It's time for the monthly overly drawn out acronym for positive self-change and growth. The truth is, I make these for myself (soooo selfish) but in the hopes that you will all join me in this. For the month of April, and mark your calendar ladies, we will be celebrating:
Transgender Self-Acceptance Month
Or
TSAM
Wow, that's the most manageable acronym I have made yet. Does anyone remember TWYFBOM (Transgender Work Your Friggin Butt Off Month)?
I have a lot of internal struggles with my transition and I find it really helpful to project those troubles in a positive way. In a way that all my trans sisters (not transistors) can join me. I have a lot of problems just accepting who I am. I was born a man but I AM a woman. This is a fact that I cannot change, and that's okay!
This month and forever more, I choose to accept the following things about me and I hope you can join me with your own stuff. :D
I am:
-taller than most CIS women
-larger than most CIS women
-working on getting rid of my beard
-working on my voice
-not socialized as a woman
I accept these things and I move forward to change what can be changed and love what cannot be changed. I love me and I love you.
Now join me! What do you accept about yourself today?
Hmmm. OK, even though self acceptance is nearly always a daily part of my life I'll join you in this to attempt a perfect month.
Self acceptance is different from emotional distress or depression, but they effect each other and make me ask "Am I stupid for doing this?". There's usually one day a month when emotions go wacko, and it eventually gets beaten back. I don't know about the rest of you, but when something goes wrong like that I have to kick myself the next day for being so god damned reckless with my emotions. :eusa_wall:
A perfect month? I'll go for it.
Quote from: kathyk on April 02, 2014, 09:43:47 AM
Hmmm. OK, even though self acceptance is nearly always a daily part of my life I'll join you in this to attempt a perfect month.
Self acceptance is different from emotional distress or depression, but they effect each other and make me ask "Am I stupid for doing this?". There's usually one day a month when emotions go wacko, and it eventually gets beaten back. I don't know about the rest of you, but when something goes wrong like that I have to kick myself the next day for being so god damned reckless with my emotions. :eusa_wall:
A perfect month? I'll go for it.
Thanks Kathyk! I go through the same thing! "Am I stupid for doing this?" So many times I ask myself that. I never thought of it that way. Being reckless with emotions.
There's nothing more attractive than a tall woman. <3
That last one on your list makes me wonder about something, though. I've never been involved in any "socialization" one way or the other. I've always been a shy recluse. I've never thought about it this way before, but was that a blessing in disguise? Maybe I've inadvertently saved myself from the pain of having the full experience of male socialization.
Quote from: Pikachu on April 02, 2014, 10:39:09 AM
There's nothing more attractive than a tall woman. <3
That last one on your list makes me wonder about something, though. I've never been involved in any "socialization" one way or the other. I've always been a shy recluse. I've never thought about it this way before, but was that a blessing in disguise? Maybe I've inadvertently saved myself from the pain of having the full experience of male socialization.
OMG Pikachu!! I just got you to lv 40 on Pokemon X!
Just kidding.
I think that in a way you are lucky that you don't have to unlearn all that male crap. At the same time, life a male has made me into a transgender super hero (at least in my own head).
I need to accept that I'll never look female without my wig. I look in the bathroom mirror and have so much trouble saying "yes, that's a woman" if I don't have it on. I have to accept that I'll never look like the traditional woman but that's ok, because I have a female heart, and that makes me as much of a woman as I need to be.
Quote from: Lara the Lover and the Fighter on April 02, 2014, 10:52:18 AM
OMG Pikachu!! I just got you to lv 40 on Pokemon X!
Just kidding.
I think that in a way you are lucky that you don't have to unlearn all that male crap. At the same time, life a male has made me into a transgender super hero (at least in my own head).
Hehe~ I don't know if you're a superhero, but I think you have a charming personality and I always find you uplifting to be around. :)
Quote from: suzifrommd on April 02, 2014, 10:59:52 AM
I need to accept that I'll never look female without my wig. I look in the bathroom mirror and have so much trouble saying "yes, that's a woman" if I don't have it on. I have to accept that I'll never look like the traditional woman but that's ok, because I have a female heart, and that makes me as much of a woman as I need to be.
The heart is the most beautiful part of any woman. :)
Quote from: Pikachu on April 02, 2014, 11:32:08 AM
Hehe~ I don't know if you're a superhero, but I think you have a charming personality and I always find you uplifting to be around. :)
The heart is the most beautiful part of any woman. :)
Just you wait till I learn to fly!! Then Ill be a superhero. lol
Thank you.
Quote from: suzifrommd on April 02, 2014, 10:59:52 AM
I need to accept that I'll never look female without my wig. I look in the bathroom mirror and have so much trouble saying "yes, that's a woman" if I don't have it on. I have to accept that I'll never look like the traditional woman but that's ok, because I have a female heart, and that makes me as much of a woman as I need to be.
You are absolutely right. A female heart IS what is important. I always knew this but only now am I learning this as an experience. Not just as knowledge.
