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I really want a relationship, but no one seems interested in little old me.  If I express an interest, they are gone.  I let them know from the get go that I am trans, and then they just want sex.  I just want a loving caring relationship without sex, for now. 

I should just give up and be the crazy lady on the corner with all the cats.


Janet

I'm married to a wonderful GBloke.

Other. I call my relationship "married" ;P Once Dani completes her transition, our relationship will be seen as lesbian, but personally I don't care what other people think :)

Quote from: Janet Lynn on June 24, 2009, 07:02:48 PM
I should just give up and be the crazy lady on the corner with all the cats.
Janet

Heh, I thought that too...then Dani walked into my life and here I am! :)

WR

I am married to Adrianna. I am married to a woman!!! :) So i guess that makes me lesbian whoot lol

I'm technically still married to a GG but the divorce papers have already been filed. We get along ok for the most part. I hate to see it end because I love her but I'm about 80% sure my next relationship, way in the future, will be with either another transperson or genetic male.

I'm in a wonderful relationship with a wonderful GM.  Believe it or not we met online and it was love at first sight.  He knows everything of my past and we have been living together for the past 5 months.  He asked me to marry him and we plan to wed early next year.

-={LR}=-

Just another relationship black sheep reporting in.

I can dream about it all I want, but that won't change the fact that it's all in my head. (https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fimg144.imageshack.us%2Fimg144%2F6059%2Fsmokinyk1.gif&hash=3af73078efd8cbbcc45f6ab8554b2ecf777faa3a)

Quote from: Flan on June 24, 2009, 08:24:48 PM
I can dream about it all I want, but that won't change the fact that it's all in my head. (https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fimg144.imageshack.us%2Fimg144%2F6059%2Fsmokinyk1.gif&hash=3af73078efd8cbbcc45f6ab8554b2ecf777faa3a)

Exactly my position.

Other, but that is mostly just because multiple person relationships seems to be an almost foreign concept. ^*shrug*

I consider myself M2F despite my choice not to transition and am married to a GG.  I would describe it as fairly typical for a relationship except my wife isn't threatened by my more feminine aspects and allows me to cry when my GID is eating me.

Quote from: heatherrose on June 24, 2009, 06:41:06 PM
If you chose "Other", Please elaborate.

One you left out: M2F-M2F.

i chose other.  my relationship is male-female.

Quote from: heatherrose on June 24, 2009, 10:42:12 PM
Problem solved.
Thanks for bringing that
to my attention.

You're welcome. But now it won't let me change my vote.

I was a bit surprised to find myself in the most populated type of relationship here: MTF-GG. How would I describe it? Lesbian. We both identify as lesbian. You keep hearing how the majority of trans women are supposed to be heterosexual. I'm just not seeing it, though. Not around here, anyway. Maybe the hetero gals flock to other forums, I don't know. Lesbian trans women have often been disparaged as inauthentic. For that matter, I was also surprised that so far no one has selected FTM-GG, as I've gotten the impression that this is very prevalent in the FTM world. I could be mistaken. Maybe it's just the small sample size so far.

Quote from: Hypatia on June 25, 2009, 01:22:15 AM
I was a bit surprised to find myself in the most populated type of relationship here: MTF-GG. How would I describe it? Lesbian. We both identify as lesbian. You keep hearing how the majority of trans women are supposed to be heterosexual. I'm just not seeing it, though. Not around here, anyway. Maybe the hetero gals flock to other forums, I don't know.

Weird I have always heard it was the opposite - that the majority of MTF were gynephilic.

Quote from: Hypatia on June 25, 2009, 01:22:15 AM
For that matter, I was also surprised that so far no one has selected FTM-GG, as I've gotten the impression that this is very prevalent in the FTM world. I could be mistaken. Maybe it's just the small sample size so far.

Around here, that's how most people would list my relationship.  But like I said, my lady and I see our relationship as male-female, nothing less.

In many ways I'd like to find that special someone. And there are those who show interest. Both male and female. But mostly males lately. Maybe because my boobs are becoming rather obvious and I go bra less most of the time. I'm not sure. Ever meet a "dumb blonde" that is a bit more intelligent than you expected? Anyway, I'm not sure that I want to deal with another person in my life or not  ??? But that need to be snuggled does haunt me. Someone with their arms around me and kissing my neck. I better stop there  :icon_chick:

i want a relationship, but don't need one right now. i have too much drama in my life right now and sure as hell don't want it to implode on anyone else. we all know my orientation so i won't bother posting it so i don't "refresh" peoples memories of too much of me.  i'm admired by both "recognized" genders(maybe a few others).

is the unicorn suppose to represent Androgynes??? i dunno so i am asking to be sure

Quote from: Virginia Marie on June 25, 2009, 02:26:00 AM
Someone with their arms around me and kissing my neck. I better stop there  :icon_chick:

Virginia,
Have you been peeking at my dreams, again?  Because they all start that way and then........ :icon_redface:

Janet

Quote from: heatherrose on June 25, 2009, 08:36:42 PM

Sure, as long as they or their SO is either Gender Dysphoric,
Intersexed or some variation thereof.

