Hi Cindy.
I think you points are very pertinent to the thread. The issue is the way these groups, treat their participants.
I more or less agree with you and certainly understand your points. Indeed I struggled for many years with the principal and the various ideas.
Here in the UK, the position, generally, tend to swing from the Orthopraxy of Islam and Hinduism, to the compartmentalism of the Anglicans/Episcopalians or the self satisfaction of the atheists. But the importance of these religions, especially in Scotland and Ireland is enormous.
The existence of religion in the modern era demonstrate that, as humans, we need guidelines. We need a measure by which we can judge ourselves and hopefully find our selves favorable.
I initially thought it was about hope. But of those that teach an afterlife, their followers almost invariably tend to see others as loosing out. They tend to each believe they will succeed.
That's important. Because it demonstrates why, effectively excommunicating an entire section of, otherwise, decent, good people is so utterly hurtful.
When Cardinal Ratzinger condemned Liberation Theology in the 1980s, seemingly in deference to the then US government, while continuing to encourage not dissimilar resistance in the Soviet Union and elsewhere, it seems to have created, (or did it simply highlight), huge numbers of disaffected former faithful.
Now I have spent a lot of time looking at the practices of the majority of proselytistic groups and in every case, they work the same way. They find weaknesses, contradictions, in the existing belief systems and seek to slowly undermine these, all the time, suggesting theirs is an alternative.
As communities are steadily alienated by the likes of the RCs, as and when they become inconvenient to whatever the current objective is, they become prey for those that seek to offer alternatives.
Gays and transgender people are being abandoned by the RCs. They are increasingly being made to feel that their very existence is shameful. Some will accept oppression, most I suspect won't. For them, they will seek alternatives.
There is a very real risk that they could become easy meat to those equally condeming of homosexuality, but more forgiving of past behaviour.
I just feel we need to reach out and tell those who have been treated in these way, they don't need to feel alone.