Ok so I've always considered myself strictly into women, and scoffed at the idea that HRT could alter sexual preference. Wow was I wrong. Before her, I didn't even have an opinion of how guys looked as far as handsome, etc. Not because I was holding back, or scared..i was just indifferent to them. But since having my dosages increased in July, I've been seeing more and more guys that I think to myself hey, he's pretty cute. And I have to admit, I'm curious now, what's it like being with a guy, relationships, everything, and out of everything in my transition, this is the one thing that is causing me distress. I don't know how to deal with liking guys lol, I've never had to before.
Now, I'm happily married, and would NEVER do anything with anyone other than my wife, this is all curiosity and trying to come to terms with this "added interest".
I haven't had a shift in my orientation/preference, it's still women for me. Sure I see some guys who I think are handsome or good looking but don't feel any attraction towards them... certainly not feeling anything sexual. Not yet anyway!
I've been bi as long as I remember having sexual interest... so, perhaps an insight might help here.
You will no doubt want to talk to your partner about it... be careful, make sure she *knows* you are staying with her and that she is still your wonderful, attractive partner to whom you are dedicated before you do... with all the other changes in your life, she may very well worry that you won't want to be with her anymore...
Once you've talked with her about it, though, it's always possible that you can compare notes on what you find attractive in men, girl-talk about it, etc. I've been able to do that with my CIS-girlfriend/fiancee, and other women in my life. It can be a lot of fun. :)
Anyway, just my two cents. I wish you luck in exploring this new-found facet of your life. It is probable that there was some attraction there before, just waiting to be legitimized, since research tends to show that transition (gender) doesn't change sexual preference... but who knows? People are wonderfully strange and complex creatures! :)
On the testosterone blocking/low dose estrogen regimen I'm on, I've noticed a few differences in how I feel on that subject. I used to be only attracted to women, and while that's still true to a point, if a guy was actually interested in me, and if he wasn't too masculine but was still attractive, and if he had a nice personality and we got along really well... maybe. I wonder how I'd feel with a full dose of estrogen...
I'm going to say this very plainly: be very careful. A lot of us find that sexuality slips around when you get fully saturated by HRT. Been there, done that. Just be open and honest with your partner about everything you're thinking and/or considering. It gets pretty rocky in these here waters.
I started at about a 2 or so on the Kinsey scale before transition. I'm now something around a 5 so, just saying.
Kinsey Scale
0 | | 3 | | 6 |
Perfect
Heterosexual | | Perfect
Bi-sexual | | Perfect
Homosexual |
I remember when I realized the change in feelings towards guys, I was watching storm->-bleeped-<-s on Netflix with my wife, and one of the guys, I think his name is Joel, when I saw him I was like *bites lip*. I just keep telling myself they have cooties though!
Victoria, I've never heard of the Kinsey scale. I believe I was a firm 6 until recently, but that may not be the case as others have suggested.
It's a really interesting topic which I'm figuring out too.
Pre HRT, I only really found women sexually attractive, had no developed interest for boys. Although I do recall several occasions just after puberty where I wasn't sure, but it was a case of "I have to like girls if I'm a boy". Any attraction to boys back then was buried deeper than my gender identity issues.... Way way way down.
But with HRT, my insidious male libido disappeared, and with it, my former sexual attraction to women. I understand that female sexuality is fairly different ( and have still yet to explore it ), but this is scary... And if that wasn't scary enough, I've definitely been finding the odd guy rather attractive.
I suspect that there always was some attraction to boys, always eclipsed by what was socially acceptable and a desire to be normal and fit in. It wasn't until the start of transition that I threw out that whole notion and started to just be me.
But whatever happens in terms of sexual orientation is fine. There are no rules... ;)
Quote from: Victoria Mitchell on October 23, 2013, 03:42:13 PM
I'm going to say this very plainly: be very careful. A lot of us find that sexuality slips around when you get fully saturated by HRT. Been there, done that. Just be open and honest with your partner about everything you're thinking and/or considering. It gets pretty rocky in these here waters.
