Each of us has specific triggers for our dysphoria be in the lack of ability to get SRS, the lack of ability to pass, the lack of youth, etc. I have my own triggers, for instance, sometimes (and it used to be all the time) it was difficult for me to read about a MTF who is married to a man - something I so dearly wished for and still feel strongly about today.
In those periods of sensitivity I make it a point NOT to read threads that might trigger my dysphoria. Granted there are fewer threads related to my trigger than to someone having SRS, often mine often pops up unintentionally in a thread I am reading as someone casually mentions about their marriage.
It is important to know what sets us off, and if we are unable to control the result, we must avoid the stimulus until we have learned to control our reaction to it. If I am not able to do that and steps are taken to protect me, I create an environment either intentionally or unintentionally that provokes others to not say what they really feel, to be inauthentic, or to cause then to feel they need to walk on egg shells. My problems, my triggers, are not theirs, and I feel no need for anyone to censor themselves on my behalf - I may just choose not to read your thread if I'm already feeling down.
In fine, I believe people should not rub their successes in the faces of others, but censoring one's successes can only do disservice to this amazing forum. There are plenty of other forums that are MUCH more highly moderated where people like me cannot even speak - I don't want to see this forum into that one.
