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What were the first things you did for yourself after coming out?

Started by kathy bottoms, November 14, 2012, 09:13:52 AM

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kathy bottoms

I'm wasting some time this morning thinking of a few things I'd like to do immediately after coming out to my family after Christmas.  Just wondering what sort of things you did as a "gift to yourself" after all the pressure of coming out was let off.  And if anyone is in a closeted situation like I am, I'd like to hear your list also.   :D

My list is small.

1. Professional ear piercing.  No more needles and ice cubes.

2. Buy some makeup that fits my age and lifestyle.

3. Get a proper wig, but first make sure I see stylist who can help with the wig and my natural hair.

4. Use something other than clear and opaque polish on my nails.  I like pink tones, but I don't think pink likes me.

5. Buy new jeans.  I haven't been shopping for pants and jeans because I'm loosing weight and I'm going to be changing what I wear.  So all my Levi's are falling apart and too loose.

Kathy
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anita

I am assuming, coming out after family as the checkpoint. I still don't have pierced ears, or even a nail polish.

  • Bought some beard concealer.
  • Started going out in public, being myself. Well, now almost living fulltime.
  • Signed up for laser hair removal for face.
  • I guess some new clothes too.
Honestly coming out to parents was very hard. They still have not approved me to start HRT, I am starting any way.
But overall everything seems nicer all of a sudden.
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jacqueline_rose

I cant give you a list since I told my family soon after I made the decision. Personally though the first thing that I did was start building my collection of clothes. I only had one outfit at the time and I suddenly felt the need to start shopping. the first thing that I bought was a long black skirt. I love the feeling and sight of it swishing around as I dance.
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I-
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.

-Robert Frost (The Road Not Taken)
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innainka

I cried the tears of pain and joy, I don't know how others handle the beginning of the path of truth. I never really experienced extatic moments of pure joy, however, I felt at peace to finality of deceit and secrecy. Price was so immense in lost love, that to feel absolute happiness was rather impossible. I have slowly morphed into the situation at hand, though pain is still present especially when those who felt betrayed by my actions, still press on with hate and prejudice
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AmyBee

I didn't treat myself to any stuff, but the main things I did for myself and have done since are to genuinely relax and drop my guard in conversation.

I can talk to someone who knows my story at least five times more (about any topic, not just trans) than to someone whom its hidden from.
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PHXGiRL

1.) Started Laser on my entire body
2.) Started HRT
3.) Bought a proper wig
4.) Bought make up and clothes
5.) Go out as me every opportunity I get a chance too! :)
6.) Bought the Coach purse that I've ALWAYS had my eye on.


Buying clothes have been since the beginning. Its a addiction to me. lol
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