I started at about a 2 or so on the Kinsey scale before transition. I'm now something around a 5 so, just saying.
Kinsey Scale
0 | | 3 | | 6 |
Perfect
Heterosexual | | Perfect
Bi-sexual | | Perfect
Homosexual |
Do you mean you predominantly liked women pre-transition and that's remained the same only now as a lesbian?
I find that i am a lot more flirtatious with guys, but i am not sure yet how i would feel in a relationship with one just now.
My therapist told me to be prepared for anything.. she said it is quite possible my orientation could change.
I can buy that.. ..if the HRT completes what mother nature started would only be natural I suppose right??
I told her I could not see myself with a guy ... and she said it happens..
Carrie
Pre transition, I thought the idea of being with a man was gross.
After I started thinking of myself as soft and feminine, the thought of physical intimacy with a man no longer seemed awful. Now I'm curious what it would be like (though I would probably wait until after SRS).
But these feelings came about BEFORE I started HRT.
And all that being said, I still haven't found men I'm sexually attracted to.
This also has happened to me and it was a strange feeling at first...one I tried to fight off. I have since accepted the fact I am a heterosexual woman now. Just wish I could meet men and actually date more then one
Inner thoughts about men appeared when I started to self identify as a woman (without knowing) well before HRT and some months before the full blown GID came.
Still haven't been able to make peace with that orientation. My orientation desperately wants boys, my active brain finds them gross and has pretty high standards for "breeding". I have more interest for gay males than hetero ones, but sadly that's an impossible love.
Why am I looking at photos of lovely gay men hugging and kissing instead of going to bed? Damn, it's so unfair... I'll need to ask Darkie for some recommendations on Yaoi,
I was borderline asexual before I started HRT. I've always thought women were pretty and liked looking at them in a non sexual manner pre hrt ... but when it came to sex, I wanted nothing to do with them (I tried 3 or 4 times but it never worked). I've always been sexually attracted to men but not strongly.
Almost the week after I started HRT my desire to have a man went crazy. I noticed every guy a mile away. That fluctuated quite a bit until now I think I'm more like "Wow he's cute" ... but I'm not really boy crazy either. My desire for women is none. I don't even care to look at women anymore. As a matter of fact, I don't even think I can point out attractive women the way I used to before HRT.
+1 on the "started being attracted to men after starting HRT" counter here.
It wasn't an immediate switch, it took a few months before I noticed any difference - it was during one of the sexposition scenes in Game of Thrones that I first clocked on that I was glancing between Jon Snow and his missus and a bit confused as to who I preferred. I'm now at the point where a well built man will send a shiver down my spine, give me a tingle on the back of the neck/head and cause odd contractions "down there".
I'm still not sure I could have a relationship with a man, but the thought of having a bit of fun with one is definately sat in my mind.
I was bi before HRT but with more of a leaning to women.These days its 50/50.You have rice you want noodles next time!
Quote from: big kim on October 24, 2013, 08:26:59 AM
I was bi before HRT but with more of a leaning to women.These days its 50/50.You have rice you want noodles next time!
LOL. +1
I've had a similar development...bi before, bi after...but the proportions have changed.
Quote from: Victoria Mitchell on October 23, 2013, 03:42:13 PM
I'm going to say this very plainly: be very careful. A lot of us find that sexuality slips around when you get fully saturated by HRT. Been there, done that. Just be open and honest with your partner about everything you're thinking and/or considering. It gets pretty rocky in these here waters.
I started at about a 2 or so on the Kinsey scale before transition. I'm now something around a 5 so, just saying.
Kinsey Scale
0 | | 3 | | 6 |
Perfect
Heterosexual | | Perfect
Bi-sexual | | Perfect
Homosexual |
This scale is a little confusing for me. Do I count my male years as male or female? I think a split of the two makes the most sense.
