I thought I'd post this here because I saw Nero's thread about 'hurt' and I thought, "I wonder about the bright side?".
For me, being able to relate to both sexes in an intimate way is really refreshing and usefull.
I get along with both, and can help bridge the gap.
I also like aspects of each so as being able to esperience both is to me, a great blessing.
That and fashon, I definitely set my own style! That Rocks!
-Sarah
What do you like about it?
EDIT: I included the words MTF and FTM as there was some confusion over what the meaning of "trans" meant with regard to this thread. Hopefully these additions will clarify that.
Hi, Sarah,
Being transsexual has been and continues to be a wonderful experience for me. I give my Creator thanks every day for this inestimable gift I have been given.
I have been blessed with living two lives in one lifetime, all in the same body.
The HRT has worked pretty well for me physically, mentally, and emotionally. I am at last holding onto my dream of "being a girl." Some of us get there the easy way, some a bit harder, and some not at all. I am blessed.
My partner share a mutual love and that is something that three marriages never did.
Clothes are clothes but yes, I like shopping and occasionally buying.
I have been blessed with more empathy and the ability feel much deeper, and to care more about others without silly-assed questions about my motives.
All of these happened after I started HRT. It was like my physical brain was re-wired and I love it.
Yes, I need to lose weight but I have all of the padding I could hope for.
I finally like myself.
Thank you for asking.
Wing Walker
Enjoying Every Second of This Flight
I'm delighted for you Wing-Walker. Best wishes of even more happyness, love, joy, good health and good spirit, good company, fun, peace, abundance (it helps for the shopping), successes and thrills for the future.
LLL&R
Maebh
Getting to lose 4x virginity's and do things most people can't dream of.
Not hating me anymore. Being ok with me
Being narcistic with transition
Having lived in both genders (however unsuccessfully) has given me a unique perspective on the subtle and automatic ways that people gender each other. I feel that I am better able to empathize and communicate with people, I am often like a bridge.
y2g
When I was in denial I normalized the depression and emotional repression and that became my "standard" state. Now that I'm accepting who I am everything seems brighter and more intense. It's like having coq au vin after a lifetime of gruel.
Val
I have already lived an amazingly rich and varied life, this is just another way to experience more out of my short time here than most people will. The chance to mold a second life from puberty ;D is also an amazing opportunity. The biggest thing for me, is the love and support that I recieve from my wife/soulmate, our connection has gotten even deeper and stronger through all of this.
Alright, whew, enough positive for me, off to Nero's thread I go :laugh:
Ayana :icon_geekdance:
Quote from: Renate on December 24, 2007, 07:36:58 AM
The honesty is emancipating.
The chance to reinvent yourself from the ground up gives you a new life.
Renate
Indeed, it is, Renate. Now I have the chance to have a puberty that is actually enjoyable instead of the utter hell that was my first puberty.
The boat rocks.
I don't celebrate being trans.......it doesn't rock with me.....to me it sucks....
what really rocks is when people you meet have no idea you are transsexual and think you are a normal genetic female.........that what rocks for me.....
What I like the most is being incomprehensible to the nerds who run this society.
and knowing why I am incomprehensible, otherwise I'd also be incomprehensible to myself. And that don't rock.
Quote from: Berliegh on December 24, 2007, 04:00:09 PM
I don't celebrate being trans.......it doesn't rock with me.....to me it sucks....
what really rocks is when people you meet have no idea you are transsexual and think you are a normal genetic female.........that what rocks for me.....
That does rock more than anything else.
One thing that does rock: Taking nothing for granted anymore.
I agree with being seen as I present, Berliegh. That *does* indeed rock.
Have Merry Christmas!
Wing Walker
It's removed the phrase "I can't do that!" from my vocabulary.
~Kate~
When I was in grad school one of my teachers was fond of using the phrase "That's just the poverty of your imagination" meaning - if you think about it long enough, you will find different answers. Or that, at the very least, a clever person can find more than one way, more than one reason. So while the nature of this has changed much over the years this is just 'this years answer' I guess.
Being TG is an 'all bets are off' kind of deal. In the same way that I make sure at work that the first and only things everyone knows about me is that I'm really, really crazy and really, really good at what I do. It lets you off the hook for a lot of 'reasonable expectations' that other people want to constantly dump on you. It becomes "your preconceived ideas are not going to work, so lets just start without them" deal right off.
So I think that it had been key in allowing me the ability to define my own world to a much higher degree than other people seem to do.
And sex rocks as a ->-bleeped-<-. That's always been important to me. Since the conventional notions are pretty much gone, everything in the background moves forward a bit. Given my ability to almost shape-shift feelings, attitudes, and roles, my partners find more freedom to play and explore.
I don't think it has changed the direction of my life much, but it has shaped the contours of my world, while not ruling or demanding. It informs, suggests, and reacts with my life. All good things of my life seem to shape and suggest, its only the bad things in my life that seek to rule.
I truly appreciate all the responses I read.
My personal experience resonates with Renate's at present. I am just beginning to experience all these new thoughts, feelings and friends in my life. I feel empowered to be myself finally.
I also hope that one day I will feel the same way Berliegh feels when I can once and for all blend into the female community and just be me.
Whatever ....... this whole experience rocks with the joy that every day I look in the mirror and see the new me.
The accompanying pain is made bearable by the knowledge that I am finally on the right track.
Jenny
Kate, Amen! I could have never done what I have if I wasnt trans. I would have never wanted to. It is a gift, unlike any other we are given. I also agree with Berleigh, it is so nice to be accepted as the gender of which I present.
Posted to my blog about a year and a half ago:
Top Ten Really Nice Things About Being A Transsexual
10: No more pretending to be interested in football, baseball, basketball, hockey or NASCAR.
9: After spending thousands on hair removal, you can save a fortune on razor blades.
8: You're probably tall enough to see over the heads of the crowd at the Liz Phair concert.
7: One word: Pedicure!
6: No more performance anxiety.
5: Walking in heels isn't really as hard as everyone says.
4: Spending hours working on your voice keeps you from wasting time and money on frivolous things like books and movies.
3: When you gain weight, it all goes to your hips.
2: Guys no longer try to crush the bones of your hand when you're introduced.
1: Being called "ma'am".
Quote from: Maebh on December 24, 2007, 06:52:17 AM
I'm delighted for you Wing-Walker. Best wishes of even more happyness, love, joy, good health and good spirit, good company, fun, peace, abundance (it helps for the shopping), successes and thrills for the future.
LLL&R
Maebh
Thank you so much for your good will and your good wishes, Maebh. May you have the same, just doubled.
Sincerely,
Wing Walker
What rocks?
First: What comes to mind is 10 minute showers since I and the estrogen got rid of the body hair.
Second: Ability to feel deep intense emotion that I never thought were fathomable.
