So, I've been going out with my girlfriend for eight months and I've been fully out as FTM for about one and a half. Before I came out, there was some weirdness, like major weirdness, with one of her friends telling everybody they knew that my girlfriend was bi and dating a chick. I didn't really care, but she did. She identifies as kinda asexual but romantic which is cool for us because we both have some issues with sex and stuff due to bad experiences. But the problem now is that she really cares about being seen as straight and all these people her friend told kinda think i'm a chick... and she's a lesbian or bi or whatever. It gets on her nerves and honestly, i'm feeling kind of guilty for not coming out before. I had a really bad experience the first time I tried coming out, like...um...in-the-hospital kind of bad so i didn't want to rush it, but now i'm feeling kind of bad about it because nothing to that level's happened again. I mean, yeah, there's been some issues at school, but nothing major. Got any advice about what I should do? I came out on facebook, so I don't really know how i could make it wider known XD but yeah. THoughts?

unfortunately not. i'm in something of the same predicament myself, though it doesn't cause more than awkwardness between me and this guy who's hellbent on me being a girl. even though i explicitly told him that's usually not the case at all. and it pisses off this cute girl i met, that he'll call us lesbians when it should be obvious that we aren't

problem is that very many people just refuse to get it. if the body is X, then the person is X too. and the gender doesn't matter, cause even if that is Y, the person is still X in their mind *sigh*

hah god, i know. WE'RE NOT LESBIAN, GUYS. THERE'S A DIFFERENCE.

Both of you seem to be hanging around with people who are very insecure.

Do either of you share your friend's/partners fear over what others think about you?

I would second what Spacial wrote, piss them off and get some new friends who want to be friends with you, and not their idea of who you should be. 

If you are in High School, it's pretty much part of the territory that a fair percentage of the students will be extremely insecure about their identity in all sorts of ways.  You two are ahead of the pack on that front already, and on your way to being adults, instead of continually regressing to spoiled infants. 

I would be tempted to tell the critics to get their own lives out of the toilet first, before they try and tell you who you are and how to live your lives.

Give your girl a hug from me, she is special.

Karen.