Easily my mom. I knew from the start she would be completely supportive. The hardest was my girlfriend of 2 years. I was terrified she'd end up leaving me but I was very surprised when she said she's proud of me and she still wants to be with me.

A three way tie between my husband ("I already know you're a guy."), my childhood friend ("Wow, that makes sense. Cool. Hey, so I totally read this new fic, you gotta check it out...") and my grandmother ("Oh, okay. You make a terrible girl, always did. How are  your classes?"). That's almost exactly what all three said to me. If only the rest would go so smoothly. But the first person I ever told was my pet ferret, and my snake was the second.

I think probably three of my guy (all three straight cis guys thus far) friends. The first two were two of my best friends at a week-long music festival a few years ago where we were camped out and partying. We were drunk and I decided it was time to tell them that I'd come out as trans and they were both like "yeah, that's cool makes sense," and one of them mused about what it would be like to be a woman, lol. Then they spent the rest of the festival advertising me as their brother to everyone in the general vicinity. It was pretty awesome.

The other was an online friend I hadn't talked to in yyeearrss. I recently bumped into him online and told him what had been up. Because of some of his previous beliefs I thought he might freak a bit, but he was just like "oh, that's totally cool, no worries" and went on talking about totally unrelated politics.

Those were probably my best experiences.

That and one of my profs in uni a while back. When she first called my name for an assignment I got up to get it and she was like "oh, I thought that was a guy's name" and I slinked back to my seat kind of embarrassed and not wanting to say anything in front of the whole class. Then she was like "oh sorry, maybe you're a guy" and I just sat there embarrassed and trying to disappear into my seat some more. But afterwards she was quite cool about it and I didn't even have to come out to her. She just used male pronouns the rest of the semester and ended up being quite nice...that was pretty awesome

Those are pretty awesome, Berserk!

It was easiest to tell a my female coworker.
Then it my female neighbor who has been around before Jillieann.
But the most surprising support was work. So many of the people have been encouraging me both male and female.
If fact some of the women have given me gifts of jewelry. Even a pair of diamond earrings.

The hardest was my family. There has been no encouragement there.
Most are unhappy and some will not even talk to me. My wife is still talking to me but the divorce action she started is almost final now.

Quote from: Jillieann Rose on August 26, 2012, 03:25:12 PM
But the most surprising support was work. So many of the people have been encouraging me both male and female.
If fact some of the women have given me gifts of jewelry. Even a pair of diamond earrings.

Shortly after I came out at work, the other Connie in the office gave me this brooch:



It's pinned to a jacket that was a gift from another co-worker.

Quote from: Jillieann Rose on August 26, 2012, 03:25:12 PM
My wife is still talking to me but the divorce action she started is almost final now.

I can relate to this. My divorce became final in February and I'm still reeling from it.

Friends and peers. They have a more "modern" way of thinking so they embrace everything non-chalantly.

When we don't fulfil the gender expectations of many our families they are usually confused and often hurt.
My wife says that I have lied to her all of of our years of marriage.
My children don't know what to do with a dad who is a women nor how to tell their children that grandpa is  a women.
My two sisters only had 1 brother and he either crazy or I have destroyed him.

But many of our friends have no such attachments as to our gender just the souled within.
At least that is what I am experiencing.

I've found it easier to come out to two friends of mine, since they're in the LGBT community. The first person is like an older brother to me and has been helpful and the other is one of the first trans* friend I've had so that helped too.

So far (and it's only been a week so the circle of people who know is still pretty small) everyone has been great, the best has been my sister though.
We've always been really close and she was the first person who really engaged with me and asked me a lot of questions.  Somehow that really helped.  Her husband wins for funniest response so far, I was talking with my sis on the phone when he got home and the overheard conversation between them went like this,

Sister "Hi Hun, Thom says he's a girl now"
Brother in law "What?  Again?"

It actually speaks to the fact that I've been lucky and never had to really hide who I am from most of the people in my life.  I'd always been pretty feminine as a boy so I guess most people aren't to surprised.

Yesterday I came out (via email) to my martial arts instructor but I haven't heard back yet so I don't know if that wil be good or bad.  Fingers crossed!

Easiest people I cam out to were my 4 friends. Two I met online years ago and the other two I visit sometimes. They were very happy I'm out and are supportive of me as they have always been.

The whole father/mother conundrum is special , in terms of role you were a fatherly figure.  I believe a woman can definitely be a fatherly figure ^^ and vice versa.

I can't believe how easily my dad is taking the news. Today, he was teaching me how to drive and I suck (Just something about being in a two-ton killing machine that makes me nervous). He brought up my desire to transition and said, "Damn, woman, now I finally understand why you can't drive." 

Quote from: DianaP on September 16, 2012, 02:39:41 PM
Damn, woman, now I finally understand why you can't drive." 

Love that.  Honest humor is a great sign that someone is at least "trying" to be sensitive and understand.

So far I've told three of my closest friends and my wife.  The first friend I told was the best response.  "Oh, ok.  That's cool."

My other friends tried telling me that I'm just stuck in an overly masculine environment and it would probably pass.

My wife is still struggling with it (no divorce papers yet though)

My mom because she had been a nurse and had treated an intersexed person in a Psyche ward many years ago.

My best friend. She was very very accepting over it.

The few people I told at my university so far were the easiest (in terms of my nerves as well). The student counsellor for science told me that I should be as upfront with my teachers when I needed help with classwork.

I'm still coming out to many ppl and I think that the easiest person to tell it is still to come, because every time I tell it to someone it gets easier and easier :-)



...and it's such a relief!

My friend, Lindsay. She said straight away that she will always be my friend, no matter what, has been asking me important and thoughtful questions, but emphasised that I can ask her to stop if it gets too much, and just generally being supportive and not being fazed.

Well I would like to say my mom, but I can't although she took it quite well, (still in process) she wasn't able to understand why I "made" these decisions. Actually the person who was had the best reception was a friend who currently lives in Petawawa (Northern Ontario ^.^), anyway. Yeah he was nice about it... Now what to do about school...