DOes anyone else have this problem? She's kindof the "gatekeeper" of sorts...I still need a letter from her for surgery so I'm terrified of telling her any of the problems that are in my life right now. I don't want her to think I'm "unstable" and therefore not a good candidate for surgery.
Ok, I might be a little unstable but I KNOW surgery will help, and I know I would have a hard time iterating that.

I can't tell my therapist any of the awful ->-bleeped-<- that's happening right now. That's sad.

Don't know what to tell you Lane. If you got like a good friend then thats one way of going. Usually women are the best to talk to because their brighter then us. Theres always a religious way out too. Of course if you follow one of the ones involving large amounts of bigotry then I would say no to that one.

Quote from: Lane on May 26, 2007, 12:32:59 PM
DOes anyone else have this problem? She's kindof the "gatekeeper" of sorts...I still need a letter from her for surgery so I'm terrified of telling her any of the problems that are in my life right now. I don't want her to think I'm "unstable" and therefore not a good candidate for surgery.
Ok, I might be a little unstable but I KNOW surgery will help, and I know I would have a hard time iterating that.

I can't tell my therapist any of the awful ->-bleeped-<- that's happening right now. That's sad.

yes, I can totally relate.  I'm not sure if I should open up either.  Part of me would like to, but part of me doesn't want to foul up the process of meeting the SOC requirements ASAP.

I've thought about getting a second therapist for my "other" problems, but I don't know.  I'm hoping things just kind of work themselves out. 

Good luck honey.

xo
Suzie

Hi Lane,
I think you should always be honest with your therapist. What good will do to lie to them.
I really think that if you can't than you should get one you can be truthful with.
If you don't tell her Lane it might backfire on you because if she has knows you very will she will be able to tell and many not let you thought the "gate" anyway. Best bet is to play by all the rules.
Jillieann

maybe tell her exactly what you just posted... that there are things going on but you don't want it to jeopardize your surgery.

it depends really on how long you've seen her.  If she is relatively new, then maybe don't say anything and look for other outlets (friends, family, online, different therapist).  If you trust her, and have been through a lot while seeing her, tell her.

Hey Lane,
Maybe you could look at the other problems in your life and see if maybe they are somewhat related to gender? Then maybe that would help point you in the right direction. I don't know though, I'm more focused on opening up to my therapist and really jumping into the self-analysis part of therapy to figure out the speed that I want to do this at. I don't want to be focused on an end result yet, but I know that's different for all of us. It does feel really good to be honest and open up, but I can empathize with how scary that would be for you if you already know where you want to go. Meghan

Quote from: Lane on May 26, 2007, 12:32:59 PM
I can't tell my therapist any of the awful ->-bleeped-<- that's happening right now. That's sad.

It's a pretty rare therapist who can't tell when you're holding out on her.  Which is worse?  Having her make her decision based on knowing you're not telling her everything, or make it based on the truth?

Not sure if it helps but I once had problems that were pretty severe but I could hide them darned well. I did eventually rationalize things enough and told him that I had them but not what they were right away. If the thereapist knows they exist at least, then that in itself is a plus and it helps bring down that particular wall.

-C

PS Hey Lisbeth! I know you from another place! I can't remember it for the life of me but its glad to see your face in your avatar.

Quote from: cindyh on June 24, 2007, 11:06:53 AM
PS Hey Lisbeth! I know you from another place! I can't remember it for the life of me but its glad to see your face in your avatar.

From just your name I can't recall, but I recognize the IP address.  LOL!  That tells you something about my life.  If you figure it out let me know.

It took me a while to open up to my therapist, but now that I have I never shut up! The way I see it, they are there to help us and they need to know everything. Be honest.