I'm not on HRT and have gone from a M0 (liking only women) to a F2-4 (liking both, but definitely questioning my attraction to women). It is really, really weird... and I'm not thinking too much about it until I've been on HRT for a little while. Yes... that means I've relegated my sexual preference to fantasy only... and I'm keeping it there for a while!!
I've been wondering a lot about this. I'm not worried about my preferences changing, just wondering if they might. Looks like an interesting time ahead. ;)
Thank you all for the information. ;D
Quote from: Magdalena on October 24, 2013, 11:53:05 AM
I've been wondering a lot about this. I'm not worried about my preferences changing, just wondering if they might. Looks like an interesting time ahead. ;)
Thank you all for the information. ;D
I was worried at first... I had a wife. That's changing and so are my preferences. They may have always been wrong! I personally think that (some of us) are attracted to the female form because we like to look at the fashions... as well as what's beneath the fashion... and imagine ourselves in that position. It's not the same as being attracted to women, but it's not that different to the closeted trans* girl brain :D
I also think that, since it's not considered good or normal (by society, parents, etc) to be gay... we latch onto our feminine preference as a hetero-male preference... for me, time and HRT will tell... but I
know my fantasies have always been me as a woman with my partner as a man. In fact - that's always how it was with my wife, too. Lesbian fantasies may have been in there too... but hey - I'm questioning :P lol
Kabit,
Such a good point one that I don't like to admit.... I do love my wife but damn it.. I have always wanted to be her... so there I admitted it.
Also, for sure.. if you could wave that magic wand and I get CIS female body.. I would be looking for a guy not a girl..
So what you said makes perfect sense.. If I were suddenly a female.. why would I want to be with a female...It would be party on...having fun.
Seems I have played the male role so long that the transition process will be so slow and honestly confusing.. I don't see myself with guys later but if I did SRS I don't see why not....
Carrie
I actually wish my preferences would go ahead and change - I'm sort of jealous of those women who find themselves attracted to men. You have an experience of womanhood that I'm not sure I'll be able to have - attraction to men. Plus, I find the idea of post-op sex with a man attractive, just not the actual men themselves.
Quote from: carrie359 on October 24, 2013, 12:34:14 PM
Kabit,
Such a good point one that I don't like to admit.... I do love my wife but damn it.. I have always wanted to be her... so there I admitted it.
Also, for sure.. if you could wave that magic wand and I get CIS female body.. I would be looking for a guy not a girl..
So what you said makes perfect sense.. If I were suddenly a female.. why would I want to be with a female...It would be party on...having fun.
Seems I have played the male role so long that the transition process will be so slow and honestly confusing.. I don't see myself with guys later but if I did SRS I don't see why not....
Carrie
I shouldn't even say this... but I'm noticing that a lot of the girls I was attracted to and stuck with for a while had some pretty masculine features. Even my wife, who isn't masculine - I'd never say that - has pretty well reversed social gender roles with me.
Quote from: suzifrommd on October 24, 2013, 12:35:51 PM
I actually wish my preferences would go ahead and change - I'm sort of jealous of those women who find themselves attracted to men. You have an experience of womanhood that I'm not sure I'll be able to have - attraction to men. Plus, I find the idea of post-op sex with a man attractive, just not the actual men themselves.
That's the big question for me... does the attraction change with HRT? I don't like men's smell (very changeable - it's a hormone thing!) and I'm still in pretty deep questioning about stuff above the waist... but do I think I'll change? Yeah. I think so. It feels like I've always known in some way - even though I rationally know that isn't true in the slightest.
Where are my HORMONES already?!?! ;) 6 months away = eternity... 2 months before spiro is painful enough. Do you think my wife would go for me getting E in December, too? (I already know that answer :P :P :P)
Pre-hrt I was only attracted to women... and never would even consider a man as a partner
Almost three years of female hormones flowing through my body, shaping and wiring my brain, i met a man and was attracted to him. He actually was my boyfriend for 5 months..
