Hey everyone!

I'm going to cut straight to the point and tell you about one of my problems recently. Every time I see a cismale or especially another transman looking better than me, passing better, more handsome etc., I just get intensely jealous of them and leave.
For background information, I do have some self-image problems, and I hate how I look 99% of the time and Im not allowed to wear the male uniform at work.

It even goes to females who are in drag just for fun or halloween. I have a lesbian  friend who dresses "butch" or drag sometimes, and she does it so well that I just don't think it's fair.

I'm sorry if it sounds like I'm bitching, but I'm probably not the only one.

What should I do?

Ohh. That monster.

To be honest, I think we all meet that one now and again. When you figure out what to do with it, other than simply biting your tongue rather hard, be really grateful for the answer.

Not really over someone better looking but I am envious of those in a relationship.It's 7 years since I was in one,it wouldn't matter to me if they were man woman or trans as long as it was someone nice who I found attractive and could care for

Quote from: wrabbit on November 04, 2012, 02:33:15 PM
What should I do?

Get in touch with what you are proud of about yourself. When you see someone you want to be/look like, realize that you are as wonderful as they are in a great number of ways, and that anyone who doesn't make the effort to see that is missing out on knowing a wonderful human being.

Quote from: big kim on November 04, 2012, 05:56:46 PM
Not really over someone better looking but I am envious of those in a relationship.It's 7 years since I was in one,it wouldn't matter to me if they were man woman or trans as long as it was someone nice who I found attractive and could care for

oh wow that's definitely something else i get really jealous of too. And I've never had a girlfriend :/

When I see women, especially at the gym that have the physic and style that I wish I had I get crazy jealous. I find myself saying to myself how I'd like to punch them in the nose. Then take they're clothes just to spite them...

Quote from: Danigrl on November 04, 2012, 09:16:33 PM
When I see women, especially at the gym that have the physic and style that I wish I had I get crazy jealous. I find myself saying to myself how I'd like to punch them in the nose. Then take they're clothes just to spite them...

oh god you sound scary! remind me not to mess with you, haha.

Yep I do. I really do. It's to the point I avoid watching documentaries and all that stuff because it hits so hard.

I get frustrated when I see transmen who have sideburns and tattoos. I feel like a little kid and an outsider. I don't know that I get jealous exactly, but I get sad. It makes me tired to wonder how long it will take for me to look the way I want to look.

I do, but its more depression than jealousy.

I also find its confidence, more than reality.

I don't get jealous of cis men, but I sometimes feel the green eyed monster when seeing ridicolously handsome trans guys. Like that guy at work. Thin, young, a full head of hair, passing, cute.. *grumbles and kicks a door*

Ow. My toe. >.>'

Anywhoo, I know it's silly, but as long as I don't spend a lot of energy on it, whatever. I grumble and get over it.

As for the relationship thing, I do sometimes feel a wee bit jealous about that aswell, after being single for 14 years and in a crappy relationship before that. But then I remind myself how I'd probably end up mad having to share space with someone, so meh.

At times, I get jealous of women, transwomen, and some crossdressers. I actually was a bit jealous of a cross dresser this weekend. I think she passed much better than I, and she has never even thought about hormones.  To deal with this, I just remind myself that everyone is different, and most everyone has/had to work hard to get to that point in there life.

All the time. Im 6 2 wo heals. Yeh uber tall. I try and be content in my skin but when I see normal sized people. I sigh somtimes wondering why I cant be the size person I feel like in my mind.  It is nearly impossible to find guts taller than me and I find myself judging peolle for being so short so. Who am. I? Lol