Third: Having the compassion love and care to help those in need.
Four: Having Wing Walker in my life. ;D
Merry Christmas
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Cindy
Quote from: cindybc on December 24, 2007, 10:13:02 PM
What rocks?
First: What comes to mind is 10 minute showers since I and the estrogen got rid of the body hair.
Second: Ability to feel deep intense emotion that I never thought were fathomable.
Third: Having the compassion love and care to help those in need.
Four: Having Wing Walker in my life. ;D
Merry Christmas
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Cindy
What rocks about being transsexual? Lots, and sometimes those rocks might be between my ears.
Being accepted by and sharing love and life with Cindy. I would not be here, nor would I know my happiness without her.
Sorry I was so lame, Hon.
Wing Walker :embarrassed:
Knowing everyone here at Susan's and all my trans friends that I know in person... wouldn't have met any of you if I wasn't trans in the first place. ;D
y2g
If I wasn't an empath sensitive and transsexual androgyn for a good many years, and Wing Walker in my life and a whole lot of other people I met both weird and normal and without the testicles and pee pee, I don't thing I wouldn't be here either.
Cindy
I found things in my life I never knew I had.
Courage
Confidence
A desire to suceed
Inner Strength
Determination
Priceless all of them
Rebecca
I can't think of much. Most of the things I've read hear would be possible if I'd been born with a psyche that matched my physique.
I can only think of 2 positive things that result directly from being trans.
1. The wonderful people I've met here at Susan's.
2. The other is having a better understanding of men just from prolonged exposure. That is kind of iffy as I really don't understand them even after all this time.
Karen Lyn
Quote from: Berliegh on December 24, 2007, 04:00:09 PM
what really rocks is when people you meet have no idea you are transsexual
yep. right on! :) :) :)
1.) Because I wouldn't have met my best friend ultimately.
2.) Acceptance of people and the variance that is seen.
That's OK Wing Walker.
Lame? Na never lame, just an opening big enough to shove the entire universe into.
Wanna come out and play with my Id?
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Cindy
Um, really anything I can think seem to be a byproduct. I still can't do a number of things I very much want because of this condition, but *shrug* .. It did set me -- To be fair, really Kate deserves most of that credit, I think. -- in the direction of my spiritual awakening, and that most certainly rocks. ;)
I will admit, however, that the perspective this has offered is nice. But, in the same... *shrug* Perhaps I just live too sheltered of a life ;)
A nice topic, regardless (=
My looks have vastly improved since I came out.
I stop pretending.
Friendships are more open and honest.
Quote from: Chris on December 25, 2007, 12:40:18 AM
Quote from: Berliegh on December 24, 2007, 04:00:09 PM
what really rocks is when people you meet have no idea you are transsexual
yep. right on! :) :) :)
exactely........what rocks is not being percieved as transsexual...
not sure about that one girl.
What rocks is when they know, and they don't care. That your value as a person is more than that of a label. Perhaps that only works for me.
Quote from: tekla on December 27, 2007, 08:37:59 PM
not sure about that one girl.
What rocks is when they know, and they don't care. That your value as a person is more than that of a label. Perhaps that only works for me.
Oh yeah.
That
does rock.
Quote from: tekla on December 27, 2007, 08:37:59 PM
not sure about that one girl.
What rocks is when they know, and they don't care. That your value as a person is more than that of a label. Perhaps that only works for me.
I don't want the label....or any label come to that..
I'm happy with not being percieved as transsexual and to me that means an awful lot...
I can imagine not feeling any guilt about drinking a gallon of hot chocolate a day would be really, really nice...
Hot chocolate>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>beer.
I guess if I have to describe myself, this works as well as anything:
Father, mom, union stagehand (journeyman), Ph.D, historian, scientist, technician, teacher, peace activist - member of Historians For Peace and Code Pink, researcher, writer, left-wing godless goddess, transgender activist, Union activist and organizer, dancing queen, fashionistia, Lake Tahoe based "Black Diamonds are a Girls Best Friend" ski club, Burning Man grrl, Kinky Salon member #17, pro-reading / anti-TV, pro-bike / anti-car, guitar player, hot tubs, hippies with guns, 420 friendly, no tweekers, ex-poet.
Transgender doesn't even show up till like number 11 or 12 on that list. But it's there. Long after what I consider major life accomplishments, but before other things that might be even more important.
But, its on the list. Its something about me that is real. Why should I deny it? I don't look at my academic career and think (as many would love me to) "Gee, what a waste, after all that, I went back to stagework, blue collar and all that, why bother?" I think of that as part of my life, a part that tends to inform all of what I do now. You might ask, "so how does teaching college physics help you be a stagehand?" and I tell them to look above them, because all that lighting, all that sound, all that electric power is hanging over your head all night because I said it was safe. Good enough?
I would chose not to be known as that exclusively (which means in real life, you better have other accomplishments, other things that you are... - otherwise...) but it does not bother me to be know as that also.
long ago in many different lands we were considered a blessing, from the wikte and nadle in the Native American tribes, to Assinnu of Ishtar, Qedshtu of Astarte,Kurgarru of Inanna. We were and are peace makers between sexes. We have the ability of both sides in metaphysical workings and were seen as natural healers and advisors because of our innate understanding. and the test now is to show others that we can again be what we were and are. we are learning to reclaim our position we had of being seen as a blessing..but at same time as much as we suffer in this world from what cultures inflict upon us, we bond together with not only our brothers and sister who have and are going through the same ordeals buit also with the rest of the human race seeing what seperates them and in us is created a combination of both parts in divine beauty and that is the birth right we must find again, to realize our gifts and beauty bestowed upon us by the Goddess, God, Divine, and the Universe. (those terms i put to include any and all religions and spiritualities of the world)
Here's something about being transsexual that really rocks: Helping other transsexuals on their way. It doesn't get more rewarding than that, and at times, more difficult.
Wing Walker
Quote from: Wing Walker on December 28, 2007, 03:39:34 AM
Here's something about being transsexual that really rocks: Helping other transsexuals on their way. It doesn't get more rewarding than that, and at times, more difficult.
Wing Walker
Yeah. That's the kicker for me.
Along with reclaiming our destiny. Someday others like us will be free to mix, live, and thrive amongst the general population. And it'll be because we each made a difference in our own way.
Quote from: Rebis on December 28, 2007, 08:08:22 AM
Along with reclaiming our destiny. Someday others like us will be free to mix, live, and thrive amongst the general population. And it'll be because we each made a difference in our own way.
...Excuse me! what planet are you living on Rebis? I am free to mix, live, and thrive amongst the general population everyday of my life........a transsexual is not an alien mutant being with two heads........I am a normal person and live and work as a normal female in an everyday world....
have you actually met rebis though? she might be a mutant with two heads, mightn't he?