I was weird kissing him, or him touching me at first.. or even my to touch him. I just decided to go with it and embrace my female sexuality.. I even slept with him and gave him oral sex.
Now I am bi-sexual, but I enjoyed been the woman in the relationship.. i actually would like to a wife to a man someday .. maybe I am straight now...
The hormones we take, do more than give you hips or breasts or even soften our skin, it changes our brains too.
My fantasies have always been about me being a woman, often with a man. Guess that should tell me all I need to know. ;)
Quote from: suzifrommd on October 24, 2013, 12:35:51 PM
Plus, I find the idea of post-op sex with a man attractive, just not the actual men themselves.
I understand that's an unspoken thing in some lesbian communities actually. They could theoretically get down with the penis and the actual sex act, but not the guy attached to it. Like a lot say they wouldn't mind having a penis inside them as long as there was no romantic connection like kissing and caressing. Or a relationship lol. So that really isn't atypical of lesbians.
Quote from: caleb. on October 24, 2013, 05:30:42 PM
I understand that's an unspoken thing in some lesbian communities actually. They could theoretically get down with the penis and the actual sex act, but not the guy attached to it. Like a lot say they wouldn't mind having a penis inside them as long as there was no romantic connection like kissing and caressing. Or a relationship lol. So that really isn't atypical of lesbians.
That would explain the realistic dildo they forgot when they moved out from my place.
Quote from: Apple Sprout on October 24, 2013, 05:35:20 PM
That would explain the realistic dildo they forgot when they moved out from my place.
It would lmao.
Quote from: caleb. on October 24, 2013, 05:30:42 PM
I understand that's an unspoken thing in some lesbian communities actually. They could theoretically get down with the penis and the actual sex act, but not the guy attached to it. Like a lot say they wouldn't mind having a penis inside them as long as there was no romantic connection like kissing and caressing. Or a relationship lol. So that really isn't atypical of lesbians.
I wonder how much of this requires actual experimenting in dating. Be bi and figure out where to go. I'm still hoping HRT fixes that for me... but I like the looks of women, but can't picture having F/F sex.
I think it's time for me to run away from this thread like a girl who doesn't know anything much about the birds & bees. 'Bout where I'm feeling right now...
Quote from: kabit on October 24, 2013, 05:44:35 PM
I think it's time for me to run away from this thread like a girl who doesn't know anything much about the birds & bees. 'Bout where I'm feeling right now...
I can only express that I feel for You... The more I am thinking about F/F sex, the more my brain tells me that girls are cute, soft, caring - just like me... Yet, I have always been attracted to the opposites. Ugh... And at the same time, I am very confused and scared about guys - not like I am afraid of possible physical violence (maybe I am overconfident or just plain dumb), but... I spent some significant time on the TGD site and there are some nice people too (and a whole bunch of ->-bleeped-<-s....) and there was one hook-up lately, and I was really confused about how my mind and body responded to this. I had to slow things down and even withdraw, because I could not handle all those emotions and I felt like I dont even want to handle them.But I really dont know what would have happened if we were in close proximity (well, I actually do know – and it scares me even more).
One thing to keep in mind is that we keep changing over time, and to relax and let those changes occur. Fortunately we are in a place so that we can discuss them. Remember that adolescent females go through intense changes in sexual desire and intensity. We are going through the same. We also start to give off vibes.
I noticed today that two guys in a store were openly flirting with me, I was totally enjoying it. I then looked around and saw that there were men hanging around wanting service help from staff and that I was occupying the attention of the available staff. I thought of losing male privilege and had an inner smile and thought....lets keep flirting :laugh:
Quote from: caleb. on October 24, 2013, 05:30:42 PM
Like a lot say they wouldn't mind having a penis inside them as long as there was no romantic connection like kissing and caressing. Or a relationship lol. So that really isn't atypical of lesbians.