I'm actually having trouble with the fact no one treats me or thinks of em as a man anymore. I liked being so androgynous, apparently. I tried to use my friend's disability pass to get onto SEPTA and the woman made me take it out and said I couldn't use it unless I could prove I was a man with ID. I told her I was trans and she laughed and said "try again. Use that on me again and I'm calling those police officers over here. So i started crying (very manly, yes?) and begging her not to call the police over and she said fine and I paid the full fare. Hey every dollar counts; my thing isn't going to get rid of itself. This happened a week ago too, but I told the woman I was trans and she was all happy for me. Now, it's like yeah, sure. I think it's my body. But at these septa stand all they see is my face. I'm wearing som makeup but nothing dramatic. Well mascare, but ive been wearing that since forever.
I know this sounds so stupid but it really is a case of getting exactly what you wanted and now I'm like...what do I do? My whole life has been one long, constant state of Dysphoria and there has never been one day that I did not actively think about this since I was about six. When I was six, as I knew society frowned upon this, I conned a friend into dressing up in his sister's clothes. I remember he said, wow you really look like a girl, but I look stupid. [Meaning him. not me] The first dream I remember involved me ripping up a red dress my mom gave me. i was very young when this happened, about four or five, since it was for my fifth Bday. I don't even know if I'm really trans because people have told me my whole ife I look like a girl, act like a girl, and should get a sex change. The get a sex change stuff started in HS and people bring up all kinds of things about Hermaphrodites around me.
But now I'm like I can't believe I'm really a woman now and have to show ID to prove otherwise. I know for girls who are unpassable this most sound horrid, but I feel like I've been thrown in the deep end all of the sudden and women want to be besties with me, guys are so so nice to me, it's just so different. And my mom, my mom! She even treats me like a girl now and I have to call her and tell her where I am and last night she even gave me dating advice.
So, this month, I want to try and accept my luckiness and thank God for it.
I accept these things really , I just want dysphoria to end,,,
Quote from: Joanna Dark on April 02, 2014, 11:57:59 AM
I'm actually having trouble with the fact no one treats me or thinks of em as a man anymore. I liked being so androgynous, apparently. I tried to use my friend's disability pass to get onto SEPTA and the woman made me take it out and said I couldn't use it unless I could prove I was a man with ID. I told her I was trans and she laughed and said "try again. Use that on me again and I'm calling those police officers over here. So i started crying (very manly, yes?) and begging her not to call the police over and she said fine and I paid the full fare. Hey every dollar counts; my thing isn't going to get rid of itself. This happened a week ago too, but I told the woman I was trans and she was all happy for me. Now, it's like yeah, sure. I think it's my body. But at these septa stand all they see is my face. I'm wearing som makeup but nothing dramatic. Well mascare, but ive been wearing that since forever.
I know this sounds so stupid but it really is a case of getting exactly what you wanted and now I'm like...what do I do? My whole life has been one long, constant state of Dysphoria and there has never been one day that I did not actively think about this since I was about six. When I was six, as I knew society frowned upon this, I conned a friend into dressing up in his sister's clothes. I remember he said, wow you really look like a girl, but I look stupid. [Meaning him. not me] The first dream I remember involved me ripping up a red dress my mom gave me. i was very young when this happened, about four or five, since it was for my fifth Bday. I don't even know if I'm really trans because people have told me my whole ife I look like a girl, act like a girl, and should get a sex change. The get a sex change stuff started in HS and people bring up all kinds of things about Hermaphrodites around me.
But now I'm like I can't believe I'm really a woman now and have to show ID to prove otherwise. I know for girls who are unpassable this most sound horrid, but I feel like I've been thrown in the deep end all of the sudden and women want to be besties with me, guys are so so nice to me, it's just so different. And my mom, my mom! She even treats me like a girl now and I have to call her and tell her where I am and last night she even gave me dating advice.
So, this month, I want to try and accept my luckiness and thank God for it.
I so can't wait until this happens to me... Well, besides the guys being nice to me. I don't trust men for the most part. I always think there's some ulterior motive behind their kindness. I've already experienced a ton of sleazy come ons from them just identifying as female online. I hope I never, ever have to experience that crap in person.
But I'm looking forward to the rest of it. My mum and I have already become much closer since I came out to her. My mum and I getting along seems like nothing short of a miracle after our long, dysfunctional history and I'm very thankful for that. Whether girls will feel more friendly towards me, I'll probably never know, since I'm becoming more friendly myself the more I transition. So it could just be that.
Never, ever been "mistaken" for a girl offline. I think I might cry from happiness when that finally happens.
Quote from: Joanna Dark on April 02, 2014, 11:57:59 AM
"I liked being so androgynous, apparently."
So, this month, I want to try and accept my luckiness and thank God for it.
You know, I often wonder if I will feel the same way later on? hmmmmm interesting.
Either way, lets thank God for the "now". :D
Quote from: FalsePrincess on April 02, 2014, 12:17:33 PM
I accept these things really , I just want dysphoria to end,,,
I agree so much FalsePrincess. I wish there was a way whether we transition or not that we could just turn off the dysphoria by pressing a button. I would press it for you and me.
