I've had this idea in my head that I can't transition unless im in the right place. Like because I live in a conservative/republican state, with no LGBT protection laws that it simply can't be done with out losing employment, housing, friends, everything. I can't stop dwelling on this thought.

I have a therapist here and even a doctor that supports HRT therapy here. I've talked to people have transitioned well here too. Currently I don't have a job, and im having trouble getting interviews. Im not out of the closet, and I completely look like my birth gender. But this seems to be a fear I have that I can't seem to get over. That as soon as I come out of the closet all hell will break lose and i'll end up homeless or something.

But honestly how much does where you live really matter? If your in large  metro area in the United States that should be good enough right?Is this needless worrying?

Yeas, it does matter what state and city you live, and what you do for living.

Most of the top fortune 500 companies have TG/TS friendly policies and offer health insurances that cover SRS.

The attitude of the populations in the major metropolitan areas, specially those in the west coast, north Atlantic, and mid western states is in general positive towards TG/TS.


In Texas, I would stay in San Antonio or Austin (preferably Austin), and even Dallas, the rest...well..its if at best

http://money.cnn.com/magazines/fortune/fortune500/2012/full_list/

This is a great resources of companies and cities from a well vetted source

http://www.hrc.org/resources/entry/best-places-to-work-2012

In Oregon, TS/TG people are protected by law against discrimination.  And Portland is a great place to be trans*.

My S.O. and I are discussing a move in the coming years (when the local boom drives property values up - but before the bust), and Oregon is very much on our short list.

Well thanks for the replies. I don't know what I'll do. If I should move or stay.

Quote from: Jumpingcats on March 23, 2013, 06:30:12 PM
I've had this idea in my head that I can't transition unless im in the right place. Like because I live in a conservative/republican state, with no LGBT protection laws that it simply can't be done with out losing employment, housing, friends, everything. I can't stop dwelling on this thought.

I have a therapist here and even a doctor that supports HRT therapy here. I've talked to people have transitioned well here too. Currently I don't have a job, and im having trouble getting interviews. Im not out of the closet, and I completely look like my birth gender. But this seems to be a fear I have that I can't seem to get over. That as soon as I come out of the closet all hell will break lose and i'll end up homeless or something.

But honestly how much does where you live really matter? If your in large  metro area in the United States that should be good enough right?Is this needless worrying?

I know exactly what you mean. The college I'm attending has 2 transgender therapists on staff. So I know I can go there to start seriously dealing with this issue. But . . . I live in freaking kansas. Not just Kansas, but small town Kansas, about 2 hours away from the westboro batist church. And by small, I mean 450 people, with a bank, a gas station a post office, a bad restaraunt and a bar with slightly better food than the restaraunt and that's IT. There's no delivery anything, and UPS can't even find my house half the time. Cell phones don't work in town and we're darn lucky to have the one high speed internet providor that we do have.

I want more than anything just to even start transitioning. But I'm scared, really really scared, of how people in this little close minded place are going to react. and I'm not young. I'm 32. I feel like I'm pressed for time because I know the older you get the harder it is to transition. I want to move away, but I can't really afford to right now. I KNOW I would never find a job here. I just . . . I have no idea what to do. Even though the college is up in a larger town, I'm afrade to even set up an appointment for therapy that I know I need because I have no Idea what I'll do if someone sees me go in who knows me. So many people here know eachother and . . .

I'm scared.