...and their fangs don't end up in a respondants neck

...without permission.

What if you have to pull their fangs out of your butt cheek?  :laugh: >:-) :laugh:

Quote from: heatherrose on June 25, 2009, 09:10:23 PM

Was it a consensual "mauling"?

:laugh: >:-) :laugh: Runs to get some P-towels to clean up the spirted coffee  :laugh:

Other.  It's a toss-up between "Not in a relationship but would like to be in one" and "Not in a relationship and not interested in one."

Janet, Flan, Virginia...I'm right there with you girls.  :D

Right now I'm just trying to get my life together post-college, figure out where my life is going career-wise, saving money, and improve/grow my relationship with my family.  Just a little too much right now, but if the right woman wants to come along and join the madness, then I'll try and fit you in.  ;)

Quote from: heatherrose on June 25, 2009, 09:59:03 PM

That's OK I'm used to being "chopped liver" :'(

*hugs* I am sorry hun, I didn't mean to leave out any of the other singles.  :-*

No worries  :laugh: I wasn't choked up, I thought that was a good one  :laugh: And you are not chopped liver {{{HUGS}}}

Quote from: Matilda on June 25, 2009, 07:39:05 PM
How about other members from the Otherkin community?  Are they allowed to participate in the poll?

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tha's okay Matilda, I'm a fairy and a girl and I voted anyways. Elves like to say oh there is no difference,  but I notice they are always quick to correct anyone that calls them fairies. I like dragons okay because they are kind of classy, but not so crazy about centaurs, if you know what I mean.

(No offense to any centaurs in the group; I'm sure that pheremone thing you got going works well on each other. :embarrassed:)

As a member of the Kindard I voted.  We have rights too, you know.

Janet

Quote from: Janet Lynn on June 24, 2009, 07:02:48 PM
I really want a relationship, but no one seems interested in little old me.  If I express an interest, they are gone.  I let them know from the get go that I am trans, and then they just want sex.  I just want a loving caring relationship without sex, for now. 

I should just give up and be the crazy lady on the corner with all the cats.


Janet

One thing I miss is companionship.  Not sex - I think I am part Vulcan in that regard. 

Either way, I need to get my "ex" to finally divorce me before I can do much of anything!  (NY State views my transition as me wronging her.  As such, I have to wait for her to divorce me - and she won't.)

Shauna

Quote from: FairyGirl on June 25, 2009, 10:37:25 PM
tha's okay Matilda, I'm a fairy and a girl and I voted anyways. Elves like to say oh there is no difference,  but I notice they are always quick to correct anyone that calls them fairies. I like dragons okay because they are kind of classy, but not so crazy about centaurs, if you know what I mean.

(No offense to any centaurs in the group; I'm sure that pheremone thing you got going works well on each other. :embarrassed:)

How 'bout Iguanas? they look kinda like a dragon and will run pretty fast when prompted. But they def. need a custom designer saddle

Quote from: Virginia Marie on June 25, 2009, 11:31:24 PM
How 'bout Iguanas? they look kinda like a dragon and will run pretty fast when prompted. But they def. need a custom designer saddle

lol check your pm's  :laugh:

I never had any luck looking it up, but what is "UNICORN" supposed to mean in this context ?

Quote from: Kimberly on June 26, 2009, 01:08:53 AM
I never had any luck looking it up, but what is "UNICORN" supposed to mean in this context ?

Yeah...right. And you didn't know that the unicorn is an androgyne symbol. Snarky Snarky Snarky Snark  :laugh: >:-) :angel: :P

Quote from: Virginia Marie on June 26, 2009, 02:09:11 AM
Yeah...right. And you didn't know that the unicorn is an androgyne symbol. Snarky Snarky Snarky Snark  :laugh: >:-) :angel: :P

and little transgirls are mermaids  (https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.cosgan.de%2Fimages%2Fsmilie%2Ftiere%2Fc055.gif&hash=831ac53907c3919808e6afdaef96742b0bf4fb94)

and little transgirls are mermaids

That explains that kind of brine and seaweed smell then.

Quote from: tekla on June 26, 2009, 10:34:06 AM
and little transgirls are mermaids

That explains that kind of brine and seaweed smell then.

that would be your underwear, Tekla.  :P

Fooled you, I didn't wear any.

Quote from: Virginia Marie on June 26, 2009, 02:09:11 AM
Yeah...right. And you didn't know that the unicorn is an androgyne symbol. Snarky Snarky Snarky Snark  :laugh: >:-) :angel: :P

Ah, so unicorn in this context refers to androgyne then? Thank you kindly.