Quote from: Pikachu on April 02, 2014, 02:07:22 PM
Never, ever been "mistaken" for a girl offline. I think I might cry from happiness when that finally happens.
Well maybe if we were dittos we would have no problems? Im sorry Im so hooked on pokemon x right now.
We will get there eventually even if we are not Dittos.
I fully accept that I'm crazy, a little weird and kind of ugly. So I'm good. ;D
Quote from: piglet smith on April 02, 2014, 04:59:12 PM
I fully accept that I'm crazy, a little weird and kind of ugly. So I'm good. ;D
I would say the same about myself. Although I like to use the phrase " a bit....off" instead. :D
I'm working at getting the my make up to last a 12 hour shift
I'm working at getting the courage time and opportunity to tell my mother before she goes to Queensland
I'm working at accepting the face that looks back at me in the mirror on work days
I'm working at accepting me for me
I have always felt like giant at 6;3 251 LBS BUT have lost 12 lbs already.Now this might sound strange but the hair on breast got to go first! Don,t mind shaving face if working on other parts first.Started working on voice but i can see that will take awhile .. my wife is good at saying lets hear you work on your girl voice ( i know i am lucky that she with me for life ) . goals on my final out come is like if i am happy /loved by my wife/ if only 65% passable versus cis gal looks i will adjust to it with a smile .(lets be real theres no 100% anything so putting cis goals is just setting yourself up for failure ).I don,t have the pressure that some gals do but hey ... 50 yrs old, growing boobs and alive .... aka sara
Hee! Totally off-topic, but I love your new avatar, Lara. I missed the one with the cute bunny ears. You make a cute bull, too.
You'd be such a cute pokemon.
Quote from: Lara the Lover and the Fighter on April 02, 2014, 07:55:00 AM
I am:
-taller than most CIS women
-larger than most CIS women
-working on getting rid of my beard
-working on my voice
-not socialized as a woman
What do you accept about yourself today?
Everything! :icon_ballbounce:
Btw - Tall women rock! http://www.imdb.com/list/4Su1yZ6vgNc/
Quote from: Shantel on April 02, 2014, 06:57:49 PM
Everything! :icon_ballbounce:
Btw - Tall women rock! http://www.imdb.com/list/4Su1yZ6vgNc/
This is why you are my hero Aunty Shan.
Quote from: Pikachu on April 02, 2014, 06:34:22 PM
Hee! Totally off-topic, but I love your new avatar, Lara. I missed the one with the cute bunny ears. You make a cute bull, too.
You'd be such a cute pokemon.
I have an obsession with being an animal. Its weird! As longs as its a female animal. If its a pokemon it would have to be Sylveon.
Thanks Pikachu!
Quote from: fusstangtroy on April 02, 2014, 06:03:04 PM
I have always felt like giant at 6;3 251 LBS BUT have lost 12 lbs already.Now this might sound strange but the hair on breast got to go first! Don,t mind shaving face if working on other parts first.Started working on voice but i can see that will take awhile .. my wife is good at saying lets hear you work on your girl voice ( i know i am lucky that she with me for life ) . goals on my final out come is like if i am happy /loved by my wife/ if only 65% passable versus cis gal looks i will adjust to it with a smile .(lets be real theres no 100% anything so putting cis goals is just setting yourself up for failure ).I don,t have the pressure that some gals do but hey ... 50 yrs old, growing boobs and alive .... aka sara
I love to hear about supportive spouses. Transitioning is so hard for us but it can be just as hard for spouses. You are very fortunate!
Quote from: immortal gypsy on April 02, 2014, 05:48:24 PM
I'm working at getting the my make up to last a 12 hour shift
I'm working at getting the courage time and opportunity to tell my mother before she goes to Queensland
I'm working at accepting the face that looks back at me in the mirror on work days
I'm working at accepting me for me
For courage become the samurai. Run into battle with your stomach tightened and scream like a beast! Run head first and be a wild boar ramming into your prey. In other words.....you can do it! Tell you mom!
Quote from: piglet smith on April 02, 2014, 04:59:12 PM
I fully accept that I'm crazy, a little weird and kind of ugly. So I'm good. ;D
Quote from: Laura Squirrel on April 02, 2014, 05:15:26 PM
I would say the same about myself. Although I like to use the phrase " a bit....off" instead. :D
In this crazy world, weird is good. A bit off is even better. :D
Quote from: Lara the Lover and the Fighter on April 02, 2014, 08:47:10 PM
In this crazy world, weird is good. A bit off is even better. :D
:D Some people don't get it, though. Especially when it revolves around an interest (or obsession, some would say) in/with anthropomorphic porcupines and squirrels. :D
Quote from: Laura Squirrel on April 02, 2014, 09:23:02 PM
:D Some people don't get it, though. Especially when it revolves around an interest (or obsession, some would say) in/with anthropomorphic porcupines and squirrels. :D
At least you can stick to one animal. My avatar is a bull for example. The other day I was a bunny. Before that I was a turtle. Last week I was a monkey. The list goes on! Never a human.