Quote from: Berliegh on December 28, 2007, 08:35:23 AM
...Excuse me! what planet are you living on Rebis? I am free to mix, live, and thrive amongst the general population everyday of my life........a transsexual is not an alien mutant being with two heads........I am a normal person and live and work as a normal female in an everyday world....
Well, it's nice that you can do so, however, there are those of us who can not for whatever reason.
I am talking about creating a culture where the young ones can talk to their parents openly and attend school in their correct dress.
A world where people of differing gender expressions are safe to be exactly who they are and to receive the treatment they are in need of.
A world where the authorities protect us with the same vigor with which they would defend their own children.
A world where older people can come out without fear.
A world where the people who do not "pass" have no worries because they are treated as their proper gender.
A world that does not need an ENDA (US law).
A world where a person can literally lead an army and not have to hide who they are.
Is this your world, Berliegh? Because, if it is, please send us a map. There are a lot of us who would be happy to move there.
Peace,
Rebis
At least we live in a mostly indifferent world, that's something I suppose.
Quote from: Pica Pica on December 28, 2007, 12:22:56 PM
At least we live in a mostly indifferent world, that's something I suppose.
My stupid two heads keep banging into each other. Maybe I should bag them.
no, don't do that, the Zaphod effect is a good one
am I the only one who ever noticed that Slartybartfarst can be slurred into sluttybuttface?
yes.
Quote from: Rebis on December 28, 2007, 12:19:27 PM
Quote from: Berliegh on December 28, 2007, 08:35:23 AM
...Excuse me! what planet are you living on Rebis? I am free to mix, live, and thrive amongst the general population everyday of my life........a transsexual is not an alien mutant being with two heads........I am a normal person and live and work as a normal female in an everyday world....
Well, it's nice that you can do so, however, there are those of us who can not for whatever reason.
I am talking about creating a culture where the young ones can talk to their parents openly and attend school in their correct dress.
A world where people of differing gender expressions are safe to be exactly who they are and to receive the treatment they are in need of.
A world where the authorities protect us with the same vigor with which they would defend their own children.
A world where older people can come out without fear.
A world where the people who do not "pass" have no worries because they are treated as their proper gender.
A world that does not need an ENDA (US law).
A world where a person can literally lead an army and not have to hide who they are.
Is this your world, Berliegh? Because, if it is, please send us a map. There are a lot of us who would be happy to move there.
Peace,
Rebis
I think what your saying is in an ideal world a transexual that doesn't pass wouldn't get laughed at? unfortunitely this is the real world which can be hostile for some which I can only imagine can be very uncomfortable.
I don't think people will ever except anything other than what they percieve as normal and a lot of it has to do with the lack of treatment and surgery available to transsexuals. We haven't come very far since the early days of gender changes in the 1960's but why did the likes of April Ashey and others around that time look so female? what went wrong for later generations?....
Quote from: Berliegh on December 28, 2007, 01:13:50 PM
I think what your saying is in an ideal world a transexual that doesn't pass wouldn't get laughed at? unfortunitely this is the real world which can be hostile for some which I can only imagine can be very uncomfortable.
I don't think people will ever except anything other than what they percieve as normal and a lot of it has to do with the lack of treatment and surgery available to transsexuals. We haven't come very far since the early days of gender changes in the 1960's but why did the likes of April Ashey and others around that time look so female? what went wrong for later generations?....
Hi Berliegh,
Just because the world is imperfect, it doesn't mean I have to accept it as being that way.
For me, what rocks as a trans person is that
I have an opportunity to make life easier for those who come after me. I'm sure there are others who have that joy too.
I am
hoping that because of me and the effort I am making as an individual, that "normal" will not be so narrowly defined by others in the future.
There are 2 sides to people being laughed at:
1. people can be taught that laughing is inappropriate.
2. People can be taught the strength to withstand being laughed at.
Rebis
QuoteWe were and are peace makers between sexes. We have the ability of both sides in metaphysical workings and were seen as natural healers and advisors because of our innate understanding. and the test now is to show others that we can again be what we were and are. we are learning to reclaim our position we had of being seen as a blessing..b
Hi, BriannaKatherine,
I said those words nearly word for word some time earlier on this forum, and to tell the truth, I am not certain as to how many realy understand or even bother to try to do so. But I believe it is catching on.
Wing Walker and I had an interview yesterday evening. We spoke to one of the counselors for trans folks here about doing some volunteer work. It appears that the organization is going to set us up with our own meeting room and maybe a small office space to run our own support group in Surrey where we live.
The awsome part of it all was in meeting two others of like mind when we were there. There are others like us out there, maybe they just don't know it. Maybe it's just that this group here is too preocupied about surviving right now for them to want get into any of the spiritual aspects of it. Actuall I believe it's the spirituality part of this that can be the stregth they seek.
Cindy
I think it would have to be finally being accepted as myself...
Peace and love,
Isabelle St-Pierre
What seriously rocked about *transitioning*, if not so much about being trans, was having the chance to see how incredibly nice and kind people (aka "The Public") really are. Yea, yea I know, maybe only in my little Bubble World, but STILL... it really humbled me.
~Kate~
Quote from: Kate on December 28, 2007, 06:19:13 PM
What seriously rocked about *transitioning*, if not so much about being trans, was having the chance to see how incredibly nice and kind people (aka "The Public") really are. Yea, yea I know, maybe only in my little Bubble World, but STILL... it really humbled me.
~Kate~
I agree! I was amazed at just how many people could really care less! I have found people to be more open and kind then I would have thought possible...
Peace and love,
Isabelle St-Pierre
one night recently i was out past 2:00 a.m. and went to get something to eat after dancing at the club.
there were three young men hanging outside the restaurant in a semi-dark parking lot. as i approached in my hoody, two of the men stepped up to me and one of them said "Yo." when i turned toward them, my hoody was open, and they clearly saw my cute girly blouse, over my bra, and they both immediately stepped back and looked embarrassed. i just continued on my way and the incident was over.
did being Trans save me from being jumped? anyway, that was something that really rocked.
-ell
Hi Pica Pica
With two heads, that's all the better to be truly androgynous as long as both heads think alike.
I don't like fighting with myself I always win, not fair.
Cindy
"I agree! I was amazed at just how many people could really care less! I have found people to be more open and kind then I would have thought possible.."
Its an interesting acid bath for sure. I lost some I didn't think I would, kept some I didn't think would stick. But I still like the idea that given the people who really hate it, stay so far away from me, that it frees up lots to time.
Hi I quite agree with you Kate and Isabelle. I have been full time for 7 years and never as much even had an argument with anyone in the town I lived . That was my bubble once but it was a bubble of nice people. So far it appears to have not changed much here in Vancouver. I love being who I am.
Cindy
Quote from: tekla on December 28, 2007, 07:55:59 PM
"I agree! I was amazed at just how many people could really care less! I have found people to be more open and kind then I would have thought possible.."
