Hello, everybody! My name is Fernando, and I live in San Diego, CA. I am gay, but I feel genderqueer, being attracted to make-up and such. This may sound wierd, but I feel 100% "guy" and 10% genderqueer. I feel like I am more than gender. Pretty much, I feel like a guy, but I wear eye-shadow at school (everybody at school thinks it's so neat).

My father knows about me being gay, but my mother is still left in the dark. She is going through menopause, so I think it will devistate her . My parents do not know about me being genderqueer..

I look forward to talking to all of you.




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Hey, just thought id take it upon myself to say hello - there's not nearly enough guys on here. Glad at least one half of your parental unit knows 'something' and you trust them to do so.

Welcome and I look forward to talking to you also

   Welcome Fernando, I'm new here as well , so as a couple of "guys", perhaps we can  share some bonding.  But having been in your mom's position, I've got to warn ya that just because she's in menopause, doesn't mean she can't still love you for who you are, and respect your choices.

In my experience with people coming out to family, I've *generally* found female family members easier to talk to than males - though your milage may certainly differ - it's a real one-on-one thing.

But just because she's going through a natural stage of female life, isn't an excuse for either her (for not accepting you), or you for not telling her! 

You certainly know your family and it's members better than anyone, so do whatever is appropriate, but don't let concerns about things like menopause make you not share this important aspect of your life with her.

Scott
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Quote from: Nando on June 10, 2007, 12:46:52 AM

My father knows about me being gay, but my mother is still left in the dark. She is going through menopause, so I think it will devistate her . My parents do not know about me being genderqueer..

I look forward to talking to all of you.

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Welcome to Susan's!

Nothing wrong with guys liking a bit of makeup, some can pull it off really well.

If you have not already done so please read the site rules (see my sig down below) and if you have any questions, comments, or concerns let us know.

Hello Fernando and welcome to Susan's indeed!

Thank you for your introduction.  Please take a few moments to get familiar with the site, review the site rules, and take advantage of our many resources such as the wiki, chat, and the links listed at the main page.  We look forward to your future posts and participation.  Enjoy your stay at Susan's

tink

Welcome to the neighborhood.

I am sure you are going to have some fun while you are here.

Please be sure to read site rules as well

Hi, Nando. Welcome to the site.

Gennee

Welcome, Nando.

All kinds of dudes and dudettes here.  You'll fit right in.

Robyn

Welcome Nando (and Scott, in case I don't find your introduction post). Good to see more guys on here.

Dennis

Hi, Nando!  Welcome!!

I'm pleased to make your acquaintance!

hugs & smiles
Emelye

what's up Nando?  welcome bro

Hey Nando,
Good to meet you buddy, enjoy your stay.
Cheers.