I have found, when I get aroused during foreplay.... I really want that penis inside me... i actually need it... you just say to the guy.... put it inside me...
Well I've always been attracted to men solely soooooo HRT had no effect on my sexuality. I've had slight crushes on girls way back in school but it was only for specific ones. I never acted on it though because I knew it wasn't serious. I'd just see a hot guy teacher or some other guy class mate and those little silly crushes went out the window lol.
I love men and wouldn't have it any other way.
Quote from: noleen111 on October 25, 2013, 06:52:13 AM
I have found, when I get aroused during foreplay.... I really want that penis inside me... i actually need it... you just say to the guy.... put it inside me...
Oh so yes!!! I think we should start a nympho section :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: >:-) >:-) >:-) >:-)
I would say that I'm bi, I like boys but I'm married to a girl. So hrt probably won't affect me so much, but only time will tell I guess. The idea of being with a man (or even a woman) while I have my boy parts is awkward and unpleasant. I fulfill my duties as a husband of course, but I'd rather spend a night with foreplay than actual... sex. If hrt makes me even more attracted to men maybe that'll change, but for now little to no sex with my wife is just perfect with me.
Maybe my alphabet soup orientation isn't so far out there after all? I have evolved with HRT. My baseline was being wired for girls with an occasional boy on the side every other blue moon. My first love as a child was a boy and I felt all the world like his wife, that in the context of ten years old. We were a hot little couple.
I discovered girls and that was that, or so I though. He did keep pursuing me for a few years after and I would give in. It faded away and I moved away. All Good.
As I evaluate the maybe a dozen interludes with men in my life, for the most part sex with men lacks in lot of ways. My first boy was the only romance and relationship. All others were booty calls. Of all others, one I wanted to have his baby and then he carelessly stepped on me. Bye now! One other was also nearly as good at ringing my bell. A couple of thousand female partners later, I think males are low in my ratio. Since I started HRT I have not had a partner. After recovering from a sex addiction, I learned my self respect and something I never knew existed; boundaries. Well that's different. Today I won't be a hit and run victim. Fast forward to the start of my HRT.
I like the fantasy of men and a toy boy friend far more than the baggage and disappointments of the real thing. Women are the very best in person. They were the wave and the other fantasies the undertow. Trans girls that were not exaggerated pictures made me hot too, but most jealously I wanted to be one of them. Now I are one! There is also a wonderful new world inside me since estrogen that I didn't know I desperately needed. But then at that point I did not know I was intersexed. it was about nine months to a year when my sexuality changed. Not to be confused with orientation.
I started having female orgasms and girl are they over the top! The male O was a fire cracker pop and the female Os are a wonderful fireworks with a grand finale! Sometimes I have to go through the boy O to get to the girl O, but if I am patient and explore all the wonder buttons all over my body and don't stroke down there. I get wonderfully pure female orgasms. That is one single sexed people don't get! Ha! Trans has it's perks. On the beginning doses of estrogen I only had to contend with puberty.
My health on HRT improved dramatically and I begged my Doctor to ramp me up to the max. He did and the side effect I didn't anticipate is a second adolescence. I may be the oldest screwiest school girl on the planet. I adore trans people I think I could make that click. Women still turn my head and my heart. Men???
I get little romantic notions: I want a white wedding gown regardless, some special men close to me are becoming very attractive. I want to know what it's like to interact with men as female and it be reciprocated. That does not mean men can buy me a happy meal and get a free home run. I'm not a box of Cracker Jacks. I want to be treated as a human, I think men have a great difficulty relating to us as humans. I am not a fetish. So I sit and wait for me. I'm not all grown up anyway.
