Being a smoker i can say,this is a personal preference of yours and nothing to do with his fetish.With the fetish on the other hand,eagerness and being over bearing,can and is normally a bad sign and i would slow things down,by force if need be.Cut the texting down,cut the visits with him down to a certain limit and increase as you see
fit.In my experience with this,being obsessed (as you put it) is NEVER about love but ownership.I have been obsessed over more times then i can count,i have been used for sex,i have sat on the line between and wondered to myself o_O wth..with my experience,a man who can say *ill stop smoking right now and ill wait as long as it takes* is in denial or a good liar,Almost like saying *i cant stop when i want,watch ill do it right now* These kind of people either 1) never mean what they say or 2) mean it but will always fall off again.Even with smoking,it comes to admitting you need help and that you do have an issue in order to find recovery.Addictions are NOT that simple and the only time i have seen someone do this and mean what they say,is being IN love and im affraid i dont get that from your post of things he has done.I could be wrong and its never bad to take a chance but i suggest being guarded over your self and heart during this time.Ill explain in detail what I have experienced with this (many times,which is sad >_<).
A fast increase in communication.and by any means,this includes finding it hard to escape their
reach.at first this can be seen as flattering/cute.
fast acceptance/Agreeing to all and anything said or asked of them.words said,actions done to bring comfort and cause one to open up.
Attitude changes after the above.Increase in jealousy/rage toward everything else around you.aka compliments from others,anything they see as a threat to what is theirs.
After the above,they become more demanding on said person.Demanding certain things/people be ripped away,this normally leads to aggression when said person denies them.Causing them to *have the excuse to step in on their own and deal with it*.
If that is not dealt with asap then the personal *tho ill explain* blows begin.This is a type of love-hate relationship,they will do things to hurt you purposely,watch your reactions/how much you will take then try to *heal* the things you wont take but poke and prod the things you will.For example,lets say you wont take someone claiming *you use people* once they find this out,they will *regret ever saying it* and be *so sorry for it* but if you will take (and it does crush you) being seen as *worthless* then they will use this to keep you under toe.
The next vary's between the person being spoken of.some love to use your emotions to keep you under toe as well.After the above,IF you speak your opinion on how it makes you feel,then the guilt trips will begin.This is a way to push you back under the collar.Once this all continues,then the worst starts to take place.once they know your breaking points/limits/emotions then they have learned your entire being.
The next part is something i would encourage ANYONE to avoid and get out while you can.Depending on the type of person they are,this can start to lead into physical abuse,here also learning ones breaking points before hand.
In a nut shell,it ALWAYS starts with obsession and ends with brute force.A piece of property owned and ment to be
controlled.So all i can tell you is,watch
yourself.Im sorry if this post has discouraged anyone but i hope that it somehow helps with what to watch
for.As i stated tho,this is what I have dealt with and seen in my life,everyone is different and why i said *depending* as it can adjust depending on the people involved.