I'm with everyone else in the "Not in, but do want" line. xD Frankly, since I'm tossing the idea of joining the female side of things, I'm a bit wary of getting into a relationship. >w> Rinne can't deal with heartbreak too well.

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I'm in a LTR with a wonderful cisgendered male.

Quote from: Hypatia on June 25, 2009, 01:22:15 AM
I was a bit surprised to find myself in the most populated type of relationship here: MTF-GG. How would I describe it? Lesbian. We both identify as lesbian. You keep hearing how the majority of trans women are supposed to be heterosexual. I'm just not seeing it, though. Not around here, anyway. Maybe the hetero gals flock to other forums, I don't know.

We spoke a tad too soon there, did we not?

Well what took you so long to get to the party? The drinks and chips are almost gone.

I knocked on the door & there was no answer.  The party must be over & everybody must be gone by now :laugh:
Another hetero girl here involved in a relationship with a marvelous bloke from my university.  It's fun to study & do our projects together.

Another late comer. Guy with a girl, that is how I define it.
Cheers,
Myes

Quote from: Shauna Marie on June 25, 2009, 11:19:06 PM
One thing I miss is companionship.  Not sex - I think I am part Vulcan in that regard. 

Either way, I need to get my "ex" to finally divorce me before I can do much of anything!  (NY State views my transition as me wronging her.  As such, I have to wait for her to divorce me - and she won't.)

Shauna

Wow.

that seems a pretty unfortunate arrangement for a state open enough to be dealing with gay marriage.

I'm not presently in a relationship. I do have my eyes on a cute frenchmen. Serge Dupond. Maybe he knows how to treat a lady and buy me lots of sexy shoes. Just joking about the shoe thing but I wouldn't say no.

non-binary almost girl with a GG.
But really I would define us as a married couple, best friends, companions, lovers, parents to our kids, a pea and a nut sitting happily in a pod.

I guess you could say androgyne - GG though I don't identify as androgyne that much these days. Happy to wear the unicorn badge though, and the head band with the horn on it.  ;D

Not in a relationship right now

Either way, I need to get my "ex" to finally divorce me before I can do much of anything! 

that seems a pretty unfortunate arrangement for a state open enough to be dealing with gay marriage.

Getting married is - often - way too easy.  Getting divorced is much more complicated.  As signing the contract (which is what marriage is) is very easy, getting out of one (which is what divorce is) is very hard.

But, as guys say, "You know why divorces are so expensive?  Because they are worth it."

There is a reason why marriage is referred to as an institution  :laugh: >:-) :laugh:

Leslie
With deepest respect. Is your avatar having a wee? :embarrassed: :embarrassed:

Not a problem we all need to go sometime. :laugh:

Please Honey a joke

Cindy

Yes Honey Bunch
I was MtF with a GG

Totally accurate and completly imprecise.

Tickle

Cindey

I'm really late to the party and checking the ashtrays for roaches.
Androgyne with a GG who loves champagne

guess I dont really count because my wife will leave me if I start transitioning but for now I am in a 5 yr marriage with a GG

lesbian relationship.  she thinks I'm beautiful, and vice versa.

I used to be in a relationship with a GG about 15 months ago.. no luck since :(

QuoteNot in a relationship but would like to be

:-\

Jay

I'm in a loving relationship with my gf (GG) who helped me through this entire process. <3

I chose "Other."

I'm an adrogyne married to an androgyne.

I also voted "not in, but wanting to be", but not really at this time.

Ummm... I guess I probably should have voted for "not in one, and not wanting one", but either one is really not accurate. I have always wanted to be in a relationship - with a GG - but the dysphoria always got in the way of things. I would love to be in a relationship, but the thought of going through transition while in a relationship seems far too cruel a thing to put someone through.

I have always been interested in girls/women and still am. Have never had the slightest interest in males. Now, I don't really know. I still love the idea of being with a woman, but there is something in there that is starting to wonder about the possibility of being with a man after I transition. Another reason to not want to get involved.

I really don't know!

*BTW - SarahFaceDoom, I think you're beautiful too (assuming the avatar is you)*  :)

Deanna

my avatar is me.  If it wasn't, it would be a picture of Anna Karina.
so fanks.

Never been in a relationship and mostly a virgin (I'm a lesbian and 28yrs old).

If you get into a relationship.....Always keep a ping pong paddle and water sprayer handy  :laugh: >:-) :laugh:

I had to vote m2f-gg.  I consider myself m2f for close to 25 years I felt like a girl trapped in another body I never did anything to change that due to fear.  When I was younger and it was more sexual I was with guys; however, when it became more emotional guys would not cut it.  When I found out I could get the emotional side and phyiscal side from a women with the right toy I stopped dating guys but still look from time to time.  I have been married for 18 years with a bi-sexual gg.