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Hi Elissa,

Welcome to our little family. Over 9800 strong. That would be one heck of a family reunion.

Feel free to post your successes/failures, Hopes/dreams.  Ask questions and seek answers. Give and receive advice.

But remember we are family here, your family now. And it is always nice to have another sister.

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There is a SO forum and a post-op forum.  Both of which you would fit into nicely.


Janet 

Thank you Janet.

It will probably get more traffic in the introductions, which I can move it for you.  And the personal information would be stuff that other can use to locate you. 

Some post them anyway.  You just need to remember that if you are stealth, then you wish to remain that way.

Hi Elissa

I'm almost 16 years post op, having SRS back in 97.  Like you I wish there was a site like this back then. 

I came here as I've been stealth for so long I didn't even know I was stealth 

There are no forums specifically for married post ops, but there is a 'post op life' forum

Ciao Elissa!
It is so nice to meet you.

Elissa, welcome!

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We have a public post-op board, and after you have 15 or more posts, other aspects of the site will open to you.

Yes, we do have several married post-op MtFs.

Hi Elissa, I had my surgery  10 years ago and then disappeared into the world thinking I would never be seen again. Well after a decade of being gone here I am now it has me thinking what my life will be like 25 years post op? I just know that when I am an old lady I will have lived most of my life as a female and that's a good thing welcome!

Hi Elissa,

A big Aussie welcome to Susan's family. It's good of you to drop in and say "Hi". Hope you like it here, and you stay for a while.

There is a mountain of information, resources and friendship waiting for you here, you just need to jump in start talking and ask any question you like. You're quite safe here and we are very accepting.

As its already been mentioned there is no specific "married post-op" forum, you are still very welcome here. As no doubt you may appreciate this lifestyle often is the catalyst for the demise of many a relationship, self included. However it's alway a breath of inspiration and hope to meet fellow women like yourself. It restores my faith in human relationship, as we often make damn side better women that we could have EVER being a man. Or more the point, acting as a man. (and usually, very poorly)

May I congratulate you on your mighty effort for the past 25 years. Just goes to prove what the right attitude, courage and determination can do. You sound as though you are completely happy in your circumstances. An inspiration to us all. We have much to learn from you.

I, myself, have no intention of becoming an 'old maid' once post op. I know there is someone out there for me, he just doesn't know it yet.

Looking forward to hearing more of your story in time to come, but in the meantime, be safe, well and happy.

Lotsa huggs
Catherine

Hi, and nice to meet you!

I am married *to* a post-op woman, if it helps. She doesn't do much with the internet, though.

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Welcome Elissa, and thank you for the take on your last 25 years, bless your sweet heart! I do remember Dr. Biber well! Dr. Bowers worked under him before his retirement in Trinidad, Co. as I recall and has since embellished on the SRS procedures that he had imparted to her.

I don't understand how your dr don't know.  How do you explain not having internal female parts? haven't one of them done a pelvic exam on you?

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Quote from: Elissa25YearsPostOp on January 21, 2013, 04:56:54 PM

By biggest fear, someday down the road things may show up in surgery like discovering a prostate, missing rib or chromosome blood test.
So I try not to worry and be happy  : -)

I hope that helps answer your question.
LOL   (Lots of Love)
Elissa[/b]

Elissa,
      That was a smart and innovative means of deflecting all that unwanted probing, and circumventing those unseemly questions. As far as your biggest fear is concerned I rather doubt any of that will ever be an issue, prostates on estrogen therapy atrophy and never cause the problems that men have.

Very interesting, Dr Biber did a great job for you, your external parts labia, vagina, and clitoris must look very natural.  I have heard mtf say they need to get prostate exams and you have avoided them too.  Your breast development must be normal to not have caused any questions.  You have become a woman as close as possible in think, being able to get pregnant is still in future.  This is one of the great advantage that mtf's have over ftm's in that there is a possibility that they can go completely stealth even with drs. Congraduations to you.

Welcome to Susan's, Elissa. Congratulations on your 25 years.

welcome to Susans! It's so nice to meet others who have come before us. I myself have SRS scheduled in just less than two months. I am really looking forward to it (and a little nervous too).

Thank you so much for sharing your story. I hope you will stay and participate in other discussions too!

To go along with what Shantel said about finding a prostate.  If a dr in doing a pelvic exam is not looking for any evidence of the prostate, they are very unlikely to be looking or feeling anything abnormal in doing an exam.  The idea that there is a different number of ribs in males and females is completely false.  The only time I see a question possibly come up is with a total pelvic x-ray or MRI scan and this too has a low probability of happening.