Today I am not fond of toys. I no longer like to be penatrated. I do want that when I'm post op. If I never have another male O amd only have female Os I will be thrilled. I do have a lot of sex, but I more fantisize about having it with a loving friend or caring partner that understands that right now I need to go slow and explore. Maybe that is just too much to ask from adult humams. Hug. Joann
I'm actually really worried at the moment how this incredible desire,need perhaps,that has developed over the last 12 months,is going to affect my marriage of 21 years. [emoji19]
I am nervous about the same thing.... Altho I love women and everything about them and cuddling with them you name it.! altho being with a guy sexually is alot of fun lol but i just cant connect emotionally
mmmm, to be frankly honest, I was never really attracted to either sex before hrt, though now that I've become more accepting of myself, I have become open to exploring a bit, I do notice a few guys here and there and go, hmm, he's cute. For me I have to be with a person for awhile, and get to know them before being attracted to them.
I think marys got this figured out lol, so few people wanna spend time to get to know each other instead they just hump till things get bad then restart
interesting to read an old resurrected thread like this. I guess this subject will always be relevant :P
I often wonder if I'll find that my orientation changes as well. Since Ive come to terms with who I am, its gotten me to think differently. while im still only sexually attracted to women, I can now understand the appeal of being with a man, and I sometimes look at them differently.
However, my therapist said something interesting about this. So many people here claim to have experienced a shift in orientation, so I asked her if this is something that could happen to me. She quickly and very matter-of-factly told me that no, orientation cannot change. If I am attracted to girls now, I will only be attracted to girls for life. when I mentioned the testimonies Ive read, she said that those people must have been repressing these feelings without knowing it.
I find this odd considering how many people claim to experience a shift. if all of them were indeed repressing their sexuality all these years without knowing, then it must be pretty common. how can she be so sure that Im not repressing it as well? just something I found interesting. how much do we really know about the brain??
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the answers we are looking for are so deep we will probably never have an answer for.... because you dont know how rooted a persons child hood affected there view of who they should be attracted to.... if a person will fal into a role of dating a guy instead because of ease... there are so many dependant factors and how truthful a person is with themselves that who really knows lol... :)
I dated women my whole life (35 years ) and then transition came on and I only date men now at age 45. It just feels right. And I say that not coming from a purely sexual stand point. From a companionship point of view it feels natural.
HRT did accelerate my views towards men by the way.
my new joy is when a cute guy smiles at me
I was Bi before transition but was more 70/30 towards men. Basically women had what I wanted and just didn't have the strength to admit it enough to make a change. Now I'm more 50/50 but the green eye still raises it's ugly face when I see someone and I'm thinking "that's such a cute outfit....but my fat butt will totally never fit it....she's a bi#&h".
But I will say that my therapist found an interesting study (I don't know where it was found sadly) where a doctor followed 3 transgender females, prior to transition one was straight, one was gay and one asexual. Interestingly enough the two girls who have had sex admitted to experiences outside of their normal but didn't go into current relationships or sexual attractions. The girl who was asexual prior to transition admitted to having over 350 sexual partners in a three year period after surgery with partners of both genders but was with more men then women.
I guess anything really can happen unless that study was falsified to make us look bad.
Strictly woman only for me pre-hrt, and after several months of hrt, it has shifted to guys... It gets very confusing for me sometimes and trying to figure all these feelings out.
Currently, I'm attracted to the ladies but have entertained the idea of being with a guy. Due to my current living situation, I'm not able to fully explore and develop my feminine side as I would like. Once I'm able to live on my own, things will be better. Nothing kills romance like being in your parents house.
Its a real mind bender.... I did not really care what happened then all of the sudden it hit me and when I would see a handsome dude my mouth would start watering.. its so weird.. now I am just into guys... can't wait for GRS... then I will date.. until then I am just a tease..
Dodie/Keri
I always knew I had bisexual tendencies but tried to shut it down, especially in the time and place where I grew up. Then I was married and tried to be the faithful husband but that's now all water under the bridge. Once I've completed GRS and had time to heal, I'll be looking into the dating scene, and when I do, yes, men are definitely on my list!