Its an interesting acid bath for sure. I lost some I didn't think I would, kept some I didn't think would stick. But I still like the idea that given the people who really hate it, stay so far away from me, that it frees up lots to time.
What I hate are those that say their cool with it, but then their actions say otherwise...case in point, I came out to one of my friends from work not too long ago...things seemed to be OK between us, we kept in contact a couple of times a week, then just before Christmas I asked him for his address so I could send him a Christmas card...he has since dropped from the face of the planet...oh well...I liked him a lot too...but can't afford to keep people around me that don't accept me for me.
Peace and love,
Isabelle St-Pierre
Hi, Rebis, Hon,
Wing Walker and I went for an interview to do volunteer work with trans people in a support group that we will be opening closer to our home. There are no facilities for transpeople in our area.
The interview was wonderful and the guy who will get us started gave us 90 minutes of his time. He is F to M. We got his support in our efforts. He will set us up with our own meeting room and a small office someplace in the area where we live. Most everything for trans people here in the Vancouver area is run by trans people, for transpeople, with very cooperative doctors and psychiatrists.
Cindy
Quote from: cindybc on December 28, 2007, 08:25:01 PM
Hi, Rebis, Hon,
Wing Walker and I went for an interview to do volunteer work with trans people in a support group that we will be opening closer to our home. There are no facilities for transpeople in our area.
The interview was wonderful and the guy who will get us started gave us 90 minutes of his time. He is F to M. We got his support in our efforts. He will set us up with our own meeting room and a small office someplace in the area where we live. Most everything for trans people here in the Vancouver area is run by trans people, for transpeople, with very cooperative doctors and psychiatrists.
Cindy
Hello Cindy,
I'm glad to hear this!! I wish you the best in this endeavor.
As of yesterday I am a board member on one of the statewide GLBT organizations here in Missouri. I'm currently working on setting up some town hall meetings to help educate the public about transgender issues and transgender people in general. We have even gotten Mara Keisling setup for a couple of them to discuss some of the political problems we've been facing this past year. Hopefully by educating the public we'll be able to get some laws pasts in this backwater state...
Peace and love,
Isabelle St-Pierre
Quote from: cindybc on December 28, 2007, 08:25:01 PM
Hi, Rebis, Hon,
Wing Walker and I went for an interview to do volunteer work with trans people in a support group that we will be opening closer to our home. There are no facilities for transpeople in our area.
The interview was wonderful and the guy who will get us started gave us 90 minutes of his time. He is F to M. We got his support in our efforts. He will set us up with our own meeting room and a small office someplace in the area where we live. Most everything for trans people here in the Vancouver area is run by trans people, for transpeople, with very cooperative doctors and psychiatrists.
Cindy
Hi Cindy,
I'm really happy to hear that. It sounds wonderful. I was just telling someone earlier that I don't care if I get laid off because I want to help people. I can understand why you're good at it because you have experience and have even cared for children. I wonder if I would really be any good at it, though, because I have no history of doing anything useful.
That is my desire, however. To help people one way or the other. Especially Trans people because I need to know that others do not suffer the way I have in not understanding my nature for so long.
I'm going to do the things I do for now and look for opportunities. I'm in New England, so I don't know if I have to have a degree or anything. I'm in a small local group right now that feels good for me and I think I'm learning from it too.
I really am happy to hear about your new opportunity. I'm sure you'll be great at it.
Love,
Rebis
Posted on: December 28, 2007, 08:40:51 PM
Quote from: Isabelle St-Pierre on December 28, 2007, 08:34:15 PM
... Hopefully by educating the public we'll be able to get some laws pasts in this backwater state...
Peace and love,
Isabelle St-Pierre
Hi Isabelle,
You'll get more laughs if you phrase that line like this; .. Hopefully by educating the public we'll be able to get some laws pasts in this
jerkwater state...
Sincerely,
Rebis
Hi Rebis hon
Thank you and if there is anyway I can help don't hesitate to let me know. And yes once one gets into rescue missions there is no way one wants to stop. Life just feels to empty. Regretfully one doesn't win them all but it is when you do that makes it so worth it.
Cindy
Hello Rebis,
QuoteI'm really happy to hear that. It sounds wonderful. I was just telling someone earlier that I don't care if I get laid off because I want to help people. I can understand why you're good at it because you have experience and have even cared for children. I wonder if I would really be any good at it, though, because I have no history of doing anything useful.
That is my desire, however. To help people one way or the other. Especially Trans people because I need to know that others do not suffer the way I have in not understanding my nature for so long.
I'm going to do the things I do for now and look for opportunities. I'm in New England, so I don't know if I have to have a degree or anything. I'm in a small local group right now that feels good for me and I think I'm learning from it too.
I really am happy to hear about your new opportunity. I'm sure you'll be great at it.
I think it's great that you want to help people...it is very rewarding at times. I am sure that you would do fine, it sounds like you're already taking steps in that direction with the local group you're with...
A degree never hurts, but you'll find that a lot of organizations will just be happy that you want to help. The organization I am working with now is going to train me on fund raising and other aspects of the non-profit area. Just be a human sponge and learn everything you can along the way and never...never be afraid to say you don't know something...and ask questions...in other words...learn, learn, learn!
Good luck!
Peace and love,
Isabelle St-Pierre
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Quote from: Rebis on December 28, 2007, 08:45:47 PM
You'll get more laughs if you phrase that line like this; .. Hopefully by educating the public we'll be able to get some laws pasts in this jerkwater state...
Ah ha ha!
thanks Mr. funnyman. no wait, i laughed just as hard at backwater. sorry.
Quote from: ell on December 28, 2007, 09:43:31 PM
Quote from: Rebis on December 28, 2007, 08:45:47 PM
You'll get more laughs if you phrase that line like this; .. Hopefully by educating the public we'll be able to get some laws pasts in this jerkwater state...
Ah ha ha!
thanks Mr. funnyman. no wait, i laughed just as hard at backwater. sorry.
You savage.
i'm not sure where it was said before since i am a rather new arrival here, but the place where i know such pieces of our past from is my own eclectic studies that have brought certain patterns into clarity
Quote from: ell on December 28, 2007, 06:52:21 PM
one night recently i was out past 2:00 a.m. and went to get something to eat after dancing at the club.
there were three young men hanging outside the restaurant in a semi-dark parking lot. as i approached in my hoody, two of the men stepped up to me and one of them said "Yo." when i turned toward them, my hoody was open, and they clearly saw my cute girly blouse, over my bra, and they both immediately stepped back and looked embarrassed. i just continued on my way and the incident was over.
did being Trans save me from being jumped? anyway, that was something that really rocked.
-ell
Possibly.
I don't know where you live.
