The majority of trans guys I know IRL are either exclusively attracted to women or primarily attracted to women. A few are mostly attracted to men but will sleep with women, too. Very few are attracted to men only. However, I've never done any kind of survey.

It does seem to me that if there's a gender identification portion of the brain that is left of center in trans people, then our sexuality locus might be affected as well--especially if the gender ID was influenced by fetal hormones and not something else.

I just like girls so I'm a straight transguy. Always were, always will be.

Quote from: Arch on February 17, 2013, 05:13:31 PM
The majority of trans guys I know IRL are either exclusively attracted to women or primarily attracted to women. A few are mostly attracted to men but will sleep with women, too. Very few are attracted to men only. However, I've never done any kind of survey.

It does seem to me that if there's a gender identification portion of the brain that is left of center in trans people, then our sexuality locus might be affected as well--especially if the gender ID was influenced by fetal hormones and not something else.

All of the trans guys I know in real life are straight or queer and prefer women.  I feel like the odd man out being gay.


Jay

I am 100% straight.I love woman,always have and always will.I have long before i even knew what being trans was.I let my family put into my head *something was wrong with me,i shouldnt feel that way* but i always felt straight and couldnt understand why or how.So i guess im in that 5% that isnt gay hahaha

well since we're just throwing out anecdotal statistics, I'll say that I'm the only gay trans guy out of seven in my support group. I have yet to meet another in real life.

Straight, 100%. I've only ever liked girls, it's been apparent since I was pretty young. I was surprised when I joined here how many gay transguys there are too. I was kinda under the impression most of us are straight. But yeah, minorities always get a voice on the internet, so that's probably why it seems like so many of us are more into dudes.

I'm actually more asexual than anything else. .__.

But whatever stirrings I do have are directed towards women. And I suspect that if I transitioned, I might graduate from asexual to official heterosexual -- a combination of T's libido-increasing effect, and no more embarrassment about having to pretend to be female for the sake of the people I'm dating.

i've met 4 trans guys in my life, and it was sort of half-and-half. two were straight, and the other two were pansexual. it could be my area though, i live in a very accepting place.

i'm personally attracted to just women, haha.

I know about 5 trans guys in real life; 2 of them are a gay couple, one of them is queer and dating a trans woman, one of them is asexual, and the last one's gay. So I'm unusual but not too much so for preferring women, though I'm not straight.

I would also argue that preference changes as you transition. Pre-T I had no interest in females what so ever I found them too be too bitchy and high maintenance and their bits disgusting.

Since I've been on T for 6 months I've developed more an attraction to females but when it comes to the opposite gender I still have a very small window of personalities I find even remotely attractive. Sexually, yeah there's definitely a bit more interest there now than there was but I still prefer men. I think I may swing more Bi with more time on T but right now I'd say I'm 15% interested in women, 85% interest in men, where as pre-T I was 0% women, 100% men.

The other thing is that if you are pre or early medical transition your body is a lot more ambigious. I don't know but as I have been going along I have identified a lot more strongly male than I used to. So saying I was "queer" wasn't really saying I was gay exactly but sort of admitting my ambigious state which I think still exits.

Sure this is all clear as mud.

--Jay

Jay,
I think I can see where you're coming from, I myself feel weird describing my interest in women and their interest in me as purely heterosexual, though it's certainly not "lesbian". I know a lot of trans guys would feel insulted if people were into them for the allegedly feminine aspects of their body, but for me I only feel threatened if guys do that (cis or trans, it doesn't matter.) Women are more likely to "get" the whole body image issue thing I think.

Quote from: Marion on February 26, 2013, 03:00:19 PM
Jay,
I think I can see where you're coming from, I myself feel weird describing my interest in women and their interest in me as purely heterosexual, though it's certainly not "lesbian". I know a lot of trans guys would feel insulted if people were into them for the allegedly feminine aspects of their body, but for me I only feel threatened if guys do that (cis or trans, it doesn't matter.) Women are more likely to "get" the whole body image issue thing I think.

I disagree. I've found that women can be just as bad as men -- they just approach it in a different way. Men will treat you like a sex object; women will pressure you into becoming a sex object. Straight women are the worst, because they think their heterosexuality makes it okay to grope you and tell you how ugly you are without make-up.

However, the context for the above is while I'm living as female. I'm not sure how differently people will treat me once I start transitioning.

Not sure which of us Jays (seem to be a few here) you were talking to but I think it was me. My girl friend certainly understands because she is trans. And the ambiguity goes both ways as she is only 2 years in. Also I identified as asexual before so I have changed in some way or other about all this. Queer works for me right now as I don't know what I am aspect I am attracted to and perhaps it is both (and might be vice versa as far as she is concerned).

I think even cis straight people are some mix of attributes so I suppose this is all one more interesting aspect of human sexuality. I think we are just enjoying it and not worrying too much about it, but we have talked about it.

BTW, I know that some women here do NOT identify as trans or mixed in any way. I'm not talking about you'all so relax. I am dating someone who embraces both sides and talks about it.


--Jay (one of the vast numbers of Jays here-- but not in my non-online life)

Quote from: aleon515 on February 26, 2013, 04:31:19 PM
--Jay (one of the vast numbers of Jays here-- but not in my non-online life)

Your new avatar has me thinking of you as Nittyboy.

Quote from: =celestica= on February 11, 2013, 09:30:17 PM
Maybe if they're a TRANS trans person.
Maybe they're a female who's actually male but is ACTUALLY female.
or maybe they're just stupid.

I love it.

I'm bisexual, but for ages I thought that if you were trans you had to be straight and therefore I wasn't trans because I knew that I liked guys.

At my trans youth group at least one of the trans guys is gay but I'm pretty sure some of the others are straight. It's as varied as it is with cis guys.

Quote from: girl you look fierce on May 13, 2013, 05:30:52 AM
Hmm, so why is everyone in real life straight but on the internet gay??

Does that mean... the internet is ~fabulous~??

I don't even know any gay PEOPLE IRL lately.

Maybe it's easier to come out on the internet? I know that for ages I was seen as a straight, cis girl irl and it was only on the internet that I talked about questioning my gender and came out as bi.

I certainly don't think the majority of transguys are gay, When I was first coming out I could NEVER find any gay transguys, All the guys I hung out with were all Into women and It made me feel... Uncomfortable.

I'm Asexual, A homoromantic asexual. (For those who don't know It's when you aren't sexually attracted to anyone/anything and usually aren't Interested In Intercourse, Blah) There's a wikipedia for that so I don't need to explain the whole thing.

I'm romantically attracted to boys and.. As harsh as It sounds I hardly get along with females. I tend to attract the very rude ones.

Here at Susan's I've been seeing a big variety In sexuality. Where I live, I'm the only Trans* I know of, Unfortunately so I wouldn't be able to judge on the real life part. Online I almost always see straights.

Actually it seems like the majority are asexual to me. This isn't nearly as common in the cis population either. Maybe trans people are just more prone to alternate sexualities. I'm bi btw.