Harold, your message sounds like this to me:
Women want nothing to do with you, so now you are looking for companionship in the seconds bin.
You have to admit that doesn't sound very complimentory to those of us to whom you direct your question.
I know that looks are not the only thing that women worry about when finding a lifelong companion. You just need to get out more and meet people. Don't let your accident determine the course for the rest of your life. We here also have a defect we are working with. We rise above it and move on.
Also, don't limit your quest for companionship to just a "mate". Seek out new friends. Remember, that to have friends, you must first be a friend. Fill your life with people who you like to spend time with. You never know, the relationship you seek may come through contacts with those very friends.
Cindi