Better off dead?!

[insideontheoutside]

Priest's that would tell you that you would go to hell for changing genders

I can't imagine a Catholic priest telling anyone that they are going to hell.  They might tell you that you are committing a mortal sin, and placing your soul in mortal peril, least you die with it unshriven, but as any Catholic knows a heartfelt act of contrition absolves you of all sin.  And most priests don't do that 'going to hell' thing, because that decision is in god's hands, not theirs.  That kind of hubris and pride - speaking for god - that's really a protestant thing.

This totally. Only protestants (and this includes the new, born again, Christian variety) are arrogant enough to think they know who's going to hell and who's not. They're basically claiming they are god at that point - course none of them see it that way, they just like to cast out their judgments.

Catholics have contrition cause human beings aren't perfect. We f**k up. But we can ask for forgiveness for our transgressions.

And I'm not even religious (but in case you couldn't tell, was raised Catholic).

[Cindy]

Since when has Santa Claus been fiction? I see him in shops all over the place.

Cindy

[niamh]

Since when has Santa Claus been fiction? I see him in shops all over the place.

Cindy

In April?

[JohnR]

In April?

Santa is a cross-dresser.

He leaves the house dressed as the Easter Bunny.

Cruel people mock him and tell him that he doesn't even exist. This invalidates his personal feelings.

It needs to stop. Santa has the right to express his inner Easter Bunny. In April.

[Cindy]

I agree with JohnR, as soon as Christmas is over easter eggs are in the shops so the bunny has to be around, as soon as Easter is finished Christmas decorations are in the shops, so Santa Claus = Easter Bunny QED.

Cindy

[jessevmp]

actually santa clause is a skilled burgular that arives around holloween when there is less light available to detect him by. he then canvases every neighborhood looking for the best houses to plunder in the disguise of a well meaning parent training future burgulars. come christmas time he breaks into homes devouring all the treats while depositing  edible fruitcake and .sugar coated barber shop poles designed to lull u to sleep early where he then leaves cheap imported toys which he gets his kickback from the creditcard companys in april. he atones for these sins by leaving over cooked eggs and piles of sweats to rot the childs teath away .
jessie

[Vince1995]

Back on topic.

Hello Vinnie.

Man, and I thought my mom was bad. :/
The best thing you can do is try to ignore them.
I mean, that is what I would do.
Continue to do what you feel is right.
If you are over 18, and they try to tell you how to live, tell them you are an adult now, and you don't have to do what they say.
I would suggest calling the Gay-Help Line (They help with Transgenders too)
1-800-246-7743
Call them, they will help youths up to age 25.
http://www.glnh.org/talkline/index.html View this site for more info.
I am really sorry this is happening hun. D:
I hope you can get help with your situation and get away from there. :/

~ Vince.

PS; You can also message me anytime you want, if you just need someone to talk to, or just for someone to be there. I'm always available.

[tekla]

If you are over 18, and they try to tell you how to live, tell them you are an adult now, and you don't have to do what they say.

That only works if you really ARE an adult.  You know, making your own way in the world, paying your own bills, and living on your own.  If your still living with your parents, you are still not an adult no matter how old you are.

[Vince1995]

If you are over 18, and they try to tell you how to live, tell them you are an adult now, and you don't have to do what they say.

That only works if you really ARE an adult.  You know, making your own way in the world, paying your own bills, and living on your own.  If your still living with your parents, you are still not an adult no matter how old you are.

If you are 18+ years of age, you are an adult. Being an adult is not defined by the place you live. You just live there.

[tekla]

If your living on someone else's dime, you are not being responsible for yourself, and can't back up your own decisions with actions.  You are at the mercy of those that are taking care of you.  So long as your living with mom and pops (and are not doing it to care for them) then so long are you a kid and not an adult.  Adults are people making their way in the world based on their own efforts, and not beholden to others for the most basic levels of support.

[Vince1995]

If your living on someone else's dime, you are not being responsible for yourself, and can't back up your own decisions with actions.  You are at the mercy of those that are taking care of you.  So long as your living with mom and pops (and are not doing it to care for them) then so long are you a kid and not an adult.  Adults are people making their way in the world based on their own efforts, and not beholden to others for the most basic levels of support.

Than what happens if someone who is like 40, used to live on their own, but has to live with their parents because they lost their job and their house? (Not saying Vinnie is 40, lol.)

[tekla]

Then they just lost a huge part of their most basic freedoms.

[FebruaryFalls]

Gonna have to agree with Tekla, you can ask for more independence, but if they don't want to give it to you, that's their call if they're feeding you, providing you with a place to sleep, buying your clothes...etc...

My only exception to this is if you're a student and have a part time job and do your part to pay your way through school. If you're living at home to cut expenses there, you're parents should cut you some slack because you're attempting to make something of yourself...this is the current arrangement I have. I work, drive myself to school and work, pay for gas, pay for a decent amount of food, all my clothing and put money in an account for my education that if I were to ever stop going would just go to my parents as rent. And obviously if you are living there and paying rent, you're essentially paying for more freedom. But if you're not contributing to expenses, you have to work with them and try to get them on board with you rather than just throwing the "I'm 18 I can do whatever the heck I want"

However, that's not to say that they are obligated to cut you some slack.

[xAndrewx]

Gonna agree with Tekla and FebruaryFalls on this one. I'm a college student with a part time job who pays for all of my own stuff and pays a large part toward the electric, water, and so on. Only thing I don't pay is rent only because my mother won't let me, not for lack of trying. I go where I want and do what I want. I do check in with her when I get home from work because I get home incredibly late and am walking through not so great areas but she asks me to but it isn't mandatory.

On topic though how is it going? Vince has some great help. Also are you in college, maybe you could use some loans to get on your feet while taking some online classes. Payment plans can be worked out once you finish with your classes. Depends on how much rent is near where your at as to whether it would be enough to cover it. Well, good luck and I hope it's going a little better.

[Aaron]

ouch that gotta hurt. when i came out to my parents if they hadnt liked it i would have to live with it cos im still a kid/teenager XD