Squirrels are cute!
Quote from: Lara the Lover and the Fighter on April 03, 2014, 06:13:27 AM
At least you can stick to one animal. My avatar is a bull for example. The other day I was a bunny. Before that I was a turtle. Last week I was a monkey. The list goes on! Never a human.
Squirrels are cute!
*Is waiting for you to be a less intimidating animal so she can pet you*
Quote from: Lara the Lover and the Fighter on April 03, 2014, 06:13:27 AM
At least you can stick to one animal. My avatar is a bull for example. The other day I was a bunny. Before that I was a turtle. Last week I was a monkey. The list goes on! Never a human.
Squirrels are cute!
Well, for quite a while, it was many variations of this little cutie:
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.80scartoons.co.uk%2Fget-along-gang%2Fportia-porcupine.jpg&hash=579cb73ed10f620467239f19cc3526be90cd633d)
Portia Porcupine. The greatest cartoon character EVER!!
Then, once I found an artist that was available to draw up a few original characters for a fanfic series that I am writing, that is when the one you see in the avatar showed up: Laura Squirrel. A 15 year old genetic female lesbian. The stories revolve around the Get Along Gang but it is set in the future with them as high school students. (Along with a ton of original characters, including a 15 year old porcupine transgirl)
Eventually, I plan on having an image of the Laura Squirrel character and a 15 year old version of Portia Porcupine together. Once that is done, that will become my new avatar.
;D
Quote from: Pikachu on April 03, 2014, 07:50:00 AM
*Is waiting for you to be a less intimidating animal so she can pet you*
I'm gearing up to be a llama. Just give me a day or two. lol
Quote from: Laura Squirrel on April 03, 2014, 10:23:41 AM
Well, for quite a while, it was many variations of this little cutie:
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.80scartoons.co.uk%2Fget-along-gang%2Fportia-porcupine.jpg&hash=579cb73ed10f620467239f19cc3526be90cd633d)
Portia Porcupine. The greatest cartoon character EVER!!
Then, once I found an artist that was available to draw up a few original characters for a fanfic series that I am writing, that is when the one you see in the avatar showed up: Laura Squirrel. A 15 year old genetic female lesbian. The stories revolve around the Get Along Gang but it is set in the future with them as high school students. (Along with a ton of original characters, including a 15 year old porcupine transgirl)
Eventually, I plan on having an image of the Laura Squirrel character and a 15 year old version of Portia Porcupine together. Once that is done, that will become my new avatar.
;D
I would LOVE to read your fan fiction!
Quote from: Lara the Lover and the Fighter on April 03, 2014, 11:22:45 AM
I would LOVE to read your fan fiction!
Well, I would post some of it here in my little slot in the "Blog Universe", but there is some swearing and they do like to get stoned, so I'm not so sure that could work here. Maybe if I find another site to post things on, I will link it here.
Quote from: Laura Squirrel on April 03, 2014, 11:25:56 AM
Well, I would post some of it here in my little slot in the "Blog Universe", but there is some swearing and they do like to get stoned, so I'm not so sure that could work here. Maybe if I find another site to post things on, I will link it here.
There are a ton of fanfiction hosting sites, you know. Probably the most popular is fanfiction.net
Quote from: Laura Squirrel on April 03, 2014, 11:25:56 AM
Well, I would post some of it here in my little slot in the "Blog Universe", but there is some swearing and they do like to get stoned, so I'm not so sure that could work here. Maybe if I find another site to post things on, I will link it here.
Don't forget to link it or I'll throw a potato at you! >:-)
Quote from: Pikachu on April 03, 2014, 12:33:49 PM
There are a ton of fanfiction hosting sites, you know. Probably the most popular is fanfiction.net
I already checked them out. I can't post the stuff there since they had one rule in particular that said you couldn't reference actual people (in my case, several bands of various styles are mentioned since a few of the characters are music freaks. I won't edit anything whatsoever just to conform to some stupid rule, so that site is a no-go.)
Quote from: Laura Squirrel on April 03, 2014, 02:03:46 PM
I already checked them out. I can't post the stuff there since they had one rule in particular that said you couldn't reference actual people (in my case, several bands of various styles are mentioned since a few of the characters are music freaks. I won't edit anything whatsoever just to conform to some stupid rule, so that site is a no-go.)
Well that sucks. I didn't know they had that rule. It's certainly broken enough, lol.
Quote from: Laura Squirrel on April 03, 2014, 02:03:46 PM
I already checked them out. I can't post the stuff there since they had one rule in particular that said you couldn't reference actual people (in my case, several bands of various styles are mentioned since a few of the characters are music freaks. I won't edit anything whatsoever just to conform to some stupid rule, so that site is a no-go.)
You can post it on my website if you want.....
