsettling. Now you may say that they need to toughen up, and that may indeed be the case, but this may not be the right time or place for that to happen.
So the needs of both groups have to be equally served and sometimes when two people lock horns in a thread it is not helpful to the rest of the group. As Moderators we spend an inordinate amount of time calming down spats between xxxx and yyyy which have got out of control.
Now without in ANY sense criticising, I must observe that, for someone who, in your own words finds it onerous and unrewarding, you do surprisingly often seem to end up being one of the combatants.
Like I say - no criticism intended here. This is just an observation which I hope you may like to ponder.