It could be they just wanted to know if you knew where to score some bud.
I get asked that a lot by strangers in Boulder as it is such a 4:20 town.
Once when I was just coming out, I skated by some college guys at night by the library park, and while I was terrified, all they asked me was if I knew where the theater was. I gave them directions and they were like "oh, right on! thanks!" and took off in the direction of the theater I sent them in. They just wanted to see a show.
It left me feeling really dazed as my worst fear was that they would jump me or somthing. It never happened.
I was quite amazed.
The gorup who aproached you might have just wanted somthing similar and then were thrown back by your apearance and were at a loss for words.
Or, maybe they were going to start somthing and decided not to.
But you never know..
Quote from: Isabelle St-Pierre on December 28, 2007, 08:34:15 PM
Quote from: cindybc on December 28, 2007, 08:25:01 PM
Hi, Rebis, Hon,
Wing Walker and I went for an interview to do volunteer work with trans people in a support group that we will be opening closer to our home. There are no facilities for transpeople in our area.
The interview was wonderful and the guy who will get us started gave us 90 minutes of his time. He is F to M. We got his support in our efforts. He will set us up with our own meeting room and a small office someplace in the area where we live. Most everything for trans people here in the Vancouver area is run by trans people, for transpeople, with very cooperative doctors and psychiatrists.
Cindy
Hello Cindy,
I'm glad to hear this!! I wish you the best in this endeavor.
As of yesterday I am a board member on one of the statewide GLBT organizations here in Missouri. I'm currently working on setting up some town hall meetings to help educate the public about transgender issues and transgender people in general. We have even gotten Mara Keisling setup for a couple of them to discuss some of the political problems we've been facing this past year. Hopefully by educating the public we'll be able to get some laws pasts in this backwater state...
Peace and love,
Isabelle St-Pierre
Hi, Isabelle,
I congratulate you for taking on the work needed in Missouri. Mara Keisling is a good leader and she has some great people working with her. I became familiar with her while I was living in Alexandria, VA.
Please feel free to share any ideas or problems with Cindy and I. In any given project, start-up is the most difficult phase and that's where we are right now.
Again, congrats!
Wing Walker
Quote from: Sarah on December 29, 2007, 12:18:04 AM
Possibly.
I don't know where you live.
It could be they just wanted to know if you knew where to score some bud.
in Los Angeles when three tough-looking young hispanic (no slur intended) men ask you a question after two am, it's not going to be how's the weather.
I love when the young little Latino boys call me Mama. These guys won't leave me alone. One of these days, I am going to respond to their advances.
Quote from: ell on December 29, 2007, 01:59:08 PM
Quote from: Sarah on December 29, 2007, 12:18:04 AM
Possibly.
I don't know where you live.
It could be they just wanted to know if you knew where to score some bud.
in Los Angeles when three tough-looking young hispanic (no slur intended) men ask you a question after two am, it's not going to be how's the weather.
Sounds like maybe it did, then.
Right on!
Way to go Ell!
Your awesome girl power destroyed their machismo!
Hum... the fact that I've inspired others to be themselves, trans or not.
--natalie
Having a more feminine body than many cisgendered women rocks. Being post-op rocks. It happened again today. Only like this time, someone told the guy I was trans. I laughed it off. I mean Me? Trans? (I met this guy at a place where a lot of trans woman go.) I said something like some people think all the women who go there are trans. Then, after the intimacy, he totally forgot about what he was told and made several comments that indicated he believed me to be cis.
Now that rocks!
Waking up happy. Finally starting live life again and getting things done that should have done a long time ago. Feeling comfortable in your own skin. Just thought I would mention a few. This has come after 33 years of life which were tough and hope things continue to get better. I know there is going be to rough times a head I will take the good from them.
Have happy new year,
Anna
Quote from: gothique11 on December 29, 2007, 10:37:17 PM
Hum... the fact that I've inspired others to be themselves, trans or not.
--natalie
yeah, that does rock. i also feel that coming out has had a positive effect on the people i work with. the girls are girlier, and the men seem freer to talk to them.
my adopted sister and he daughter im living with, they both adopted me and took me in when i had no where else to go, but of the 3 of us i am the most femme, its entertaining in a number of ways =)
I think I share many of the things already mentioned and I really think that the Universe has set being trans as a test for me to see how I might cope. A great opportunity to impress the Universe cannot be taken lightly.
BB
Willow
Hi I really care for people, I worked as a social worker for twenty years. I am always available if anyone wants to share what ever. I sometime will express myself with humor. I love humor, and I do strongly believe that laughter is the best medicine. Sometimes when I am not certain how to respond I will do it by making up a little story line, At least I believe that way people can't mistaken where you are coming from, everyone likes stories ;D
With love
Cindy
Things that rock about being Trans a woman.
To finally have a body that matches my inner gender.
tink :icon_chick:
A big 10 - 4 on that Tink ;)
Cindy
Quote from: Tink on January 04, 2008, 08:25:54 PM
Things that rock about being Trans a woman.
To finally have a body that matches my inner gender.
tink :icon_chick:
Yeah i second that. It is amazing you your perspective shifts once you can be happy with yourself. I used to drink and do other things to try to fight off the deep depression that I had learned to live with since childhood. I had a totally negative outlook on life and "the glass was always half empty" (well considering how much i drank it was totally empty). However, once i started addressing the issue I felt alot better. Then once I started HRT,
HOLE COW watch out I was giddy all the time. I think the mechanics I used to work with thought I was nuts!!! But I didn't care, Even once they found out about my being trans (before I was totally out) and gave me a ration of ->-bleeped-<-. Actually that made life even funnier. Just imagine a 50+ year old man yelling across the parking lot of the Semitruck repair shop to me "hey show us your teets"!!!!! :o What a riot. I survived over a year working with a few rednecks who didn't think that I was quite right. But I kept a positive attitude. It just goes to show how your attitude is what shapes your reality.
Audrey
Audrey
Quote from: Audrey on January 05, 2008, 02:09:19 AM
Quote from: Tink on January 04, 2008, 08:25:54 PM
Things that rock about being Trans a woman.
To finally have a body that matches my inner gender.
tink :icon_chick:
HOLE COW watch out I was giddy all the time. I think the mechanics I used to work with thought I was nuts!!!
Audrey
Audrey
wow me too, i just become really silly sometimes...
Quote from: Audrey on January 05, 2008, 02:09:19 AM
<snip>
What a riot. I survived over a year working with a few rednecks who didn't think that I was quite right. But I kept a positive attitude. It just goes to show how your attitude is what shapes your reality.
Audrey
that is great to hear.
I work at a redneck male dominated, gossipy, and sort of a generally combative work environment.