Quote from: Laura Squirrel on April 03, 2014, 03:02:47 PM
Okay.
pm me or my scatter brain shall forget. (sheesh this thread got side tracked. lol) Im making macarons!! :D
Oh no! We've got to rescue Lara's thread!
Um... what was the original topic? Trying to accept something about ourselves or set a goal for improvement this month?
Let's see...
I guess I need to accept that I will never have small, girly feet that look super cute in pink shoes. It's just a sad fact of life. I'm pretty sure HRT doesn't shrink your feet, and I've never heard of foot feminization surgery, lol.
Nothing else is coming to mind immediately... I've already made peace with my height, and I've mostly made peace with my rapidly increasing baldness.
As for resolutions, I'm finally going to stick to my diet/exercise plan! *determined* I'm eating 1,500 calories per day and walking 7 miles.
Can I have a macaroon?
Lara are they coconut macaroons? Save some for me hon!
Its macarons not macaroons. LOL
and sure you can all have some!
here are macarons, they have almonds:
(I learned about them from an episode of pokemon)
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fupload.wikimedia.org%2Fwikipedia%2Fcommons%2Ff%2Ffc%2FMulti-coloured_macarons%2C_September_2010.jpg&hash=16f16a5ecc58e0a596bd7b36e5d584f9e8cc6a0c)
here are macaroons, maybe I'll make those next:
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fsweetandsaucy.files.wordpress.com%2F2009%2F12%2Fcoconut_apricot_macaroons.jpg&hash=5bff8648df5aba29b079b7bd42298db93249525d)
Quote from: Pikachu on April 03, 2014, 07:45:24 PM
Oh no! We've got to rescue Lara's thread!
Um... what was the original topic? Trying to accept something about ourselves or set a goal for improvement this month?
Let's see...
I guess I need to accept that I will never have small, girly feet that look super cute in pink shoes. It's just a sad fact of life. I'm pretty sure HRT doesn't shrink your feet, and I've never heard of foot feminization surgery, lol.
Nothing else is coming to mind immediately... I've already made peace with my height, and I've mostly made peace with my rapidly increasing baldness.
As for resolutions, I'm finally going to stick to my diet/exercise plan! *determined* I'm eating 1,500 calories per day and walking 7 miles.
Can I have a macaroon?
Thanks for getting this back on track. lol
Foot feminization surgery sounds painful. Some people say that their feet shrink on HRT. I think it's hog wash but I fit a size 8 the other day and I'm a 9 1/2. Perhaps the legend is true!
Quote from: Lara the Lover and the Fighter on April 03, 2014, 09:51:26 PM
Some people say that their feet shrink on HRT. I think it's hog wash but I fit a size 8 the other day and I'm a 9 1/2. Perhaps the legend is true!
Well, the bones obviously can't shrink, but loss of fat and muscle mass is what does it.
Quote from: Laura Squirrel on April 03, 2014, 09:53:07 PM
Well, the bones obviously can't shrink, but loss of fat and muscle mass is what does it.
My feet were pretty fat....
Like fred flinstone. Im glad I don't have to accept fred flinstone feet anymore. XD
Samurais have too much honor for me. Stealth, guile and darkness are my allies
A prince being thus obliged to know well how to act as a beast must imitate the fox and the lion, for the lion cannot protect himself from snares, and the fox cannot defend himself from wolves. One must therefore be a fox to recognise snares, and a lion to frighten wolves. Those that wish to be only lions do not understand this.
I had the ground I knew my retreats my speech was planned all that matters now is first contact.
You don't avoid such a war, you merely postpone it, to your own disadvantage
I was told she new it was coming since Christmas if she had asked I would of told. For I can not lie.
All in all Lara I faced the my mum and told her
Quote from: Lara the Lover and the Fighter on April 03, 2014, 09:47:44 PM
Its macarons not macaroons. LOL
and sure you can all have some!
here are macarons, they have almonds:
(I learned about them from an episode of pokemon)
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fupload.wikimedia.org%2Fwikipedia%2Fcommons%2Ff%2Ffc%2FMulti-coloured_macarons%2C_September_2010.jpg&hash=16f16a5ecc58e0a596bd7b36e5d584f9e8cc6a0c)
here are macaroons, maybe I'll make those next:
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fsweetandsaucy.files.wordpress.com%2F2009%2F12%2Fcoconut_apricot_macaroons.jpg&hash=5bff8648df5aba29b079b7bd42298db93249525d)
Macarons look even tastier than macaroons. I want one~ *mouth waters*
Quote from: immortal gypsy on April 03, 2014, 10:21:57 PM
Samurais have too much honor for me. Stealth, guile and darkness are my allies
A prince being thus obliged to know well how to act as a beast must imitate the fox and the lion, for the lion cannot protect himself from snares, and the fox cannot defend himself from wolves. One must therefore be a fox to recognise snares, and a lion to frighten wolves. Those that wish to be only lions do not understand this.
I had the ground I knew my retreats my speech was planned all that matters now is first contact.
You don't avoid such a war, you merely postpone it, to your own disadvantage
I was told she new it was coming since Christmas if she had asked I would of told. For I can not lie.
