I think it's interesting that so many trans guys say that we have to face facts and realize that we are going to get the same effects as cis guys--balding, gut, body hair in weird places, health issues, and so forth. Frankly, I don't understand why people need this warning. Have they been living with their heads in the sand, or are they simply doing their own transition in their own way?
It's also interesting that so many trans guys say that they are okay with all of these changes. Most cis guys that I talk to are not so thrilled about the changes, and many of those guys took a long time to get used to them. Some of them go to great lengths to battle the effects. Why should we be any different? I realize that we have a heightened awareness of male markers and characteristics, but why should I be expected to revel in my thinning hair when so many of my cis friends are just as cranky about their own incipient baldness?
BTW, I'm not accusing anyone here of saying that it's not okay for me to be sensitive about effects that I don't like. Some people in other threads have implied it. But I've directly experienced that kind of pressure in my own community here. It's yet another reason that I don't hang around with the local guys so much anymore. The "like it or lump it" approach bothers me. My cis buddies don't usually "like it"; they tend to either fight the effects or make their peace with them. If I go through a similar process, I'm just acting the same way they do.