I came into work last week with my hair tied back in a barrette and 2 bobby pins in the front to keep my bangs out of my eyes. Responses ranged from "cool hair" from the more open minded types, to you are a freak from the a*ses out there, to embarrassment from the quite types. The embarrassment response sort of confused me. I didn't quite expect that one at first. The embarrassment sort of faded away after they realized that I'm still the same likable person they already knew.
-Natalie
Quote from: natalie on January 06, 2008, 06:23:18 PM
Quote from: Audrey on January 05, 2008, 02:09:19 AM
<snip>
What a riot. I survived over a year working with a few rednecks who didn't think that I was quite right. But I kept a positive attitude. It just goes to show how your attitude is what shapes your reality.
Audrey
I came into work last week with my hair tied back in a barrette and 2 bobby pins in the front to keep my bangs out of my eyes. Responses ranged from "cool hair" from the more open minded types, to you are a freak from the a*ses out there, to embarrassment from the quite types. The embarrassment response sort of confused me. I didn't quite expect that one at first. The embarrassment sort of faded away after they realized that I'm still the same likable person they already knew.
-Natalie
don't worry, if your being yourself that's fine.
Just a suggestion by the way- learn not to smudge your face with make-up as I see on your profile- it looks too pale and it just doesn't seem right. forget the red lipstick too- although it looks sexy sometimes.
Not that I know make-up because I don't but try to learn how to do it so that it looks good- find a female friend, look on the net or ask a pro for help.- just offering help.
thats a old photo, it was washed out and i tried playing with it in photoshop to bring up the chroma.
but, i been much lighter on the makeup recentally. too much looks fake.
thanks !
Quote from: Tink on January 04, 2008, 08:25:54 PM
Things that rock about being Trans a woman.
To finally have a body that matches my inner gender.
tink :icon_chick:
i'm not trans anything anymore so i've got to agree with tink. terrific answer!
Well that makes three of us then. The last time I was here I've gone full time for 7 years. I don't think I even gave a thought about transexuality during those seven years until I was retired from my last job a couple of years ago. I got very lonely, you know, loneliness leads to depressing and it would make a good runner up in second place to GID if you ask me. I just felt very anxious, still do, I need to find someplace where I could feel useful again, then "lo and behold" I find the link for this place and so I'm back.
I don't think there isn't anything wrong with returning to this place. One can learn much as they go around trying to help others. You see, for me this is how a zebra keeps her stripes because that is the way I am made inside.
Cindy
Quote from: Natasha on January 06, 2008, 09:16:32 PM
Quote from: Tink on January 04, 2008, 08:25:54 PM
Things that rock about being Trans a woman.
To finally have a body that matches my inner gender.
tink :icon_chick:
i'm not trans anything anymore so i've got to agree with tink. terrific answer!
I am going to start a side thread on this.
This bothers me.
Quote from: Sarah on January 09, 2008, 08:50:20 PM
Quote from: Natasha on January 06, 2008, 09:16:32 PM
Quote from: Tink on January 04, 2008, 08:25:54 PM
Things that rock about being Trans a woman.
To finally have a body that matches my inner gender.
tink :icon_chick:
i'm not trans anything anymore so i've got to agree with tink. terrific answer!
I am going to start a side thread on this.
This bothers me.
may as well just start banging yer head on a rock right now and save yerself some pain. ;)
Quote from: Rebis on January 09, 2008, 08:58:39 PM
Quote from: Sarah on January 09, 2008, 08:50:20 PM
Quote from: Natasha on January 06, 2008, 09:16:32 PM
Quote from: Tink on January 04, 2008, 08:25:54 PM
Things that rock about being Trans a woman.
To finally have a body that matches my inner gender.
tink :icon_chick:
i'm not trans anything anymore so i've got to agree with tink. terrific answer!
I am going to start a side thread on this.
This bothers me.
may as well just start banging yer head on a rock right now and save yerself some pain. ;)
But I am so use to the pain even though when I stop I might actually be happy in the end.
Alice
LOL
:laugh:
Me I am happy 99% of the time the other 1% well I just get bitchy the odd time, who pee pee in my soup. ;D
Quote from: Rebis on January 09, 2008, 08:58:39 PM
may as well just start banging yer head on a rock right now and save yerself some pain. ;)
This does it: now I'm starting to hear voices. To wit, Freddie Mercury going 'Woo-oo, pain is so close to pleasure'. Thanks...
Nfr
There are good things about being trans?
oh....
i seem to have missed that party :(
R :police:
There are good things in everybody's life, Rachael.
Life is what you make of it. So make something good.
good things yes, being trans isnt one of them :P
R
It can be a liability or it can be an empowering thing.
Empower yourself.
oh i am, just not through being trans...
i can stand up for myself without that crutch so many choose.
R :police:
Being trans is not a crutch. For some people, it is an obstacle, but it is NOT a crutch.
I always though crutches and wheelchairs were good for people who cannot walk. Helps them move toward relieving their deficits and showing others that they really can survive in the world.
But, that's just my namby-pamby way of looking at the world.
N~
One might be surprised with what a handicapped person can potentially achieve to overcome their own particular disabilities, including the shortcomings of having to learn how to work with their wheel chairs and crutches as they refuse to let their disabilities ruin their lives. Whether it be physical or psychological, one can become a productive individual in society once more. It's a matter of readjusting one's view if a fulfilling life and adapting to their new environment. And remember that life will be very much altered, like starting life anew.
Cindy
quite, therefore one can overcome being trans, and stop looking for good things in it. and have a good LIFE.
R >:D
Quote from: Rachael on January 11, 2008, 05:20:00 AM
quite, therefore one can overcome being trans, and stop looking for good things in it. and have a good LIFE.
R >:D
I agree totally, everything here seems to relate to 'trans' rather than an ordinary female. A transition is to change from one gender to another, not to stay in a state of 'trans'.
I just live a normal everyday life and do everyday things and I'm not thinking about 'Trans' issue's all the time. I don't think anything 'rocks' about being 'trans' and it's a condition we were born with. What rocks my boat is the opposite. That people I meet are not aware I am 'trans', therefor I can get on with life the way it should be...
You do remember that this is a "trans forum".
Some people are just stuck in the middle as trans. The best fun comes from Fancy Dress parties for me!
Quote from: Audrey on January 11, 2008, 11:44:56 AM
You do remember that this is a "trans forum".
You really didn't get the point I was making Audrey did you?
She doesnt seem to...
Trans forum or not. If this were some other condition, say, a parkinsons discussion forum, youd never see a 'what rocks about having parkinsons' topic...
I swear, some people here dont seem to be in enough distress or pain to be trans... i cant see how its some cool fun voyage of self descovery....
want to discover yourself? go on a teambuilding weekend with work... Transition isnt fun, transition isnt exciting, its a hard decision brought about by emence pain and suffering and something you can nolonger put off...
considering the moaning and groaning here about being read, not passing, loosing family/friends, being poor. You dont seem so cheerful and happy then...