All in all Lara I faced the my mum and told her
I don't know whats better. The fact that you told your mom or the awesome way you wrote that.
Im so happy for you!
What I have accepted hmmm.
That I will be bigger than most boys/guys when I have my boots on with 1,5-2 inch heels (i'm already at 6' without)
My high hairline.
The ex-balding spot on the top of my head (I put some powder on it to camoflage it, because a wig is overkill for such a small spot).
That I will stay wacky.
The emotional outbursts and being so sensitive.
I pass as both a young man and a young woman at the same time (people are confused at times, especially a roomy who didn't know I was trans* she knows it now though and accepts me).
My face still sees male (though it will most likely will change, my face still bothers me alot I keep seeing my old pre-HRT face).
My somewhat big feet.
Luckily my figure is great and i have delicate hands and long small fingers, so I don't have a problem to accept that (a good girlfriend of mine was jealous at my figure and my hands and she said she wanted to have them xD)
Quote from: meganB on April 04, 2014, 07:11:51 AM
What I have accepted hmmm.
That I will be bigger than most boys/guys when I have my boots on with 1,5-2 inch heels (i'm already at 6' without)
My high hairline.
The ex-balding spot on the top of my head (I put some powder on it to camoflage it, because a wig is overkill for such a small spot).
That I will stay wacky.
The emotional outbursts and being so sensitive.
I pass as both a young man and a young woman at the same time (people are confused at times, especially a roomy who didn't know I was trans* she knows it now though and accepts me).
My face still sees male (though it will most likely will change, my face still bothers me alot I keep seeing my old pre-HRT face).
My somewhat big feet.
Luckily my figure is great and i have delicate hands and long small fingers, so I don't have a problem to accept that (a good girlfriend of mine was jealous at my figure and my hands and she said she wanted to have them xD)
You use powder on a bald spot? How do you do that and keep it looking natural? Just curious. I have a troublesome spot with my hair.
Also, passing as a young man and a woman at the same time.....is that why people give me such strange looks all the time?? Do you get them too??
Lastly, will we ever see our new appearance in the mirror? Will our old image ever fade away from our minds?
I find that a brown paper bag with eye holes works best for me! :D ;D :laugh:
Quote from: Shantel on April 05, 2014, 10:14:56 AM
I find that a brown paper bag with eye holes works best for me! :D ;D :laugh:
Hilarious. XD
I finally decided to take a look at this thread. This is great!
I accept that:
I am taller than most people (6'2" without shoes)
My job will identify me as male until I start applying to jobs as a female
People will misgender me regularly unless I'm wearing makeup
I am a woman, no matter what people think
There is way too much emphasis on what's between my legs
Shoes aren't gonna fit
I love:
My body frame
My friends who all identify me as Alyssa, and have had no problem in dealing with my transition
My roommates who are being so wonderful to me, taking me in, and letting me get back on my feet after my hell of a relationship that I just got out of
This forum for having people on it who are there for me when I need them, but brutally honest when ->-bleeped-<- doesn't fly
^_^
Quote from: WFane on April 05, 2014, 01:26:44 PM
I finally decided to take a look at this thread. This is great!
I accept that:
I am taller than most people (6'2" without shoes)
My job will identify me as male until I start applying to jobs as a female
People will misgender me regularly unless I'm wearing makeup
I am a woman, no matter what people think
There is way too much emphasis on what's between my legs
Shoes aren't gonna fit
I love:
My body frame
My friends who all identify me as Alyssa, and have had no problem in dealing with my transition
My roommates who are being so wonderful to me, taking me in, and letting me get back on my feet after my hell of a relationship that I just got out of
This forum for having people on it who are there for me when I need them, but brutally honest when ->-bleeped-<- doesn't fly
^_^
Awesome! Thanks for joining us!
Great choices on your acceptance and the things that you love. I love that you are here with us. :)
These were my favorite lines:
I am a woman, no matter what people think
There is way too much emphasis on what's between my legs
Very well said.
Quote from: Lara the Lover and the Fighter on April 05, 2014, 08:06:01 PM
Awesome! Thanks for joining us!
Great choices on your acceptance and the things that you love. I love that you are here with us. :)
These were my favorite lines:
I am a woman, no matter what people think
There is way too much emphasis on what's between my legs
Very well said.
Yeah I like those lines too, she's sweet!
Teehee ^_^
Thank you!
I gotta admit, a lot of my views on how to be comfortable with who I am, and how I'm going to react to others reactions to me comes from Cindy on this forum. It doesn't come easy, but it's a great outlook on life, and more often than not, I find myself in that mindset. I mean, obviously there's a line between not giving a crap what others think of you, and common courtesy, but I find that what a lot of MtF women have a problem with is accepting the fact that it's not a bad thing to think of yourself first. Until you can figure out who you are, and how to deal with your own comfort levels, you really shouldn't be bending and compensating for everyone else.
Quote from: WFane on April 06, 2014, 12:23:49 AM
Teehee ^_^
Thank you!
