Quote from: Jen on April 24, 2011, 11:25:40 AM
Gender and sex both describe outwardly perceptible aspects, sex just being something more specific. The idea that they are separate things is not true, even though I hear that said a lot. They are interweaved- you would not have gender if there were no sex.
I don't think that last part is completely true other than that one must always have a functioning brain and body to exist and sex just happens to come along with it. Gender binary only started because of cultures that used sex as a means of gender identity. We have had many cultures in the past and some that still exist today that have several gender identities that don't really relate to sex at all. We have people who don't identify as any sort of gender and feel a disconnect with their sex. Heck, that's like saying gender identity is dependent on your eye colour or your hair or your nose shape. It doesn't make sense for your identity to be determined by your genitals, especially since genitals don't always subscribe to binary.
But hey, some of us have been doing this sort of identity for so long and we're fine with being binary identified. There's nothing wrong with being binary identified but we should acknowledge that identity surrounding how are genitals look and function is a very limiting view of identity and not the whole. It's just plain silly to think it is the only way.
Quote from: Jen on April 24, 2011, 11:25:40 AMThe words are so frustrating though. One person may be offended by "transgendered" with the ed on the end, while another thinks "transgender" sounds silly. One person doesn't think those words apply to them, while another, who's gone through a very similar experience and is in a very similar place, does. Another person is okay with "trans woman" but hates "transwoman" without a space, while another is okay with both, and another hates both. It's a veritable minefield.
However you choose to reclaim a word is your business. If you want to reclaim a slur then go ahead, it is your right. The point is more or less that if you suggest it is something that is done to you and can be taken away then it can be used as a weapon against you by bigots and next thing we know we get programs designed to cleanse of us our 'mental illness.' It's not really a question of who is offended by what words and reclamation. It's about what can shatter our credibility and further confuse people which in turn takes it from 'I'm offended' to 'this is offensive.'
Could you imagine how much worse racial tensions would be like if we still used the phrase 'half-caste' for people who were of mixed race? Great, now they'd be suggesting that the person isn't as 'pure.' A bigot would then argue that the term 'pure' simply just means they are not full-insert race here and it's completely innocent, but it's still racist! It doesn't matter how they try to sugar coat it, if you're not of mixed race then you don't have any business to tell anyone that the word is OK to use. The same goes for cisgender people and words used against us.
If you want to identify as 'transgendered' then go for it. As long as the person is transgender they have every right to call reclaim what was used against them but they should at least be aware of what they are saying and the implications when dealing with the cisgender crowd. I'm not so sure many people here were actually aware of how it really sounds.
Quote from: Northern JaneOne of the major problems impeding understanding comes from the backlash against "binary gender" and the old feminist rhetoric "we are all the same".
There is good research and understanding out there and has been for a decade but it is "played close to the vest" because it isn't politically correct. Numerous studies and research show generalized gender specific behaviour right from birth and significantly different developmental time lines and paths between boys and girls.
There is actually a whole lot of support for the idea of "brain sex" but a great deal of pressure to downplay it.
There are also studies that show that if you raise two children of different sex in an environment free of binary and give them the same expectations that there is virtually no differences, even in strength. The thing is in order to get an legitimate study you not only have to have a controlled study but you need to question every variable that may affect it and potentially sabotage it with contaminated evidence.
For example they just recently found out that maybe addiction might not have anything to do with substance at all or at the very least, very little to do with it. They were testing Meth addiction with mice in a small cage and the mouse would drink the contaminated water simply because it was there. Then they tried it with a bigger cage and couldn't even get the mice to drink from the contaminated bowl. They always went for the clean water.
All these tests that I have seen that shows a support of brain sex are done on children on playgrounds who are already subjected to society's view of gender roles and how the parents choose the raise them. Even as a baby you are subjected to these and you really have no choice because it's all you know and the parent and society are the ones that are essentially raising you. It's the clothes you wear, the TV you watch, the expectations put on you, how people react because of your sex, etc...
And yet we have other studies where the study is controlled and isolated from outside uses saying that there is no real difference. Which study are we to really believe in?