Find happyness in your LIFE, and maybe so many of you wouldnt be stuck wallowing in the transcommunity for life...
I don't wallow in anything. Except perhaps good snow. Its a part of my life, but only a part. Is is part of how I see myself, but its only a part, not the Alpha and Omega. Its given to me many good things, several good friends, lots of fun, and some sorrow. But hey, skiiing which is great thing in my life also broke my arm once, so its not even a perfect good. Thirty years in real rock - rock and roll - has done a number on my hearing, for sure on that. (there is a good reason why the most common word on a rock stage is "What?") Still I would not trade that for the cubicle life even if I can't hear certain ranges of sound well enough to mix bands anymore - which had I been on a cubicle farm I wouldn't have been doing in the first place. If your looking for perfection, you're on the wrong planet.
And, again.... your experience is not universal, even if it's in the majority, not everyone who has ever transitioned has gone through it. I know people who are still close with their family, still loved by those who loved them before, who did not wear their pain and suffering like a shroud, because for them it was a happy deal, not a trip down misery lane. Which is not to say it was easy, its just saying that that their road, in their life, in their time, was different. It was not brought about by huge amounts of pain, but rather by a choice about who they were, and how best to get on with that. In that process of becoming they found joy. If that is not your experience, I'm sorry, but its either way, its not EVERYones experience either. Dennis, for one, seems to have found a life with much more joy and happiness then he had before. Grad school was for me about 95% awesome. But that 5% was about the worst stuff I've ever been through. Still, at the other end, I would not trade it for anything. And, I'm pretty sure that it was the 5% that gave me the best stuff in the end.
And though I doubt that either of the blind people I know would say "It Rocks" to be blind, they would tell you that it gave them something different that was of value to them. And sure, it defines them to some degree, and a pretty major one at that, but its not the only thing they are.
Like anyone else of my age, I can look at things and say that there were some that brought me great joy, satisfaction, and made me happy, but they did not do that 24/7 forever, world without end. (Ask any parent, for most of them their children were and are their greatest joy, but also brought on some of the worst moments in their life.) Somethings come out better then you think, others worse. That's life.
maybe not, but even with loving family, and all things right, its NEVER easy...its certainly not 'fun' like some people here make out.
R :police:
Hi Rachael hon
I do so agree with what you have said in this last post. But then transitioning can be an exciting adventure especially in the sense of learning how to live as your target sex, but there are also many tribulations and pitfalls that will need to be worked out. It's all about learning and growth and once you have done what you can to transform your life then live and enjoy it. I did and I still do, it's a wonderful learning experience.
The group here is a good place for those who wish to learn how to grow and flourish from some of the more seasoned members here. Learning how to get though their transition with the least bumps on the heads. And many of the more seasoned people stick around to see if they can show the nestling how to fly. Well that is my view on the subject. I lived out there as a social worker for 20 years and worked the last 8 years as who I am now Cindy.
I had all but forgot about this place in the past 7 years. I found it quite by accident. And now I have been blessed also with an opportunity to do volunteer work in a local support group for trans people. I think what the answer for me is to never forget where I came from and count myself fortunate to be able to have the privilege of sharing those experiences with others here. Never forgetting my humble beginnings. You will never find any negative statements or comments in my posts.
Cindy
For me transition will also be fun. What sucked is the road before it, kinda like the long boring uphill climb on a roller coaster then getting the excitment of the controlled freefall. I think it will be a blast to finally be free. So to me the things that rock are going to be the ability to be in any social environment and not have to worry that my voice will give me away. Thats the only issue I really have now, and to me its the biggest sucky part of being trans.
Another thing that rocks is meeting open minded people that don't shut you down for who you are and treat you like you have some contagious disease. I have learned who my real friends are and who isn't. Thats why I only have 3-4 firends, cause the rest I told were not worth my time and they proved it in how they reacted.
If there is something that is really worthwhile that is 'easy' I sure have never seen it. The best things I've ever got are the things that I had to work the hardest for.
Quote from: Devlin on January 11, 2008, 03:01:52 PM
For me transition will also be fun. What sucked is the road before it, kinda like the long boring uphill climb on a roller coaster then getting the excitment of the controlled freefall. I think it will be a blast to finally be free. So to me the things that rock are going to be the ability to be in any social environment and not have to worry that my voice will give me away. Thats the only issue I really have now, and to me its the biggest sucky part of being trans.
Another thing that rocks is meeting open minded people that don't shut you down for who you are and treat you like you have some contagious disease. I have learned who my real friends are and who isn't. Thats why I only have 3-4 firends, cause the rest I told were not worth my time and they proved it in how they reacted.
I like this response.
Well for me before I started transition I hate it life, and
now 5 month HRT my life is good and I think my life rock
kim
... and, you look fantastic, Kim.
It's good to see you coming along and getting into it too.
Rebis
think you Rebis
Kim
Quote from: Rachael on January 11, 2008, 02:37:51 PM
maybe not, but even with loving family, and all things right, its NEVER easy...its certainly not 'fun' like some people here make out.
R :police:
I totally agree with you Rachael.....
This thread is just like everything else in life. There are those with positive and negative outlooks...those that take things lightly and those that stress things alot. Some have good experiences, some have bad....some are lucky enough to transition early some later in life...some have support, some don't. Thats just the oppoiste ends of the spectrum, there is always those that fall in between somewhere.
We all will and do experience things differently. Sometimes it's all in how we view and accept things. There are so many factors out there and despite how somebody views the tranisition or how we got (or get) there, somewhere there is a positive to being who you are and where you are now. Maybe it just hasn't surfaced yet...or it has and too stuborn to see it.
Quote from: Devlin on January 12, 2008, 02:33:52 AM
This thread is just like everything else in life. There are those with positive and negative outlooks...those that take things lightly and those that stress things alot. Some have good experiences, some have bad....some are lucky enough to transition early some later in life...some have support, some don't. Thats just the oppoiste ends of the spectrum, there is always those that fall in between somewhere.
We all will and do experience things differently. Sometimes it's all in how we view and accept things. There are so many factors out there and despite how somebody views the tranisition or how we got (or get) there, somewhere there is a positive to being who you are and where you are now. Maybe it just hasn't surfaced yet...or it has and too stuborn to see it.
I don't think it's a case of positive or negative outlooks....I just think some of us are living in a different world to others and have to face more reality situations. No one is wanting to be deliberately negative but at the same time transition in not a 'game' or a 'fun past time' and should not be made light of.
Try reading some of the posts in 'Things that hurt about being TS' for a reality check...
Kimmie Makes an important distinction...
her LIFE rocks now.... BECAUSE she transitioned.
Trans itself does not rock in any way shape or form.