I gotta admit, a lot of my views on how to be comfortable with who I am, and how I'm going to react to others reactions to me comes from Cindy on this forum. It doesn't come easy, but it's a great outlook on life, and more often than not, I find myself in that mindset. I mean, obviously there's a line between not giving a crap what others think of you, and common courtesy, but I find that what a lot of MtF women have a problem with is accepting the fact that it's not a bad thing to think of yourself first. Until you can figure out who you are, and how to deal with your own comfort levels, you really shouldn't be bending and compensating for everyone else.
Perfect! There's always going to be some lamer that just has to say something, lol whether you keep it real or not in that situation is your call. It's demotivating at times, but it takes a lot of heat to make strong steel! :D
Oh right okay I acknowledge that...
1 - Girls your not alone, I'am 6'2 :(
2 - Ew I have big feet kinda, sorta bigg-ish
3 - Can't believe I wrote that
4 - Your probably thinking of clowns at this point :(
5 - Kinda wide shouldered
6 - Too thin
Quote from: Marieee on April 06, 2014, 12:49:17 AM
Perfect! There's always going to be some lamer that just has to say something, lol whether you keep it real or not in that situation is your call. It's demotivating at times, but it takes a lot of heat to make strong steel! :D
Oh right okay I acknowledge that...
1 - Girls your not alone, I'am 6'2 :(
2 - Ew I have big feet kinda, sorta bigg-ish
3 - Can't believe I wrote that
4 - Your probably thinking of clowns at this point :(
5 - Kinda wide shouldered
6 - Too thin
How thin is too thin? As long as we are eating right and not losing or putting on weight at an alarming rate, shoud we not learn to embrase our bodies for all its quirks. For all those who try us otherwise please feel free to continue this discussion with me in Room 101
Quote from: WFane on April 06, 2014, 12:23:49 AM
Teehee ^_^
Thank you!
I gotta admit, a lot of my views on how to be comfortable with who I am, and how I'm going to react to others reactions to me comes from Cindy on this forum. It doesn't come easy, but it's a great outlook on life, and more often than not, I find myself in that mindset. I mean, obviously there's a line between not giving a crap what others think of you, and common courtesy, but I find that what a lot of MtF women have a problem with is accepting the fact that it's not a bad thing to think of yourself first. Until you can figure out who you are, and how to deal with your own comfort levels, you really shouldn't be bending and compensating for everyone else.
Yeah Cindy is cool. She's all "I am who I am and I don't give a crap what you think. I look good!" (thats not paraphrased btw). There is nothing wrong with thinking of yourself. How can you be there for others if you are not there for yourself?
Quote from: Marieee on April 06, 2014, 12:49:17 AM
Perfect! There's always going to be some lamer that just has to say something, lol whether you keep it real or not in that situation is your call. It's demotivating at times, but it takes a lot of heat to make strong steel! :D
Oh right okay I acknowledge that...
1 - Girls your not alone, I'am 6'2 :(
2 - Ew I have big feet kinda, sorta bigg-ish
3 - Can't believe I wrote that
4 - Your probably thinking of clowns at this point :(
5 - Kinda wide shouldered
6 - Too thin
Hah! I bought some converse allstars. The lowtops. Now everyone in the house says I have clown shoes. MY FEET AREN'T THAT BIG! lol
I really like the steel analogy.
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fgalleryplus.ebayimg.com%2Fws%2Fweb%2F251352364938_1_0_1%2F1000x1000.jpg&hash=1d2a5bd3f54ad353c077bf629efa120cacab185c)
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.clown-forum.com%2Fpicture.php%3Falbumid%3D27%26amp%3Bpictureid%3D5249&hash=659f7f299ed6b5642a1fef3ecabe669af74faff9)
Quote from: Lara the Lover and the Fighter on April 06, 2014, 06:34:10 AM
Yeah Cindy is cool. She's all "I am who I am and I don't give a crap what you think. I look good!" (thats not paraphrased btw). There is nothing wrong with thinking of yourself. How can you be there for others if you are not there for yourself?
Hah! I bought some converse allstars. The lowtops. Now everyone in the house says I have clown shoes. MY FEET AREN'T THAT BIG! lol
I really like the steel analogy.
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fgalleryplus.ebayimg.com%2Fws%2Fweb%2F251352364938_1_0_1%2F1000x1000.jpg&hash=1d2a5bd3f54ad353c077bf629efa120cacab185c)
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.clown-forum.com%2Fpicture.php%3Falbumid%3D27%26amp%3Bpictureid%3D5249&hash=659f7f299ed6b5642a1fef3ecabe669af74faff9)
Converse low tops are always awesome and no way look like clown shoes.
These are my latest "Clown Shoes," women's mules, they suit my androgynous presentation and feel like slippers. Also got another pair of women's strappy sandals for summertime.
