Quote from: Carlita on September 19, 2012, 05:39:33 AMMy point is, I can't imagine having that regular, male dick-centered sex-drive, and being TS. I'm not saying it's wrong, or doesn't exist, or makes anyone less of a TS. I just don't personally get it.
So can anyone please explain how a person can be driven to f*** like a man, but not feel like a man, or want to be a man?
How is it that there are girls on here wondering how they can maintain their erections?
What I was talking about had nothing to do with what you refer to as, "dick-centered sex-drive" or maintaining erections.
If you pumped a young girl full of testosterone every day for the rest of her life, even if you gave her electrolysis and gave her only sundresses to wear it would change how she experienced life. Just imagine how much it would change her perspectives if instead of being able to get pregnant she was able to impregnate others. But maybe she would still think of herself as a woman, why not?
I'm not sure there is an answer here. There is no "right or wrong", there is just humanity.
Going from M2F is not generally a "smooth" transition. I don't even know why... but I used to concern myself (a little bit) with who was a "real" transsexual and who wasn't. But don't fall into that trap. There is no such thing as a "real" transsexual. The "reality" is what you do with your life.
The facts are simply that testosterone generally has an influence on how people act and think, sometimes even years after transition. But even more powerful than testosterone (perhaps) is ego. Ego can be just as powerful a drug.
The sexual activity that I encountered at conventions was basically a lot of people who were doing things as a result of testosterone. It had nothing to do with boners or "dick-centeredness". Transition can be embarrassing and awkward, it can be ugly... Transition can be creepy. Transition can be all those things that puberty generally is. Transition can seem worse though because by the time most people transition they are much better at psychological projection than they were during puberty.
Quote"Projecting our problems onto other people"
Psychological projection is the phenomenon whereby
one projects one's own thoughts, motivations, desires,
feelings, and so on onto someone else - http://karlrwolfe.com/psychological-projection.html
Psychological projection really puts the creep in creepy, it's what causes someone else's actions to make us feel dirty, simply by observing them.
I think this whole issue is about the observer more so than the observed. I have a friend who is hyper-sexual. She can't seem to get enough sex with strangers. She has had SRS and seems to be going ape szhit. When I look at her I recognize that her behavior is unhealthy and I see that she is giving herself away like worn-out hand-me-down clothes. Like what she has to offer has no value, no worth, no utility. She never even get's to know her sex partners. I feel like I need to help her to see what she is doing to herself and the risk she is putting herself in. But it's her life. And talking to her about it just makes me less of a friend in her mind.
Really this is the kind of sexuality I am talking about.
Sexuality that is risk with no real reward. Like behavior that is mindless, driven... For whatever reason. Whether it is caused by a powerful drug called testosterone or whether someone is reliving childhood trauma in a mis-guided effort to gain mastery over past experiences.
Really it's about me (the observer) or simply that there tends to be a lot of sexual acting out at gender conventions.
I see sexuality as a way to bond with a partner. Intimacy for the sake of closeness. Getting to know someone. A relationship. So for me anything else falls short of my desires for myself. And the further it seems to fall from my desires, the less I am able to understand the motivation.
Nothing is either right nor wrong but some things would appear to be more expedient than others. Apparently we don't all relate to things the same way.
In my experience there tends to be a lot of sexual activity at gender conventions. For whatever that is worth.
