I know its not my fault she feels the way she does, but I still cant help feeling completely useless and worthless because of it.
There has been MAJOR progress in the months since she started HRT. Shes lost so much weight and looks FANTASTIC. Even my grandparents said she looks way more feminine these days. I try to tell her that she is beautiful but she just cant see it. It breaks my heart to see her so down on herself. She says she just cant see past the 'man in the mirror'... I just wanna be able to find the right words to make her see what I see. But I know I cant because it has nothing to do with what I see or feel. Its something she has to work through. How do I help? Can I help? Maybe it'll be easier once I get her her laser done this month. Sorry for mini rant just dont have anyone else I can really talk to about this =( 

Being able to "See past that man in the mirror" can take months, even years. So much of it is wrapped up in self-esteem and self-worth issues. I just could not (still half the times cannot) believe when others, even those I trust and love, tell me how good I look. For me it's not just the man. It's the big fat blob of a guy I was 30 years ago when I was nearly twice my current weight!