I've read this whole thread with great interest. Very good thoughts and comments here.
I was born and raised in a very strict Pentecostal home and church... No TV, no makeup, short hair on the men, long hair on the women. Women could not wear pants, only long skirts and dresses... The whole gambit of repression.
I really got into it too. I was in music ministry as well as an ordained minister. I fought so hard to just be a man of God because I had been taught that homosexuality and efeminant men were an abomination.
When I was 25 a pastor in our organization came out as gay and my youth pastor and I took over his church.
I preached that man to hell every chance I got but all the while dying inside.
He went on to found an organization called Reconciling Pentecostals International which is an open and affirming organization for people of faith who are also GLBTQ
Long story short, when I came out I was excommunicated and defrocked. I have been to several churches since then, two were Methodist, one was church of Christ, another was non-denominational. I really liked the one Methodist church but one of the members who knew me before I transitioned outed me to the lead pastor and he basically told me I was not welcome there because I would make him look bad.
The others while not exactly being non welcoming just didn't feel right.
Still having a hunger for God and a desire to worship, I looked up the gay pastor I mentioned earlier. Turns out he had started a church only 40 minutes from my home.
I am now the administrative assistant/IT girl and drummer for his home church.
I'd call that pretty accepting. And Pentecostal is pretty main stream