Quote from: spring0721 on December 13, 2012, 11:51:50 AM
Lstanford......you NEED to identify as the person you feel you are on the inside.  If you're a man be a man, don't worry about how easy it is for a lesbian to pick up a girl or vice versa, because are you a lesbian?.  NO you are a straight man (I'm guessing here). The point is approach dating as that man.  I am a cisfemale & straight, and I see NO problem with the stealth life at all, in fact why is it even stealth? If you're a man then you're not hiding anything; you're only being who you are.  As far as disclosure before intimacy, well yeah I'm sure the girl may wonder what's up if you don't say anything and just drop pants RIGHT before you are intimate.  My opinion is this(and it's only an opinion!!) You date like any other man, to have fun and enjoy being around that girl, if you feel like you're ready to be intimate then you approach the subject.  By this point in the relationship you are going to know if they'd be open to you as a person, and love you for YOU.  I mean really if a girl is only with you because of what you may or may not have between your legs, whatever they need to grow up. Dating is hard in any situation, and I can only imagine how hard it is for guys to always have to ask someone out, as I'm sure percentage wise more often than not the guy does the asking.  Just remember you have to take a chance, if you do nothing then you get no where.

Thank you, I've never quite looking at it that way even though its simple. I shouldn't have to and I don't want to hide who I am. No one should have to.

Quote from: Lstanford on December 13, 2012, 05:27:44 PM
Thank you, I've never quite looking at it that way even though its simple. I shouldn't have to and I don't want to hide who I am. No one should have to.

Great attitude to have/adopt, plus I have to tell you that as you get older you I don't know if you grow into yourself more or just become more confident in who you are in general.....teenage years can be really hard, so you'll have a one up on everyone else if you think this way already at 16. take it from someone who is almost twice your age(30 )!....gosh it killed me to say that

Quote from: spring0721 on December 13, 2012, 05:50:52 PM
Great attitude to have/adopt, plus I have to tell you that as you get older you I don't know if you grow into yourself more or just become more confident in who you are in general.....teenage years can be really hard, so you'll have a one up on everyone else if you think this way already at 16. take it from someone who is almost twice your age(30 )!....gosh it killed me to say that

I can't wait to be out of these immature years! I tend to surround myself with adults anyway.

Gods help me if I end up back on the dating scene. A pre-everything pansexual transman is going to be a bit of a tricky one.

Quote from: DeeperThanSwords on December 13, 2012, 06:22:10 PM
Gods help me if I end up back on the dating scene. A pre-everything pansexual transman is going to be a bit of a tricky one.

There's people out there that will accept anyone for who they are:)

Quote from: DeeperThanSwords on December 13, 2012, 06:22:10 PM
Gods help me if I end up back on the dating scene. A pre-everything pansexual transman is going to be a bit of a tricky one.

Aethan, I second what lstanford just said: there is someone for everyone.  you're too great of a person, even if you are on the dating scene again one day, you'll be snapped up like a hotcake! no worries.

Quote from: Lstanford on December 13, 2012, 06:12:00 PM
I can't wait to be out of these immature years! I tend to surround myself with adults anyway.

I know, high school can be so juvenile.  I actually even really enjoyed high school, but looking back, it's like it's just one big awful gossip/backstabbing fest....I'm not sure when things really begin to change I'm guessing really maybe around the 21-23 year mark people really start to grow up...but if you go into the military instead of straight into college, I think you'll probably prefer that as you sound pretty mature for your age.....skip that 18/19 year old college drama

You're both very sweet.

Aww thank you!
And I'll hit the college drama once I do go after transitioning of course haha