Since I've been here, I noticed that about 80-90% of everyone is gay. In real life I meet other guys and they are either bisexual or gay, I never met a straight transguy (like me). As a kid, I always thought I was a boy not only because I behaved like one, but I loooved girls from childhood xD It was only until recently that I found out that FTMs can be gay, and that identity & orientation are two different things. I thought I was a lesbian, because I'm a boy in a girls body...I seriously thought that up until recently.

So, how come is it that most transguys are gay/bi? Is there a link between being FTM and attraction to men? I know I'm 100% straight, and I have no femininity in me at all, behavior and interest-wise. As a kid I thought I was bisexual, but only out of curiosity. Now I realized I'm just the typical white straight male, nothing special  lol

I'm a straight guy as well.

My theory is that it's probably that people who are trans are also more open to admitting to themselves that they're gay.  A lot of people, especially men, are horrified by the idea that they might be anything other than straight, particularly men, but once you've realised that you're not cisgendered not being heterosexual probably isn't such a scary revelation anymore.  Not saying that being gay/bi/whatever isn't sometimes difficult, but surely less so than being trans.  Trans people are probably just more open to things that aren't in societies "normal" category.

Only speaking for myself here:

I believe souls are genderless, and that people fall in love with souls, not bodies; so if I love someone who happens to be male bodied then that's okay.

I used to think I was a lesbian, then I met this guy who I had an instant connection with, almost like we met before; then I started changing my mind. I later got married to a different guy, but that was disastrous....

While I can love someone in a male's body, I now realize that I am in no way physically attracted to their bodies. I don't like the way they taste, smell, or feel. I've always enjoyed the taste, smell, and feelings of women, so that's where, at least on a physical scale, I am planning on staying for now on.

I am not talking for the other guys on here; but I know for myself (and also some lesbians who I know) that sometimes you start dating men because that's either what's expected or that's what you think you want, like, you're trying to be normal. I also realize now that at the time when I thought I was physically attracted to men, I was getting confused between what I thought was attractive and what I wanted to look like; I also spent a bit of time dressing like the women who I thought were hot. Yeah... it was a bit of a confusing time, but now I know I am trans and that male bodies just don't do it for me.

im straight as well. i think most straight guys just dont talk about their sexuality on here.

Yeah...I'm straight.
I just thing it's the interwebz getting to you, dude.

Straight as well, mate.  I don't know if straight FTMs are just less vocal/visible, but I was and am still surprised to see so many gay/bi trans guys...not a bad thing, but just surprising.

Straight here too.

However, most of the transguys I get along with or have befriended online are gay. The gay guys are a lot more chill and far less narcissistic.   

since I'm at uni I have access to lots of peer-reviewed journals, and I was just going through a few articles that attempted to give a snapshot of the trans* demographic. Of the three I perused, all showed that transmen who prefer women (straight I guess), are the rather overwhelming majority. Transmen who prefer men were between 8-20% (in those studies).

So yeah..probably just not getting a good random sample here on the web (in terms of people who discuss their sexuality). To me it seems the proportions are similar to cis folks.

I'm actually bisexual. I am dating a woman, but have dated men as well. I prefer relationships with women to men, but find men sexually attractive.

When I go to meetings I feel like most of the transguys I hear from are straight. But I think maybe gay transguys are often more vocal because it's a little more confusing and not the cultural default. Also yeah gay people on the internet are more visible than irl.

Well, here I go stirrin' those statistics up a bit 

As it stands, I'm a panromantic asexual. What the hell does that mean and what am I smoking, you ask?

Panromantic means I can love everyone and anyone in the romantic sense. Do I? Hell no. That'd be really awkward for everyone.
Asexual for me means that the thought of sexual things makes me cringe so hard that every cell in my body is cringing and facepalming at the same time. I can appreciate a nice body and make sexual remarks in a teasing manner as an act, but in reality I've pretty much got the mentality of a 9 year old when it comes to "making love" and even the parts and processes involved
(i.e. "Ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww, cooties!!!").

So it's like being able to be attracted to anyone, just minus the sexual attraction.

Though I do prefer more feminine people, and would like a girlfriend (bf is close enough for the moment :3).

Quote from: Felix on February 10, 2013, 08:02:40 PM
When I go to meetings I feel like most of the transguys I hear from are straight. But I think maybe gay transguys are often more vocal because it's a little more confusing and not the cultural default. Also yeah gay people on the internet are more visible than irl.

That's what I've noticed.  I'm the only gay transman (well, homoromantic/panromantic asexual-ish) out of the 5 or so in my local trans* group and the majority transmen I've met elsewhere have been straight.

I think it's easier to see gay transmen online because it's not the majority and minorities of anything often appear the most vocal and therefore making it seem like there are more than there is [such as with the radicals of any religion].

I believe at this point that my transdude son identifies mainly as gay, though his past dating and sexual history might suggest to some that he's straight. But I have to go with what he tells me now, and his story seems pretty credible to me, and he's been fairly open in sharing at least a general overview on how he has reached his current state of identity, and I've tried to be as open as possible with him, apart from whatever difficulties exist because of the parent-child dynamic. 

What I've seen over quite a few years of following online communities is that the population changes over time, and probably also varies depending on how welcoming and supportive a site happens to be. (I've encouraged him to sign on here, but tumblr is more his style, and he's also (rightly) focusing for now on trying to expand his range of contacts in face-to-face settings).

When I first found some of the earliest online trans forums, the population was overwhelmingly MTF, with a few brave FTMs expressing their frustrations that no one else like them was around. Now, similar in some ways to what's been observed lately by the medical pros, FTMs seem to be the majority.

One possible reason for a seeming imbalance could be that straight FTMs tend to have at least some existing support networks in RL that leave them much less time and inclination to spend time on forums?  This was probably also true back when there were very few FTMs of any flavor on such forums.  Just a guess, but one based in what I do know of the FTM generation of my age or older, and their sometimes awkward but generally profound connections to the lesbian community (or tangential to it... I suspect everyone has their own take on that?)

To keep things simple when I do transition,  I will probably just tell people that I'm straight.  I usually identify as a pansexual though but I feel like I'm more into women.

I don't know if it's just me but it seems like the majority of transguys are straight.

I don't know what I am now. I used to think that I was asexual. Now I am not sure and I am dating. She's trans, so that would be straight but perhaps it's a bit pan.

--Jay

Demisexual who leans more towards guys... currently have a girlfriend though.

Quote from: anibioman on February 10, 2013, 07:11:23 PM
im straight as well. i think most straight guys just dont talk about their sexuality on here.

This.

That's just because gay people love da internet and are always on it talking about e v e r y t h i n g.

I wonder if gay transpeople are more likely to join the site than straight transpeople.

I know 8 transguys IRL and only one of them is not straight. He is bisexual.