R :police:
I've read the post and I really don't need a reality check. I know life sucks for me and has for a long time. I have read numerous post about people who have lost family, children, etc. Not trying to say that is not a bad thing, but each person's experience is differnet and how they handle/see things. I have never once posted anything about my life and how it sucks other then saying I wish I could start T now and change my voice. Some of the things people lost in transition I lost long ago, some of the things people lost I will never get to experience and I am still decently young. I envy the good and bad of people who can say they at least experienced something. The words here are text so I can't assume somebody is making light of something. It does not have the feeling or emotion attached. I may even be misunderstanding what I am reading above this post and if so I appoligise.
Quote from: Devlin on January 12, 2008, 05:51:56 AM
I've read the post and I really don't need a reality check. I know life sucks for me and has for a long time. I have read numerous post about people who have lost family, children, etc. Not trying to say that is not a bad thing, but each person's experience is differnet and how they handle/see things. I have never once posted anything about my life and how it sucks other then saying I wish I could start T now and change my voice. Some of the things people lost in transition I lost long ago, some of the things people lost I will never get to experience and I am still decently young. I envy the good and bad of people who can say they at least experienced something. The words here are text so I can't assume somebody is making light of something. It does not have the feeling or emotion attached. I may even be misunderstanding what I am reading above this post and if so I appoligise.
Great reply Devlin. But my point was that some people make light of transitioning and see it as a game or some kind of trip. There are nice things that can happen during transition and one of them is not being seen or thought of as a transsexual, which is what we are trying to achieve and what a transition is primarily about.
I ask this; What specifically, about being Androgyne, CD, transgender, or transsexual, is good?
Because as far as being transsexual goes, all it has brought is pain, whereas getting past it, is making my life worth living. Some people seem to confuse being transsexual with thier new happy life, not having the right body and being a normal member of society...
R >:D
Quote from: Rachael on January 12, 2008, 06:05:57 AM
I ask this; What specifically, about being Androgyne, CD, transgender, or transsexual, is good?
Because as far as being transsexual goes, all it has brought is pain, whereas getting past it, is making my life worth living. Some people seem to confuse being transsexual with thier new happy life, not having the right body and being a normal member of society...
R >:D
I can only speak for myself.
When I was younger, isolated and confused I thought that being transgendered, CD was a curse. Why couldn't I be like other boys and belong?
But then I discoverd that it was a challenge, it gave me the opportunity to ask myself questions about my identity, my true nature, my sexuality, it forced me to step outside the norm and try to experience the fullness of my identity. It gave me insights and empathy with the female experience and in doing so freed me of the imposed limitations of gender roles. It opened my eyes and heart to all kinds of oppressions.
Through trial and errors I have come to term with who I am, it wasn't always easy but I in the process I developped a better understanding and acceptance of diversity. It made me develop a frame of mind and tools to deal with adversity. This has enriched my life so much that I can frankly say that I have no regrets.
Light, Love, Laughter and Respect.
Maebh
To me, being 'happy' and being 'a normal member of society' are antithetical ideas.
Hi
To whom it may concern.
I lost family as well and my only daughter I can't even track down her address so I can send a letter and maybe give her a phone number to contact me. I have a niece who wrights to me but does not acknowledge me by the right name. I have a sister who included her phone number with my Nieces letter. I believe that she is the one who should call me.
My niece I will continue to stay in touch with, and so will I continue searching for my daughter and pray I am able to track down her address somehow.
The transitioning I do not believe we are ever done with, it's like a life long experience in how to live our newly acquired lives. I don't let it get me down, I love dressing up for what ever occasion and I love going any damned place I please down town. I enjoy working with other Transgirls.
I much prefer to be one of those that thinks positive otherwise I think it would be awful boring thus my positive outlook on life I had to really fight for, but I am quite content with life today. I know every one gets a bitch day but the trick is to not let it take you down. I worked on a job I really loved doing for seven years as Cindy and that I will say was the most wonderful experience, excluding my childhood, I had in the past fifty years of my life.
Right awn Cowgirl!!!!!! Yahooooooooo!
Cindy
Posted on: January 12, 2008, 06:27:00 PM
Hi Maebh
It appears that you and I have some very similar positive ideas and feelings as I about our experience in transitioning. Thank you for posting your thoughts. Maebh Warrior Queen meet the Dunes of Mars Warrior Princess.
Cindy
Quote from: cindybc on January 12, 2008, 06:37:10 PM
Cindy
Posted on: January 12, 2008, 06:27:00 PM
Hi Maebh
It appears that you and I have some very similar positive ideas and feelings as I about our experience in transitioning. Thank you for posting your thoughts. Maebh Warrior Queen meet the Dunes of Mars Warrior Princes.
Cindy
Hi Cindy.
You were a TS who had to transition to become the woman that you are and knew you were, while I am a CD who encompass and embrace both the male and female aspects as an expression of my full identity. Despite these differences the challenges we had to face in coming to term with our identity and the outward expression of our true self in overcoming the gender barriers has made us strong and positive.
Yes we are both
Warriors and
Lovers (of life) too! And who knows, by sharing with others on this site we might even in some ways become
Teachers and
Healers as well? :laugh:
LLL&R
Maebh
Hi Maebh
Yes you are quite correct. I came back to this board after being away for seven years with the very intent of teaching as well as learn and to do some healing where needed, yes that for certain. If anyone is interested I have a thread called Empaths and Empathy in the spiritual forum.
By the way Wing Walker did a series of different searches on the web and located my daughter. Doesn't that just rock??? ;D
Cindy
Quote from: cindybc on January 12, 2008, 09:52:48 PM
By the way Wing Walker did a series of different searches on the web and located my daughter. Doesn't that just rock??? ;D
Cindy
Great news Cindy!
You must be excited... Best and most sincere wishes for a happy outcome for all of you.
LLL&R
Maebh
EDIT: I included the words MTF and FTM as there was some confusion over what the meaning of "trans" meant with regard to this thread. Hopefully these additions will clarify that.
Posted on: January 13, 2008, 12:37:11 PM
Quote from: cindybc on January 12, 2008, 09:52:48 PM
Hi Maebh
Yes you are quite correct. I came back to this board after being away for seven years with the very intent of teaching as well as learn and to do some healing where needed, yes that for certain. If anyone is interested I have a thread called Empaths and Empathy in the spiritual forum.
By the way Wing Walker did a series of different searches on the web and located my daughter. Doesn't that just rock??? ;D
Cindy
Awesome! Cindy!
That does rock!
Sara
Thanks Sara hon
Well I am not going to be on the board long today, Wing Walker and I are part of the team in setting up a Renfest here in Vancouver. I enjoy it, it's going to be as close as I will ever get to acting. I may get my name in the National Enquirer yet. "Hee, hee, hee." ;D
http://www.bcrenfest.com
Cindy
Being able to constantly confront my fear,
And pass through it.