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fimagizer.imageshack.us%2Fv2%2F280x200q90%2F822%2Fumk2.jpg&hash=4e03158163a73a6783ae2c2196e5beeada085b71) (https://imageshack.com/i/muumk2j)
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fimagizer.imageshack.us%2Fv2%2F280x200q90%2F855%2Fcqat.jpg&hash=e6df3696d50fd22485ca022752568244609e6bec) (https://imageshack.com/i/nrcqatj)
Quote from: Shantel on April 06, 2014, 11:14:19 AM
These are my latest "Clown Shoes," women's mules, they suit my androgynous presentation and feel like slippers. Also got another pair of women's strappy sandals for summertime.
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fimagizer.imageshack.us%2Fv2%2F280x200q90%2F822%2Fumk2.jpg&hash=4e03158163a73a6783ae2c2196e5beeada085b71) (https://imageshack.com/i/muumk2j)
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fimagizer.imageshack.us%2Fv2%2F280x200q90%2F855%2Fcqat.jpg&hash=e6df3696d50fd22485ca022752568244609e6bec) (https://imageshack.com/i/nrcqatj)
I especially like the ones on top. They look really comfortable.
Quote from: Lara the Lover and the Fighter on April 06, 2014, 11:21:25 AM
I especially like the ones on top. They look really comfortable.
They are, I got them from the women's section at Duluth Trading Company of all places, the outfit with the outrageous commercials that advertise shirts with extra long tails so you won't show your butt crack. lol :D
I bought some great fitting colorful women's long sleeve Henley T shirts there too, they look nice unbuttoned over a women's tank top.
Thanks Lara, Converse are cool 8) Owned a couple low top too back in the day same color too.
Oh yeah I have a kinda small car too lol!
Shantel those are cute and they do look warm. Love the fuzzy bottoms!
Quote from: Lara the Lover and the Fighter on April 05, 2014, 08:22:40 AM
You use powder on a bald spot? How do you do that and keep it looking natural? Just curious. I have a troublesome spot with my hair.
Also, passing as a young man and a woman at the same time.....is that why people give me such strange looks all the time?? Do you get them too??
Lastly, will we ever see our new appearance in the mirror? Will our old image ever fade away from our minds?
Well it's not an compleet bald spot, but a spot that was almost bald, very thin hairs (if I waited a year it would have been a bald spot, but luckily I started just in time with hrt). The powder is some kind of hair building fiber in my hair colour (it only works if you at least have some hairs there, I think). My hairdresser came with it when I came out to her (I have been going for years to the same hairdresser). It's called Toppik and available in different colors (I'm sorry if I break any rules about advertising it's not my intent, I just want to say what I use).
Most of the time I pass as a woman (like 95% of the time), but if I wear certain cloths or if I wear my head phone I become androgyn (somewhere in between male/female). If I want to pass as male I just change my hair style a bit and lower my voice and poof I'm a somewhat feminine young man (always have been like that prior to comming out, though my breasts might ruin the passing as male).
The face problem is getting better since I'm on hrt, but sometimes I still see my old face and that stings.
Converse, my life savers. Using a pair of leather ones with wool on the inside. Lovely warm feet in the winter.
Quote from: meganB on April 07, 2014, 02:37:26 AM
Well it's not an compleet bald spot, but a spot that was almost bald, very thin hairs (if I waited a year it would have been a bald spot, but luckily I started just in time with hrt). The powder is some kind of hair building fiber in my hair colour (it only works if you at least have some hairs there, I think). My hairdresser came with it when I came out to her (I have been going for years to the same hairdresser). It's called Toppik and available in different colors (I'm sorry if I break any rules about advertising it's not my intent, I just want to say what I use).
Most of the time I pass as a woman (like 95% of the time), but if I wear certain cloths or if I wear my head phone I become androgyn (somewhere in between male/female). If I want to pass as male I just change my hair style a bit and lower my voice and poof I'm a somewhat feminine young man (always have been like that prior to comming out, though my breasts might ruin the passing as male).
The face problem is getting better since I'm on hrt, but sometimes I still see my old face and that stings.
Converse, my life savers. Using a pair of leather ones with wool on the inside. Lovely warm feet in the winter.
Interesting. Toppiks. You see I have this weird hairline that is usually covered up. I mean its not bad its just weird. This is something I may look into.
OMG!! Leather converse with wool..... That sounds amazing!
I don't have anything I accept right off the top of my head right now, but I thought I would say I love your optimism Lara! A lot of us need it. Dysphoria was pretty bad yesterday, even ranted about it a little on facebook. Anyways enough whining. At least my new wig is going to be here soon!
Quote from: Two Bodies/Same Soul on April 07, 2014, 10:04:07 AM
I don't have anything I accept right off the top of my head right now, but I thought I would say I love your optimism Lara! A lot of us need it. Dysphoria was pretty bad yesterday, even ranted about it a little on facebook. Anyways enough whining. At least my new wig is going to be here soon!
No worries. Everything will get better and better. Lets just accept that you have nothing to accept right now and you will have something later. Enjoy the wig and speaking of facebook...thanks for liking One Body Per Lifetime. :D :D :D