I have always been BI/pansexual and find there are so very many wonderful and attractive people regardless of gender. Another person's gender is irrelevant to me in considering them as attractive and we are currently monogamous so it is for entertainment purposes only ;D I have had enough experience to consider people creative enough that there is always someone out there that can float your boat.
Generally I'm only interested in girls. I'm open to the possibility that might change but it hasn't. If anything I'm curious to know what it would be like, but I'm more repulsed than curious.
As for determining if a guy is attractive or not. I can only think of two off the top of my head. Paul Walker (R.I.P.) and Chris Pine. I actually remember watching Star Trek 2009 (wishing I had brought sun glasses) thinking wow he has such pretty eyes. There might be a couple of others but that's basically it and right now pretty eyes isn't enough to make me interested.
This is interesting but something I have been thinking about a lot lately (along with everything else to do with transitioning) right now I'm not on HRT or anything and I'm highly attracted to women but over the last 7 years I've been playing a girl in an online role playing game (come to think of it I never been anything but a girl in online games) and while I started basically oriented to women (lesbian) over the years I have had numerous encounters with men and now I sort of orient as BI with a slant to women.
Now my attitude in real life is still oriented towards women and right now I can't ever see myself in any kind of lasting relationship with a man but if I transition through HRT and SRS (which I hope to start soon) I totally expect that if I start to find men attractive I'll want to see how my new equipment works with one at least once.
Quote from: kariann330 on April 09, 2015, 06:12:23 AM
I was Bi before transition but was more 70/30 towards men. Basically women had what I wanted and just didn't have the strength to admit it enough to make a change. Now I'm more 50/50 but the green eye still raises it's ugly face when I see someone and I'm thinking "that's such a cute outfit....but my fat butt will totally never fit it....she's a bi#&h".
But I will say that my therapist found an interesting study (I don't know where it was found sadly) where a doctor followed 3 transgender females, prior to transition one was straight, one was gay and one asexual. Interestingly enough the two girls who have had sex admitted to experiences outside of their normal but didn't go into current relationships or sexual attractions. The girl who was asexual prior to transition admitted to having over 350 sexual partners in a three year period after surgery with partners of both genders but was with more men then women.
I guess anything really can happen unless that study was falsified to make us look bad.
Imo there are a few factors involved...
some people are set free to no longer go against a gender they feel they do not belong to...
some people can relax into the gender they like...
and of course some go through another puberty...
and there is some kind of biological thing, with pheromones for example...
some were bi in the beginning, for example, and it just came out...
I got a crush on a dude the other day.. someone I met at dinner with friends.. I was like wow your biceps are huge do you work out... .. My girlfriend later said I learn to fast... LOL.
But they were big.. I was not just saying that ..
Anyway... I can't quit thinking about him but he is taken and I am not ready....
I love this universe..
Dodie
I know i am bi i think i used to prefer 90%-95% female 5-10% male its something more like 50/50 now and I'm pre-HRT. lately I'm more into guys though (at least my light wallet form male stripper night at the gay bar says so :laugh: >:-) >:-) )
I have only ever been into women pre-transition, with many gf's and 2 wives. I was warned about the effects of HRT on sexuality and sure enough... about a month ago, I started noticing guys... yup... :o
I've noticed very recently in the past week, I find butch lesbians attractive now but not as much as feminine lesbians. Previously I only found feminine girls attractive. Still not into guys.
I like to think of myself as pansexual, but mainly lesbian.
Before I started HRT and before I started transitioning and admitted to myself I'm a woman, I was very very straight and had a few girlfriends. I did try having sex with a man back then because I was sex starved and needed sex lol, but I didn't really like it.
But since starting HRT I enjoy having sex with a man once in awhile quite a lot haha(x not as much as with a woman but still, I enjoy it more than I did before HRT.
I mean I do have strictly sexual attraction to FEMININE men, but masculinity is a big big turn off for me in men.
And I would never date or have a relationship with a man lol.
But since I started HRT I have begun to find butch lesbians very attractive, possibly more attractive than femme lesbians. c: